a Friend in need indeed!what should I do??!?

Question

I am a really caring guy and there is this girl I like, We are both sophmores and have known each other a long time and we both know we like each other. She is mostly "anti touch " she was when I met her and for alittle while after. but we have grown closer and i really like her, but I think she will not like to hold hands or hug, and I respect her so I don't. even though I am a more touchy kind of guy. and I mean with everybody I always love hugs any time from most anyone.SO WHAT SHOULD i DO TO GROW CLOSTER IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. and I want mature answers, and please do not mention sex I am saving that for marraige.

Answer 1

k just think do u want to ruin a good relationship with your friend to become bf and gf? if you do and you want to take your relationship to the next level (start going out) then just ask her out and eventually she will loosen up a bit and you to will start hugging then holding hand and so on just give it time.

Answer 2

I used to never like hugs or when other people touched me. I would be like, why is this person touching me, it's creeping me out. Since my b/f pointed it out to me, I've tried to get better. I can now hug friends and family without a problem. It's still awkward when acquaintances try to hug me though. Some people just need more physical space than others. I dunno why, because my family always hugged me growing up. You could try asking her about it? But if she doesn't feel comfortable with you touching her, don't push it. Some people just aren't touchy-feely type people. It won't harm your relationship at all just because you can't hug her. Instead of hugging her, you could try just inter-locking arms or doing the "friend-side hug." My friend invented the friend side hug term for me because I thought hugging random people was weird. It's just a quick one armed sort of pat on the back.

Answer 3

Sounds like to me she has some hang up that may not be going away soon if at all. There is no way a girl that finds a guy attractive is not going to want to hold hands. Ask yourself why you are willing to put so much effort in this relationship (do you like the challenge of "changing her") May I suggest you just be friends with her and find a more friendly girl friend.

Answer 4

Well, start out slow. Start asking her out on dates, but don't hold her hand until she start growing a little more comfortable around you enough to engage in the 'touchy' subjects. Take the initiative in maybe 'asking' her? Oh, I respect that no sex until marriage.

Answer 5

wow i totally respect your values and morals and all that. i'm a sophmore too and you are a rare type of guy that girls crave, my friend. maybe she's confused with the signals you send, especially if you're not gf/bf yet. usually only if you're with someone do you hold hands. Ask her out! i'm sure she'd love to go out with someone as caring as you sound

Answer 6

In my opinion, relationships are about sacrifices and synergy. You should just respect her wishes. After a while, she might not be so much anti-touch. Remember that people are different so if they don't want you to do some thing don't do it.

Answer 7

you just wait..she'll change into a touchy kinda gal after you two have been dating or seeing each other for a while..her anti-touch characteristic will eventually fade if she finds that she can trust you that you wouldn't do anything to harm her or in mild terms, break her heart..

Answer 8

stay with her if you love her! ur relationship will grow!
i was a girl like her once!
eventually she will grow to feel more comfortable with you. go slow and respect her how u are now!
start by holding her hand then after a while move to hugs, then to kisses on the cheek and who knows.. maybe u'll kiss her one day!
if ur really worried bout it, think about talking to her about it.
you might be suprised.
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Answer 9

patience is a virtue my friend. wait for her to make moves.

Answer 10

your chasing a ghost .