What are the benefits and drawbacks of doing FREE-SEX? ...OR being ABSTINENCE? All before marriage...?

Question

I know there are pros and conts about this issues, that's why I want to anayze these rationally.

Anybody's here daring enough to defend its argument here?

PS: Please be rational and respect the other's answers! I don't want to start emotional insults or offensive comments or any "religious" POV here. Just logical and rational opinion as your answer. Thank you all!

Answer 1

my rationale of this topic,
if you should save yourself for the one you marry,
you have your peace of mind which is priceless
when it comes to wondering if you have std's, some i have been told sterilize a guy and when you meet ms. right and want kids then its a heartbreak and past experiences wasnt worth that or a
woman pregnant that you barely knew. this rationale is passed on to teenagers who question there beliefs and intentions.

as far as and adult, the pros no std's, no women pregnant.
it says something highly about your integrity if you havent slept with every women that you seen.

and if you should get married to a woman that IS experienced,
let her teach you, being a student and learning has never been so
educational and fun....hot for teacher anyone

Answer 2

It's a false dichotomy. Those are the two extremes- Having sex with whomever whenever, or not at all.

I think the reasonable thing to do is have sex when it means something, and you know the other person well, and it's what you both want to do. That's far from a free-love attitude.

But I would not want to marry someone I had not yet had sex with.
In other words, I don't believe in marriage before sex.
It's just one thing, but it's a major part of an adult relationship and if you go into marriage a virgin, you have not had any chance to find out what you do and don't like; and settle on someone sexually compatible. It's probably not a good idea to marry the first person you fall in love with, either. I take marriage seriously. It SHOULD be for the rest of your life. If you're getting married at 17- no one really knows anything about the world at 17, even if they think they've got it all figured out. You don't know who you might be at 27, and your judgment is clouded by the idealism of young love.

And I would not even go on a first date with someone who believed in abstinence until marriage. Not because I'm "impatient", not because I'm "only in it for the sex," but because I have no time for her ignorant medieval mindset and do not want to be a part of her tedious, narrow-minded, "faith-based" reality. Sorry.

Marriage is nothing magical. There seems to be an attitude among the abstinence pushers that condoms are fallible, but a wedding ring is perfect protection against STDs. Married people still cheat and sleep around, and the divorce rate is still about 50%. An unmarried couple can be just as loving and monogamous.

Abstinence until marriage made a lot of sense back when people got married at 12 or 13- it was a nonissue. Now it makes more sense to get married in your mid to late 20s- and it doesn't make sense to stay chaste for that long- nor does it make sense to get involved in lots of oral, anal, and manual sex in the meantime and convince yourself that "it doesn't count."
A friend-of-a-friend who went to a Christian college noticed that everyone there was rushing into marriage at a young age, and she suspected it was just because they badly wanted to start having sex but didn't want it to be sinful. Obviously that's what is going to happen, and I doubt those marriages are going to be very strong ones.

Answer 3

Drawback./Benefit.. going into a relationship/marriage with NO previous Experience... Once you get the hang of it, Sex Should be GREAT... since you have nothing to compare it to..
. you'll not have any high/low Expectations for the new spouse to measure up to.

That's just what immediately came to mind. lots of other points for each side... this one however interestingly enough, Can be turned around enough to fit both categories.

what by the way,,, did you mean by
FREE-SEX?

Answer 4

Not everyone believes in waiting for marriage. If you don't then you need to be safe for yourself and your partner. You need to realize that your potential partner may have had more than one partner. In a way you are having sex not only with that person, but with their past partners as well.

Answer 5

Abstinence:

You both bring something new into the marriage, and share something with each other that you've never shared with anyone else. Also, no chance for pre-marital pregnancy. And pre-marital sex can ruin a relationship.

Answer 6

Practice makes perfect.