He says he found someone and is going hiking with them in the morning. I have not been the best wife eighter. Sould I just let it go?
2006-12-19 21:57:10 · 21 answers · asked by Marie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-12-19 22:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, very interesting. I don't exactly understand your question. So, your husband was out at a bar (not a problem) and then he decided he wanted to go hiking (okay?) and some how between him being in a bar and deciding to go hiking, he said that you were not the best wife? Uhm? Why did he say that? You type like you are drunk. Sober up and have a calm conversation with your lover.
On another note, I found my husband (to be) in a bar. It's how we met! Of course, I tell everyone we met at church though. Hehe. >;)
2006-12-19 23:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
coyote'uglies are what is met in bars----next morning you're wanting to gnaw your arm off to get away from the ugly.
You're trying to guilt yourself for your spouses' poor choices. Why don't you put on your hiking boots and go with him. Once those boots are on----tell him you're going to kick his a$$ and the other person's too. Don't let it go.. You need to let him know up front and personal that you do not approve of him taking another person------out to the woods hiking.
Beat him at his own game. Like I said put those hiking boots on and join in the Party !!!
2006-12-19 22:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much time you and he have invested in the marriage. You and your husband need to sit down and try to calmly talk about it. Start with " Do you want to save us?" and go from there. Make your minds up and then do the best you can, whichever way you guys decide to go. I understand how you are feeling. I walked in on my ex more than once. And, thats why he's an X! Good luck and I hope only the best for you!!
2006-12-19 22:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends by what your definition of not being a good wife is, in my view you have the answer to your own question deep down inside you. Just in case you have forgotten, the words to your sacred vows here is a reminder for you, it goes like something like this "for better or for worse........richer or for poorer....sickness ......until death do us part. Those words in my view are as sacred as life itself, marriage is not a vocation or a past-time, it is the mainstay of our social institution. That is why it is wise not to make a hasty decision when it comes to matters of marriage, for marriage is a convenant between a man and a woman in the presence of God, Allah or what ever name your religious preference decides to call Him, who is most High and all Powerful. To just let a wife or a husband go, just because it is not convenient to our wishes any longer is to undermine the sacred institution of marriage, the only thing left that distinguishes human beings from animals. But the decision is yours to make asyou see fit. lol
2006-12-19 22:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by bitterlemonexperience 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a tough thing to happen this time of the year. Hang in there and get some moral support from a girlfriend or family. Depending on how long you have been married, you should think about what comes next. You need to get with him and discuss all of this. Take care of yourself.
2006-12-19 23:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't start blaming yourself for your selfish husbands actions.
You'll be better off without him!!!1
Throw all his stuff out, change the locks, open a bottle of wine and invite a few girlfriends around and spend the time bitching about men.
You'll feel a whole lot better!!!
2006-12-19 22:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by Delete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hun..im used to those kinds of things...I woked in the strip club industry and let me tell you that you are lucky he told you... alot of men out there are telling me and other girls "how much they love their wives but how much for a night or to go out with them for a few drinks,,,,ive seen and heard it all.
Let him go and tell him to have fun he deserves it...and although you will be dying inside...when he gets back just say how happy you are to see him ...let him know tht you had made mistakes to and your not oing to give him a hardtime about it because obviously if he is still with you..he did not gfive you one for what you had done..
good luck and stay calm..remember..you are just as quilty.
dont give up, but dont try and win either....(right away that is)
2006-12-19 22:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by akak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry for you dear.
have a good talk with him, he could be just going to the bar for some drinks.
if he is hooked up, then leave him. reality can be hard and unavoidable at times.
2006-12-19 22:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be a better and more attentive wife from now on. Then, he will try to be a better husband and will have no desire for anyone other than you!
2006-12-19 22:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with that ... do you think he is gay, or are you worried he will become a human Popsicle, like the idiots on Mount Hood?
2006-12-19 22:00:58 · answer #11 · answered by bone_daddys_waitress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋