What's marriage life like?

Question

Is it as dreadful as they all say it is?

Answer 1

It's like living inside a fence. What is inside the fence is up to you. There are fences around prisons, and fences around Disneyland.

Answer 2

Marriage life is great. You must just make sure that you work at the relationship. The day you stop working at it, your life will slowly turn into living hell. People who stopped working at the relationship are the ones who tell you all the dreadful stories.

When I say working at it, I realy mean keeping the "romance" of when you were dating alive. Buy flowers for no reason at all, write a note telling her how much you love her and pop it into her lunchbox, stick it on her cars window, wrap it around her shampoo bottle etc. There don't have to be an occasion to celebrate something, just do it. Stop in the middle of a shopping centre/mall and say " I realy like you a lot" and see the reaction. Cook dinner and serve it by candle light, bring coffee in bed etc.

Time alone together is very important. If you have kids, go away on a weekend without them once or twice a year. Make alone time together.

All this sound stupid, but it works, and at a grand scale that you can't imagine.

It realy also help if you are married to a "friend" and not only to your "fantasy girl". Friendship will last forever but beauty dies away and the special bond required to make a marraige work with it.

Answer 3

Hi there !!!
Marriage life is very complex, but I believe it is not as dreadful as people paint it out to be.

We are all so different, imagine living with someone that has been raised with different rules, and imagine if cultures, religion and other things come into play, which they usually do, now the secret is to first of all get to know someone really well BEFORE we get married. Marriage is a commitment, and should not be taken lightly. We should also not be so touchy with our partner. We should not be fast to judge , but listen , really listen.

We should put ourselves in our partners position, not be in the offensive when we converse.
WE should give each other space

Marriage is the joining of two souls , that find themselves sharing this wonderful journey we call life together, learning, making mistakes, paving the future for generations to come.

Happy holidays,
and may you have a wonderful marriage if you are married and if you are not may you find love and marriage and have wonderful life experiences together

llove light and peace

Answer 4

Marriage can be a wonderful experience or a dreadful existence at the same time. It is a constantly changing living creation. As with anything that develops over time what you get out of it depends entirely on what both partners put in to it. Unfortunately even if one partner puts everything good it to it, if the other puts only bad then eventually it will wither and die. It has to be a conscious effort on the part of both parties to cultivate a lasting and loving relationship.

Answer 5

Marriage is as dreadful as you make it. For me it has been awesome... not meaning that everything has been perfect. It is the hardest...but easiest thing I've ever done in my life. It is hard to be married. It is no longer what you want... it is what you both want and what is best for the situation. I'd always heard it was a fifty-fifty thing...WRONG!!! Marriage is 100% of you and 100% of your partner 100% of the time. Loving my husband is easy. We talk all the time. We have learned to laugh at minor mistakes on both parts and discuss (not argue) the bigger issues. We PLAY... and not necessarily in a sexual way. Romance and sex are very important factors... but you have to base you marriage on more than that. We are coming up on our first anniversary and we are happier now than the day we wed. It is all in way you want your marriage to be. Also, don't forget to tell each other that you love one another. It is VERY important for both to hear.

Answer 6

I love being married. I just remember what it's like to be withought.
We have our fights. Which are different than most people. Marriage is a union. It cannot not be made perfect withought God. sometimes me and my spouse forget that. In the end when we mature and grow up an stop being selfish we can both enjoy each other. Allot of marriage problems can arise from selfishness and from lack of communicaton and even honesty. There are other factors bu when you get the help you need for you you can overcome many issues.Fighting is what helps us to analyze our problems and to study what we did wrong and what we should do different. Recap if 2 people are very not selfish than your problems minimize. guess what it's a full time job. But I fought more with my parents. Jesus be with you as you make your descions

Answer 7

Married life's torture or enjoyability entirely depends on the two people who are married and their attitudes toward one another. It can be heaven or it can be hell. More often it is somewhere inbetween, but more toward the hell side of the spectrum.

My marriage was a living hell. My ex-wife used to micro-manage every little thing about my life and try to be my supervisor instead of my spouse. She was a terribly miserable human being who was never happy about anything. If she opened her mouth, it was either to shovel fatty foods in it, or to complain. When I commented on the latter, she would tell me that complaining was part of her charm.

Don't get married until you see that you are very compatible with someone. You can never, ever really know another person, but you can tell if their attitudes mix well with your own.

Don't make the mistake I made. Be careful.

Answer 8

I'm not gonna lie to ya, marriage is work. I've been married 2 years, and it's definitely a work in progress. There are good days and there are bad days. Sometimes there are REALLY bad days and REALLY good days. You determine the outcome. You determine your happiness.Sometimes all you need to do is change your outlook. Determine to make it work and find contentment. It may take a couple trys, but you'll find it if you want it bad enough.

Answer 9

Nice to have history with someone, only deadful if you make a wrong choice. I am married he is kind and thoughful and sweet.
No one ever changes anyone. Have a life happy hunting for the right person..bye good night.

Answer 10

married life is no different to how life would be if you were just living together, unless the person your living with is possesive. The plus side is if he cheats on you you get your share of the possessions or vice versa !! lol

Life is what you make it, a peice of paper can't change everything.

Answer 11

It can be dreadful or it can be pleasant. TWO people make a marriage what it is.