I am a 20 yr old male in the final year of college..I went around with a girl for 2 years and i got really close to her..In the first two years she proposed to me but i was never sure and did not give an answer..After 2 years she joined a co-ed college and she completely changed..her attitude changed and she started making new guy friends..she started changing and she wanted me to change my thinking as well..But my possessiveness started increasing..I could not give wat she wanted and so she dint even mind to ditch me out of her life..We both know that we cant get married cus we had family problems..But still i was with her for two years and am jusn not able to forget her and the worse thing is that we both are in the same city and same college so it gets tougher for me..she says that its not a good idea to talk anymore cus she is scared that ill not be able to give her the undersatnding she wants..she behaves very rudely and keeps hurting me and i have begged her so many times..
2006-12-19 22:25:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, you should dump her and get a new girlfriend. Get a new life !!!
2006-12-19 22:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First-of-all let me call you an ***-Hole for begging. Never, ever do that especially with a female. My friend you will have to change your way of thinking…today there is no ownership in friendship, love or any other kind of relationship. So toss ‘possessiveness’ etc. out of your system, flow with the tide man, don’t try to swim against it…you will drown. In short just forget her, or maybe just play some games with her. Make new friends especially with females, (at the worst ask some females to pretend to be friendly with you) openly flirt with these females when she is around. Act as if something funny is being said about her and all of you guys burst out laughing etc. Ignore her completely at other times though you should behave as if you are the most happy guy on the planet. Tell all the guys she is moving around with that she is your ex. But you decided you deserved better…Be a man not a begging kid, who knows she may run back to you.
2006-12-19 23:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I want to ask you kids what does the word "propose" mean! Here people who take an oath before an altar cannot survived 2 years, you are just 20.
Grow up boy! She has and she does not want to tell you, so she is giving you mixed signals. Obviously she wants you to leave her. It is going to be difficult, but forgive her behaviour and forget her. Next year change your college!
If she missed out on you that is her problem, yaar!
2006-12-19 22:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by indiangal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing I can think of is to move on. She already mentioned that you would not be able to give her the understanding that she is looking for. Which to me is pretty much point blank stating that she wants to move on. She has also been hurting you and behaving rudely despite you asking her not to. This in itself is telling you to move on. She has been telling you for a while to just simply....move on. Let her go, it will benifit you mentally and it will help her get herself together. Then if you two are ment to be with eachother then you and her will meet back up. If not...then I would not worry, because in due time someone that truely will want to be with you will find you.
2006-12-19 22:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by kataklysmkamel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
never beg a women for anything she will never respect you.
you need to get your life back. It seems like you made your life hers. Your happiness depended on her being there.
It is wrong to think this way. If all this girl does is hurt you, you need to remove her from your thoughts and heart. She does'nt deserve to be there.
You can only love someone when you love yourself.
Get more involved in college widen your circle of friends, try new things, enjoy just being you!!
Don't let this girl destroy your happiness!!!
Get your life back and get some balls. Who wants to be married at 20 anyway, life is far too short, you should enjoy everyday likes its your last.
I really hope things work out for you.
2006-12-19 23:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Delete 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She doesn't sound very nice i think that you must move on. this could go to different ways. She could fall in love with you and ya'll live happily ever after or she will start getting meaner and meaner and then have her guy friends add on to... then the love of your life won't want anything to do with you for good.... so step back, relax, and realize that maybe she didn't hit her peek yet back when and now has and now wants to explore... you have to let her be that social butterfly... this will help her grow...
2006-12-19 23:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by fxysxysrkly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a common phenomenon in young boys of your age. Nature has built in mechanism to protect the identity of an indivisual.
Instead of brooding over past happenings, look ahed. You have a beautiful life to lead. Do not waste your life on a person who do not share your feelings. You have a long and thrilling life ahed. Try to make it sweet.
2006-12-19 23:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how difficult it is to forget a girl who has been with you for so long.....and it is natural, people never realise someone's value until so n' so is lost forever.....
I won't ask u 2 forget her this instant and find another girl....u know, it takes time...It takes time for the wound to get healed but still the scar remains..It remains to remind you so that in future u would be careful....Careful enough to protect a gem b4 its lost.
Her absence might hurt u, torment u.....but try to concentrate on other things.....Your friend might be lovely but there are lovelier things in life.....
2006-12-19 22:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont you see the message that is before you from her?
Time to forget this gal.
go out withsome one that is more stabel.
There are plenty out there waiting for you. Go out have a darn good time with others.
why live a dull life with this gal? get busy with some extra cirucular activities.
2006-12-19 22:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
may be she has just grown up and u remained as u were earlier.
human mind once stretched 2 new ideas cannot regain its original dimension they say. so instead of stayin together and both of you leading dull lives, may be you should dump her and find another interesting person or indulge in some other exciting activity.
2006-12-19 22:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by mousepad 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
see man u have to care and take the words of the people who care you love u and attend u.But u must not care the person who is ditching u insulting u and doesnt care u.
U can have many more ppl who love u.
and remember keep all the people who dont love u at ur left hand side.
there r enuf ppl to love u in this world.
2006-12-19 23:00:00 · answer #11 · answered by ChanIndian 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋