He was friends with her and then they got very close and he says things happened the affair carried on for 1 year.We are married for 4 years with a one year old child now he wants to make it work
i dont know what to do He also did the same thing to me before we where married
2006-12-19 21:14:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds like a dirty rotten cheater and you should probably re-evaluate your feelings for him before he hurts you again. How can you trust this man at all now? I know it will be hard because you have a baby to consider but do you really want your child to grow up in a household where with this going on??
Once a cheater always a cheater, im afraid, and the fact that he's done this twice now proves that point - he wont change, he cant change.
Good luck to you - please think about the child
2006-12-19 21:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by вℓαмє_¢αиα∂α 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why did you make the mistake of marrying him in the first place when you discovered who he was even b4 the marriage. Some ladies could be desperate to get married and only have their eyes opened after the marriage when it is too late. You cheating back on him is not the solution, just commit everything to God in prayer and see the wonder He would do on your behalf, cos He is the only that can help you there is no amount or kind of advice from humans that can help now, only GOD.
Cheers.
2006-12-19 21:53:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on u once he'll do it again. I did the same in reverse w/ an old boyfriend of 8 yrs I cheated in him with a one night stand & another on the side. I broke it off after 8 months w/ on the side guy. Ex boyfriend talked & relaized that our relationship was over. We both didn't know how to end it but also didn't feel the same way as begining I was ready for marriage he wasn't! 2 Mo after Brake up met second ex boyfriend we dated 3 yrs were engaged then he left his cell @ home he borrowed mine. While he was @ work he phone rang & I answered it another girl who he met on the internet was calling him to set up another date for the following weekend. Said they has been seeing each other for 2 months. He told her we were over I told her we were engaged!!
When he got home (4 am) asked him what was going on he admitted cheating. It was over I called my ex & appolygized for cheating. 4 mo later met my husband been married 2 1/2 yrs!! No cheating! After I did cheat or 1 night stand felt lower than dirt
!! I havn't cheated since 1st ex. Don't want to either!!
I suggust talk to him & tell him stragth out too little too late!! He can't have u just because she doesn't want him anymore!! He can't have his cake & eat it too!!
2006-12-19 21:37:54 · answer #3 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. This is the second time he has cheated, you forgave him the first time gave him a second chance and married him. Then he cheated again! Personally, I would be moving on and forgiving him from a distance. Sorry for his luck, you deserve to be treated with respect. And hopefully, he will figure it all out before the next relationship he ruins. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-19 21:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's into polygamy, with or without realizing it. Why are you even considering staying? You do have options, you know. Like, for example, leaving him. He doesn't respect the boundaries of marriage. Or chooses not to. Divorce him before he pulls you into some **** to make you want to stay. His cheating will always be in the back of your mind, not to mention he's a serial cheater. Leave, for your own sanity.
2006-12-19 21:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by Toni 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Now it is up to you. Do you want to continue being belittled by him. He has now done it for the 2nd time, and it wont stop there. Because he WILL do it again. When they get away with it, they carry on because they know they can. Boot him out, and teach him a damn good lesson. If you let him treat you like "crap", then you are just as guilty.
2006-12-19 21:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kevon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all... why would u marry someone if he cheated u... all i acn say is this... Now u have a 1 year old son... give him a last chance.... he has to be good to u.... self respect is worth dieing for.... first of all.... i hope ur financially independant... if not , get a job.... never let some1 feel ur at fault for a mistake they make... he married u... what would he do if u cheated on u... think about that.... go to a marrige councellor....
2006-12-19 21:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he did it to you before and you are surprised he is doing it again?
go figure
why did you even marry him?
makes me wonder what is wrong with people nowadays
i stick my hand in the fire and it hurts, but i will do it again because i don't think straight or something?
i would think he was having an afair with a friend and not an enemy
2006-12-19 21:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once as cheater always a cheater... if he cheat he don't want it to work so you can only go on what you have seen in the past so... make the right decision for your child... also he needs to explain to you why he cheats then asks you to marry him and cheats again... that is BS
2006-12-19 23:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by fxysxysrkly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will cause you a lot of pain if you stay with him.It is only a coward who cheating on his wife and kid.Leave him you deserve better.He will never stop cheating.He will probably said it now and do it but over a couple years he will do it again.
2006-12-19 21:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by cecilia_kriel 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋