Can you be transgender and have a heterosexual sexual orientation?

Question

I know there's straight men who cross dress, I'm trying to understand transgenderism. OK, Is there heterosexual men who live as women because they feel like a woman but they like to have relationships with women? Thank you for your response.

Answer 1

Yes, absolutely! Although it is a tricky subject. Remember- if the guy is transgender, then he doesn't completely consider himself a male, at least in the typical sense known by our society, so it's hard to pin down his sexual orientation when his gender doesn't have a real name. But technically, if he is transgender and likes women, then he is heterosexual. If, however, he is transsexual, and feels like a woman and likes to have relationships with women, then 'his' gender identity is actually female, and the relationship would best be described as lesbian, which happens quite often- there are a lot of lesbian transwomen.

Just to give you a little brushing up on the basics:

Transgendered: individuals who feel that they are not one of the two dichotomous genders (male or female). They may feel they are a mixture of male and female, neither, or a 'third gender' that is totally different. Transgenders often include masculine women, feminine men, and so on, although there are some people who look 'normal' (whatever that means), but can still identify as transgender in their minds. They, like transvestites, are completely happy in their bodies- they do not want to change them at all, just acknolwedge that they aren't entirely men or women in the way we currently define men and women.

Not to be confused with 'transsexual', meaning:

Transsexual: a person who has gender dysphoria (feels they have been born in the wrong body) and takes hormones and undergoes surgery to change their sex. Sometimes transgendered people may later become transsexuals, and transsexuals may, after surgery, be transgender (i.e. if a man transitioned to a woman, she may be happier as a woman, but still know that she's not quite right as a female, either- look up Kate Bornstein for a good example of this). Some transsexuals never do get on hormones or have surgery, and they are called non-operative, and while they may seem no different than transgenders, they are, because they feel trapped in the wrong body, but choose not to rectify it for any number of reasons, often including the high cost.

Hope that helps!

Answer 2

I consider all transgender and transsexual people as the gender they would like to become, not their birth gender. So if you mean heterosexual by their birth gender, that would impossible in my view.. because if you were born a male, are a transsexual female and are attracted to females, I would consider you a lesbian. However if you are attracted to males, I would consider that heterosexual.

There is however a difference between the actual definitions of transgender and transsexual, I'm not sure if you knew that or not..

A transgender is a person who lives as the opposite of their birth gender, but does NOT intend to alter their body surgically.

A transsexual person is a person who has or does intend to physically change their body to how they feel they are.

Either way, I would say.. Most definitely yes.

Answer 3

Being a cross dresser has nothing to do with being heterosexual or homosexual. For the compulsive cross dresser it just means that he feels a NEED to wear women's clothes. When he does then he gets a feeling of well-being, pleasure, self-gratification and self-identity. This is because his brain is releasing a series of neurotransmitters that are both powerful and addictive. If he should try to stop, he will find that its nearly impossible and returns - - often worst off than when he started.

So, the cross dresser will get a "high" from cross dressing, and he will try harder and harder to get a higher "high". He will work hard at the proper (ultra-feminine) image. He will create a female alter-ego of himself. He will give "her" a name. Eventually he will fall in love with his alter-ego. When he is in his 40's he will experience a life crisis. He will take greater risks with cross dressing. He may consider surgery to look more feminine. He may consider going female, 24/7.

If he is married his wife will complain that she feels like his second love. His children will be taught to keep "daddy's secret" or risk the ridicule from their friends. Often he will leave his wife and kids to pursue his first love. If he does not gain some control over his cross dressing then it will control him.

Answer 4

I started out physically male and mentally female. I'm attracted to women. I now live as a lesbian woman. With the wide variety of sexualities and gender identities, there's an insane amount of possible combinations. I'm sure some transpeople do consider themselves straight.

Answer 5

Yup, there are men out there who are transgender but still want to have relationships with women. I remember I once saw a show about that. From what i've learnt so far, most men like that feel that they're more in touch with their sensitive, feminine side than their masculine side...their more in tune with female characteristics so they live like women..but they're still straight. I guess since they feel like they were meant to be born as a female, its kind-a like being a bisexual woman.

Answer 6

Yes you can. I was straight when I was a guy, and I was a lesbian for awhile early in my transition. I still prefer women over men, even after the sex change operation. I know quite a few transsexuals who identify as lesbian. Transgender people can be of any sexual orientation.

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Answer 7

I am what I am
I am my own special creation
So come take a look
Give me the hook
Or the ovation
It's my world
That I want to have a little pride
My world
And it's not a place I have to hide in
Life's not worth a dam
Till I can say
I am what I am

Answer 8

Yes, there are.

Some men just feel that they are women on the inside, but are still attracted to women. There are books on the subject at your local bookstore in the womens studies or (if you're lucky enough to have one) LGBT section.

Answer 9

Yes it is very possible. I am a crossdresser and love to wear women's clothing. I am also happily married to a woman whom is the only person that I have slept with.

Answer 10

Straight.