Would you please honestly answer how frequently you and your partner really have sex? My hubby and I average once a month... if that! I hear everyone talking about twice a week or more, even after years and years of marriage, and I was wondering if they're all being truthful or just providing me with the status quo safe answer? Please be honest. i know it's a personal question... but have you ever experienced what I'm going through? Thanks.
2006-12-19 17:11:19 · 14 answers · asked by Jenna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See honey, its not the frequency that matters but rather it depends on your needs and satiation. For some even daily is not enough but some can go on for days. In my case we never plan and we never even consider it. Sometimes it happens thrice a week and sometimes it doesn't happen in a fortnight also. I guess you should be bale to get it when you really want it and thats what matters after all.
2006-12-19 18:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by Flirtatious Wiz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we have been together for 7 years and we average at about 4 times a week maybe more.I find that sometimes I am bored but I do things to keep it spicey.Spontaneous sex is a must.When you need it or crave it there is nothing wrong with letting him know you do.You can message me on yahoo and we can chat some more about it.We have gone through bouts where I have not been in the mood but I find that the longer I go with out the more I want him.If that does not work then go back to what made you feel sexy before you met him.For me I flirt and I tell him all about it when I come home....among other things.All in all I find that if you mix things up it can help.....there are many other things you can do.It is understandable that with daily life,kids etc it can get a repeatitive and sex can become unappealing at times.I just have a feeling you guys are in a funk right now and I think you can pull yourselves out if that is what you want.I hope this helps you
2006-12-20 01:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by hotchocolatecherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd be surprised how common this problem is. I think it has to do with the hustle and bustle of everyday responsible life. I've noticed the older the relationship gets, the less sex there is. And that's not to mention that neither partner are frigid and want sex quite healthily. Unfortunately, I suffer from this homewrecking mistress also. I can have a ***** that can thrash & crumble buildings, but she wants no part of it. She actually treats it as an annoying chore. That has killed it for blue boy....I've been married 7 years, sex is not like riding a bike, and I'm a studly 35 yr old, I only see it once a month also.... wish I new this coming into it.
2006-12-20 11:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by HARDBALZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married to the most wonderful woman in the world for 33 yrs this dec. 23rd. We dont belileve in the averages. We make love as often as we want. With the kids grown and away it is nice to be able to have sex whenever and wherever in the house we want. If I had to say a number it would be at least 4 times a week. Sometimes more sometimes less depending on our mood. And yes sometimes even 2 or 3 times a day still if we are really feeling frisky. So if it is kids holding you back make a date night. But always make time for loving one another. But make it your average not someone elses. Hope this helps. Dont get hung up on the quantity. Make the quality most important.
2006-12-20 03:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by frnzcallmebub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I don't meet the 5 years or more mark (3.5 years) but we have been together over 7 years. We have sex 1x a week on average, and it's usually on the weekend (not that spontaneous). The longest we ever go without is probably 3 weeks, and that might happen 3 or 4 times a year. Also, we don't have kids yet, if that matters.
2006-12-20 01:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by MARIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been with my husband 8 years and we still have sex at least 2 times per week. it would be more but we have 2 small children and i work 3rd shift so I'm only home 2-3 nights per week. i know a lot of my friends that have been married a couple years and hardly ever have sex!! are you happy with once a month? if not , i think it's up to both of you to take the initiative.
2006-12-20 01:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by bef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was married, in fifth year it averaged about 5 times/week and by the 9th it was about every other day on average...mostly due to having children and working too much. In any case, we never went longer than 2 days without making love, exceptions were illnesses or menstruation periods.
2006-12-20 01:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by curtf1964 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
married 11 years...
We have sex at least 2-3 times a week if not more.
The least we ever had sex was when we were both working and he was working OT on top of his normal hours so..it was once a week.
My suggestion is to talk to him about it. Your Partner could be tired working on a project at work, stress, etc. Lots of things.
Just tell him how you feel trust me you will feel better and I bet he will too..
2006-12-20 01:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-20 14:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mike A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I am going through the same thing and we have been married six years only we averege 1 time every 3 months so your not the only one. And i am only 26 years old
2006-12-20 11:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋