2006-12-19 17:50:28 · 10 answers · asked by Tina 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Dont make this an issue at the beginning of your relations. Trust is mutually built. It is not something we make an effort to have. Deal with people, and open your heart BUT be reasonably cautious. Day after day, you will learn wt it means to be truth-worthy, and you will know what you need in a person to put your trust in.
2006-12-22 20:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Only a smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off great question. The first part is only something you can answer. What you trust and who you trust it to is based on your personality.
Testing someones ability to be certified as trustable isn't all that hard. If the individual tells you deep personal thing effortlessly you cannot trust them. It is something developed with time. If you can read lies from a persons body you can tell weather they are real or put up a big front.
I can tell a liar a lot more easier than I could a few years ago. The trick is to know it when you see it and remember it. And remember to follow a persons way of expressing themselves individually.
If they seem too excited, angry, avoidant all can be cover ups or justifications for lying. You have to really spend time with the individual to know this correctly and to get a keen eye.
Knowing people is not an easy task. Most people talk about the whether a B.S. The best thing is to penetrate their likes and hobbies. This will let them talk about something they are knowledgeable and comfortably speaking and give you a huge trace as to who they are. Be a good listener and don't voice too much or too little and you will hear the person for who they are. If you want their trust give them a little info about you as well.
If the person trusts you with too much info too quickly they may have an underlying motive. They are inpatient and may want you sexually, to take advantage of you, to get some sufficing on an emotion, for lack of personality, or are just gullible fools. These people do not know value only it's interpretations to others. For that you cannot trust them.
Have balance and a steady pace. If something seems unusual it's probably because it is.
2006-12-20 15:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by obscure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't know them 100%. But neither can they know you; nor can you know yourself fully. (You do have subconscious forces at work that you don't control.)
It's not an easy thing to trust other people. You are taking a risk doing that. It does take inner strength to deal with the people who will let you down or take advantage of you. You will either have to face them directly after the fact, or turn to trust someone else - who may also let you down.
But if and when you are let down or taken advantage of you can build up your strength by facing them with the truth and your personal convictions. (This also leads them to be a stronger friend when they learn they can trust you to hold them accountable to being strong individuals - though this does not happen a whole lot; some people just like to skate through life and not grow strong relationships.)
Then again, if you want to go the extreme route, you can form a soccer club and crash your plane into the Andes Mountains and ...well... watch the movie and maybe take your friends to a rather large rock-climbing place or somewhere where there are real dangers and you must trust one another. If you're out in the wilderness for a week with few supplies and you must rely upon each others wits, then that is also an effective way to learn.
One of the problems with today's society is that there are few situations that need our complete trust in other individuals. We blow by making our 15-dollars-an-hour and rush home to idle away our night. There's no risk in that. Risk is what the wild animals are out there living with every day.
"You learn something about living every day. If you're not learning how to live, then you're learning how not to live." -me
Reach down deep, girl. This is evidence that you have little strength in you. But - there is good luck - even oak trees start with a small seed. Find the small seed within you. (Trust me - I know. I'm looking for my seed as well.)
2006-12-20 03:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by sincere12_26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not bother about trusting someboby from nothing, start by trusting your self. try to know who you are, what is good and bad for you, how much you respect your values and the like. this way you can devlop your self and will build your own measurment to talk about somebody.
2006-12-20 03:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by shasho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never 100% trust in anybody. A lot of people are so unreliable, especially in my lifetime.
2006-12-20 01:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask a lot of questions. Most people are flattered and thrilled to talk about themselves. Just Ask.
2006-12-20 02:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not easy, not easy. you got to hang out with them a lot and trust your instincts. if it seems suspicious, don't give them your full trust.
2006-12-20 01:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by wearetheggman86 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
spending time with them in many differenty environments. Look for contradictions in behavior. Take your time and have fun getting to know them. Dont get to attached until they have proved themselves trustworthy....time is the key.
2006-12-20 01:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kathryn W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by the time ...don't give them alot ..just wait.. the bad people can not stand for a long time ...
2006-12-20 01:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Rose Bridge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Never ever.
If you give your trust away, it is usually abused.
Don't ever forget that.
2006-12-20 01:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋