m a type of guy whos reticent,shy,thoughtful,sensitive,etc n who finds it vry difficult to get along wit others.most of d tyme i stay confined to myslf but at times loneliness bites,i wanna go out n talk wit some fren but der's no true fren in my life so i get vry sad n depressd.hoe do i get along wit othr guys?i dont
2006-12-19 18:08:00 · 4 answers · asked by adam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I suffered from the same problem for years! I could never communicate with anyone, everyone thought I was different, I tried hard to mingle with people and behave like them. This happened till I was in college and when I started working. After that I realised something about myself. I am different I have unique talents, I am good and if I am good I will find friends. Chat with everyone, be happy, BUT BE YOURSELF! Sometimes people like that about you.
I dont have a single friend even today, but that does not affect me I have created a personal relationship with my God. I call Him "abba father" Someone who can and will understand me thourougly even if no one does. Try this you will notice that dependency on people will go and you will begin to feel renewed from within.
If you have friends you have to change yourself to suit their requirements, that is how friends are nowadays. You will be forced to do things because of peer pressure. How much of that is acceptable to you????
YES, true friends are a rare commodity these days and many a times people like us dont find friends, because we already have a special friend who is waiting for us to open our eyes and see him!
2006-12-19 22:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by indiangal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends do exist, you just need to know where to look.
College will be tough coz there is obviously so many macho football beer drinking types. (which you obviously dont sound like)
You will have to take the initiative and go and join something. Hey, noone is going to come knocking on your door. (well, they might - but probally just to borrow something!)
Computer club? Chess club? Book club? What are your interests. Anything academic and there will probally be guys like you.
How about volunteering a few hours a week? Only kind sensitive types would volunteer.
Part time job?
Church?
What about making friends with girls?
I know you said you are shy, but a lot of people are! Theres probally someone just like you, looking for a friend like you, but too shy to do anything about it! Go and find that person!!!
2006-12-20 02:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to class, meet people who are studying the same thing you are. Roommates are never your best friends, it's impossible to spend that much time around each other and still want to hang out. They are friendly furniture. You need outside friends. The more you leave the house and are out with other friends, the more you'll get along with your roommates. Maybe get a job and just smile and joke - be your real self - and see who laughs back at your jokes. It takes time, but you will make friends.
2006-12-20 02:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by 101pupil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all I can say is just be yourself and dont try too hard to make people like you. some will like you and some just won't that's life.
2006-12-20 02:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋