my father didn't like if i have bf.
but i love my bf very much...!!!!
my father said if i wanna with my bf,
i must married with my b right now,
or my father will knock out my bf from my life...
may be my father will send me to study in far place,
without acces to telp or e-mail my bf....
help me please......:(
2006-12-19 18:05:23 · 22 answers · asked by maryamok_haris 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello there, I suspect you are not from the USA or Canada, because here it is acceptable for 16 year old girls to have a boy friend and when they get older they can choose their own husbands.
I think your father is trying to protect you, but don't get married at 16, I think that would be a disaster.
Maybe you could speak to your boy friend and tell him what your father says and don't contact or see him for a while. Finish your education.
Good Luck!
2006-12-20 01:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I am not sure. In some cultures, 16 is not an unreasonable age to get married. In most, however, it does seem young.
I guess part of my concern is that this would dramatically change your future.
I know it seems like a long time right now until you are an adult, but it's only a couple of years. Consider putting things on hold for now. If it really is love, it will still be love in 2 years.
2006-12-20 02:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anon Tom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor guy, with wise father, except do not marry bf for whatever reason. You will get pregnant, not finish your education, and be another statistic in a poor country somewhere. But you will not realize this till you are around 30 years old and look back at yourself at what you could have done if you have studied instead of getting married and pregnant.
2006-12-20 02:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by Big C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to have to say no on this one, your still 16 and have a lot to learn about love and what you want in a man/husband. There is no need to marry someone b/c your father says he's going to take him out of your life if you dont marry him. That's a little extreme for not wanting your 16 year old daughter not to date
2006-12-20 02:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 17 and had just graduated from high school, my fiance and I wanted to move in together and marry after college. My parents didn't approve of living together before marriage, so we got moved the wedding date up. We thought, oh well, we're going to get married anyway, and they're just papers. We still would have gotten married, even if it would have been a year or two later. If your boyfriend is the one you want to be with, and he knows he wants to be with you, then I would go for getting married. Maintaining relationships with our families is more important than the wedding date.
2006-12-20 02:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by quiiora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Plz don't hesitate your boys friends ok. 16 is not the correct age to marry. Tell to ur dad that Girls should not be married at the age of 16. if we do that means it will decrease ur withstanding power in ur body. Only at the age of 21-23 girls should get marry. if u like to roam with ur boy friend means roam with him without the father's advice. but be sure that don't have any negative thougths which may affects ur father ok. Plz don't get marry at the age of 16.
This is Bhaskar From India
2006-12-20 02:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by Vijay Baskar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad is out of his mind getting married at 16.I would talk to your bf about this but I wouldn't get married just because your father said to you are suppose to date to find the right person for you .You don't marry the first one you think you are in love with thats just plain stupid.My advice is finish school before you decide to get married.....
2006-12-20 02:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're far too young to be thinking about marriage. You and your BF need to enjoy each other youth. Patience is a virtue. Good luck
2006-12-20 02:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by Wannabefree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too young to get married, you have your whole life ahead of you, your fasther is right in part but wrong in the other. sex leads to babies and babies lead to single parent. I am keeping it real with you, you are young if you get pregnant by this guy he will leave you sooner or later and you will be stuck with the baby by yourself. That's why ur daddy said get married before you have sex.
2006-12-20 02:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by notty montana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmm dont get married yet! It might seem like life or death situation, but trust meeh... he's not the only one out there. So try to work it out but dont rush anything.
2006-12-20 02:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Luvly ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋