2006-12-19 19:40:23 · 13 answers · asked by Merisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
During the past three months before all this happened, had you not already grown to love and cherish that baby growing inside you?
Your husband has done a terrible thing, and I know you must be confused and scared. In such despair, you're probably not thinking clearly. Please don't make a rash decision and do something you may regret for the rest of your life. There are agencies that will help single, pregnant women. Check with social services or check to see if there is a crisis pregnancy center in your area. You can get financial and medical help if you will only seek it.
A baby is a gift from God. There are many women out there who can't even have a baby who would love to adopt yours if you feel you can't care for it. Please think this through very carefully. An abortion would emotionally scar you, and it would be such a sad waste of precious life. I'll be praying for you!
2006-12-19 21:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can have an abortion up until 24 weeks pregnant, but most clinics do not preform abortions after 15 weeks. I had an abortion at 14 weeks and 6 days pregnant. Obviously, it has an effect on your body and you, but if done properly by a well trained physician and without complications and you are 100% sure about your decision, abortion generally does not have any long term physical or psychological effects. Do not believe the horror stories and lies about abortion! As soon as your body heals from the procedure and your hormones get back into place, you should be fine.
If you are more pregnant that that and know that you cannot take care of this baby on your own or have personal issues with abortion, you should look into adoption. The adoption situation is especially positive if you are white and in good health, but even still, newborns are generally still better off than most unwanted children as long as your not heavy drinker or drug user and the child is born free of genetic defects. Good luck!
2006-12-19 20:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Huh?! I'm not sure what you're asking, since you're not speaking English very well. You're three months pregnant, and that should be enough for you. It's not fair to the baby to terminate the pregnancy, no matter WHAT your husband may have done. If he "disapared" or disappeared, so what?! Was he the sole reason for having a baby, for creating a new life? Apparently not, since he left. Have the baby -- he or she has done nothing to be killed. If YOU don't want to keep it, there are MANY people out there who would LOVE to have it. Give it a chance. No abortion, please.
2006-12-19 19:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by michigaunder 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you can still have an abortion if you act NOW. They do have late term abortions...which will cost you LOTs of money. If you cant emotionally and financially support that, then i am glad to say that i am a pro-choice being. I understand that you are hurt that your husband left you with no recourse or way of surviving with his child. He is a sick man for doing that to you, and i totally understand why you would like to seek an abortion. How it will affect you emotionally, i do not know. But i do know that abortions, if done correctly by a professional is safe and effective. Depending on if this is your first abortion or not, if you've had more than one abortion, the chances of you having a healthy child in the future may not be so good. abortions damage you, if you use it as a means of "birth control"...but anyway, that isn't the point..i don't know what area you live in, but if you contact your local planned parenthood clinic, they may be able to tell you where the nearest location you can obtain an abortion. Good luck and act now if you are seriously considering it.
Either way, if you decide to have the child, local clinics can help you with prenatal care and the like to ensure your baby is born healthy. Another option you may like to choose is adoption if you are in that serious of a financial burden that you can not take care of him/her.
2006-12-19 20:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You want an abortion because your husband left? Let me tell you something, my daughter's father did the same thing, but I chose to keep my baby and it was the best decision I ever made. There are places you can go for support and you still have your family and friends. Please think long a hard before you make a mistake. What if you have an abortion and you meet someone else that you love and you can't have children with him because you ruined your body now. Please don't do this.
2006-12-19 20:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes an abortion will cause problems later for u, the guilt will get u. u still have your child, he did not take that. the child is much more important than the husband. don't take out on the child what the father did to u, that is so wrong.
2006-12-20 08:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with what detts said. Its late now anyway...rarely do they ever let people have abortions from 3months onwards..the baby is to developed. You might be going through a tough patch now, but its not worth losing your baby over..be strong, keep your head up and there is help out there everywhere if you need it. Good luck honey:)
2006-12-19 19:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It will affect you for ur whole life. This is ur baby and more important than everything ur husband took from u. This baby will bring u more luck in life and please do not get abortion, its God will for u and everything has solution is some other way. Think positive and get more assitance from any social organizer to help you solve this problem.
2006-12-19 19:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by lisairis 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well thats really bad! but i guess you should keep the baby, no matter what the circumstances were coz its a sin to do abortion! don't worry and good luck!
2006-12-19 20:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by LiLi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u can show him how u still can live with a baby even if he goes away..just take it as a challenge and dont try abortions..u ll feel happpy once u hav ur baby..
2006-12-19 19:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by For peace 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋