i need to be more open but how?

Question

i need to talk my mind
i dont tell everything very openly
i think of what i shd talk but when i stand in front of that person i am dumb i cant talk
i start shivering and sweating i cannot speak
i cant even bring out the topic
i cant even talk to my best friends
what shd i do
how can i change

Answer 1

I used to be really shy, but now I'm not. One thing I just tell myself is, "You only live once, don't miss out on any opportunities, what's the worse they can do, say no?"

Example. A group of girls I work with and I were having lunch and next to us was a table of the hottest NHL hockey players you could ever lay your eyes on. I though, "HOW HOW HOW can I talk to them?" They got up to leave, I knew I had to say something, I said, "Excuseme" and one of them stopped and looked at me and I said, "Hi, I was just wondering if we could have a picture with you guys" and I thought LAME LAME LAME! Is that the BEST you could come up with! They are NHL'ers they probably think you're so dumb for asking! The guy noticed the other guys were already kinda walking away and I said, "I'm sorry, I realize some people don't like having their pictures taken" and he said, "That's alright, I'd love to, but we really need to be getting someplace right now" I answered, "That's ok, I jsut thought you were all so hot and I wanted a picture, I'll just take a mental note of all your yummines" I realized I sounded like a LOSER but didn't really matter... MEl, one of the girls after was like, "Did you know that guy???" "No?" "What did you say to him?" "Told him he was hot" "I thought you knew him!" "Nope" so to me I was feeling like a COMPLETE idiot, whereas the girl across the table thought I was the smoothest person around! She said I looked like I knew what I was talking about and blah blah.

You only live once - so speak your mind - in all honesty - what IS the worse that could happen?

Answer 2

understanding what i understand approximately you and your son, i might say i may be happy with it, yet like monkeykitty83 reported, enable them to understand the way you got here upon the touch information first so it does not seem stalkerish (no longer saying you're, i wish you already know what I mean). basically questioning nonetheless... how lots does he understand approximately you? Have they instructed him the clarification why you relinquished? i'm questioning if the quantity of touch must be in line with how he feels approximately it. Like if he's on the point the place he needs to understand you or if he's indignant, something alongside those strains. Then the different difficulty you reported in the past... his sisters. Does he understand approximately them? i will understand the way it quite is killing you yet i think of it is going to must be at his p.c... The worst that could take place is they say no. he would be 18 in some years and he would be loose to hunt for you as he needs. good success. i wish everybody would be open to the assumption.

Answer 3

Your worrying to much about what people think about "YOU". Be you and just say what is on your mind, don't worry so much about what someone ells thinks. You are entitled to your opinion, and are no less smart because your opinion differs from others. There are lots of classes, books you could read that would all help you with this, but the most important thing you need to do, is get some confidence in yourself. Stop worrying what people think, your opinion matters too. Good luck.

Answer 4

You are monitoring your words and lacking in confidence. Try being silent and listening to them. Try asking questions that you are truly interested in.. that way it gets them to speak and you can get involved in a reciprocal conversation.
Silence can be good. You have the advantage of LISTENING (and make sure you really are) and you seem mysterious (lol).
Don't forget.. this isn't about you and you are not on stage. Be more interested in what's being said and jump in when you feel you have an opinion.
You are no different than anyone else and this isn't a competiton. We all have the same hangups..

good luck and don't change anything... you seem nice.

Answer 5

Yeah I kind of have the same problem as you. Social anxiety me thinks, I can handle group conversations fine, but one on one I just lose it and have no idea what to say, so I just blurt out something stupid. I get so jealous of people who are able to talk so well, speak their mind - hey that's just the way I am, and you can't really change yourself, but relaxing does help.

Answer 6

Your just nervous because you probably like the person,but have a problem getting things out into words. Just be yourself. When you are shy try to get over it and say, What is on your mind?

Answer 7

Phobia can cause many things and you only needs to open up and say what is on your mind, being careful not to hurt another feelings of course. Just use discretion in the matter. Because when we hold things inside and do not let our feelings or emotion go then it harvor a hurt within us.

Answer 8

You are a human.
Have lots of qualities. Think about your qualities. What you can do in a best way.

Then try to see the same qualities in other people. Some will have them but some will not. Try to show your qualities to the people. Talk to them about the qualities you have.

Then start upgrading yurself (with more qualities). Talk about them.

Answer 9

sounds to me that you have an anxiety problem or a fear of public speaking. You may even fear that your friends or whomever your talking to may think your dumb for saying whatever it is you have to say. I know that its easier to write someone than to actually speak to them face to face but it means more and is more personal when you speak to someone face to face. You may have to see a professional about this, or look into researching anxiety and calling and talking to a nurse or dr about it.

Answer 10

You probably have an anxiety problem, seek help from a medical professional.