Does true love between 2 people even exist anymore?

Question

Why are people getting married and getting divorced in a short time later? I do not alow my emotions to ever go that far. I don't date and have never been married. I've seen too mush **** happen in my lifetime. It seems like these days people feel like they "have to be married". Or they have to be in a relationship. Its too much drama for me. I would rather be single for the rest of my life. So the Idea that you have to be married or be in a relationship is very much an illusion! I'm not gay and I don't date or marry. I have no reason to. People think they are too weak to make it on their own. Which is obviously not true!

Answer 1

Good for you.

Most are not that strong. Women give in to the dark side,..and men take advantage of the weakside.

Answer 2

People marry and divorce quickly now, and the statistics show that the trend is likely to increase for the foreseeable future. There are a number of reasons why people divorce.

Chief among them are that they have gotten into it too quickly, living in the modern, fast paced world has more or less given alot of people an "instant-noodle" mindset. They want something fast, and they want it easy. Marriage is arguably one of the most important decisions a person can make in his or her life. And most don't properly consider the dynamics of the relationship properly before jumping into it.

Once they are married, and they find that things aren't working out, rather then make the effort of salvaging the relationship, they choose to end it out of convinience. While some might argue that yes, they do make the effort, often times it isn't sufficient. The effort they put it stops short of real sacrifices, most choosing a rather selfish focus.

Additionally, people have the overly romantic concept of perfection, that there's someone out there, who's just right for him/her. This thinking is fundamentally flawed, the complexity of human nature is indicative enough that having someone who can complement you perfectly is going to be very remote. Even more so, is whether you'll ever meet such a person.

Further more, even if someone like that is found, people do change with time and experiences. Once again, when they find that they're not longer perfect for each other, rather then make themselves perfect for the other, they choose a divorce, the easy way out.

The most lasting relationships i've seen are those founded on acceptance and an unconditional love. This is interesting because of the unusual dynamics of the relationship, each person places the other first, paying minimal attention to their own needs, but because its reciprocated, the relationship is quite healthy. Further more they're constantly changing themselves to suit the other person, so they grow together as individuals as time goes by, nurturing each other, further cementing the bonds.

While yes, they do get into fights, that they place the other first usually results in the cause of the fight getting resolved quickly, and the wound quickly mend.

Lastly, while i do agree that a person is capable of being independant, good relationships are nurturing, giving a person a set of tools and a framework of support that he or she might not have on her own. Thereby allowing a person to live a more fruitful life.

Answer 3

I agree that people marry and divorce too quickly. I have been married twice. My first marriage lasting 1 day, and my second lasting 2 years. I am currently in a relationship with a wonderful guy, and I would not marry him for anything. This way, every day when I wake up and he is beside me I know that he is there because he wants to be and not from some sense of obligation or because of a piece of paper. Good luck with where ever your life takes you!

Answer 4

Yes it does.

The reason why some people get marry and get divorce in a short time later is maybe, they are to young for a relationship. I think its better you are over 30 when you get marry and I think it is important, that you live together for a while before.

Answer 5

This might sound crazy to you, but I used to be like that too until life taught me a few things and God explained it to me through His Word. First of all, the only true eternal love we can have is for God alone. All the popular songs, poems, books about love etc.. describe a need for love that only God can fill because He is a miracle worker. Only a miracle can foster true, eternal love. However, we look for this kind of love from finite, human beings who are just as full of faults, envy, lonely, unsatiable, weak, and selfish as we are if we could be invisible and see them act on their own. No one can give you the kind of love you seek because no one has it in them, not even you or me. HOWEVER, take an imperfect human being as me or as yourself, let God take over your life, and your yearning for such companionship will diminish tremendously. If you ask God to choose a partner for you, and if it is His will that you marry, you will then be the happiest person on earth. HOWEVER, even this love, perfect as it sounds, will not be the same in the afterlife, for there is no male, nor female, neither marrying, nor giving in marriage: Mat 22:30 For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven. So what does that tell you about your earthly relationship compared to the heavenly one if you both make it? Can you see that we will all be different beings in the afterlife? Beings with different pursuits, desires, and needs? Our time here, on this earth, this life, is just temporary - our pursuits, desires, and needs are also temporary. That's why a human being is never content with present relationships, money, achievements, etc... We were not made to be content with just THIS life. We were made to develop all our talents, take advantage of all opportunities to do good, and rest assured that in the eternal life, our accomplishments then will not leave us as empty as our accomplishments now. Yet we will continue to build upon them with great satisfaction. Stop looking for love in all the wrong places and let God take care of things - even your happiness. You won't regret it. ADDITIONAL DETAILS: Love is not an ideal, it's a principle that will permit you to have a great relationship, even through trial and tribulation. A parent can love a child even though that child is acting in a most ungodly fashion. That's pretty close to true love.

Answer 6

If you base your judgements on what happens around you,you will not even step out of the house because youre afraid you will have an accident or something.Life is tough,sometimes even tougher on other people.So when u find the right person and get swept off your feet by them you wont even know when your geeting married

Answer 7

You may not have ever been in love before.If not,then you cannot speak honestly on the subject.Once you are,maybe you will have a softer heart.Don't have to have romance,just make sure you give your love to somebody or others.You're not the only one who needs it, ya know.There are alot of lonely people in this world.I hope you surrender and stop being so angry all the time.I'll pray for you.

Answer 8

You're not dating, not intending to get married, no friendship and so forth. I think this is a wrong approach to life. Life's about sharing - giving and take. I hope you're not planning to be the Robinson Crusole of our time.

Answer 9

I am glad that you are strong. I can make on my own too, but I have found my soulmate. Have you ever thought that you might be missing out on something terrific? Good luck

Answer 10

sometimes you just think that when things go wrong but you will know when there is love between 2 people if there nt u will find some special