2006-12-19 17:10:22 · 22 answers · asked by tomcattommyboy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If I had an affair and wanted to prove that she is the beautiful sun that begins my day and the bright shining moon that lights my nights...
2006-12-19 17:17:03 · update #1
I have to tell you that this is going to be tough. Your wife loved and adored you like no other or else she wouldn't have been with you for 11 years. Yeah sure times get tough and people forget or life gets in the way. You betrayed her and did the worst thing a man can do to his wife. What is it you think she needs? You know what the right gift to get her would be. She needs you to be there for her, to be honest, do things for her, show her you love her and that you know it was a mistake. I am sure you will have a lot of explaining to do, tons of questions to answer, periods of extreme anger from her, but if she is worth it then you will have to pay the price for your betrayal. After all you did take your wedding vows seriously didn't you? To love, honor and obey. I don't think you were loving or honoring her by destroying her life. If you really want to make this right then you would have to work your as@ off to let her know you care. You can't go back to your old ways and have to stay on top of your game. Get back to church and repent for your sin, repent to your wife and rededicate your life to the Lord and to her. Put your all into this. Good luck and I hope it works out with you. It will be a long hard road but you can do it if you want to and are willing to. God bless you and your wife.
2006-12-20 08:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-05 21:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love never fades away.. the bond only gets stronger by years..
The best gift is happiness, time for each other, understanding, affection and care...........
The time u spend with each other matters the most.. it can be a simple and touchy affair at home.......... buy a nice fragrant bouquet, a delicious cake, a nice gift (a sexy lingerie), order or rather cook a nice meal for just two of u (favourite dishes), decorate ur bedroom with nice scented candles and put flowers all across the bed......... (keep it closed), put on some light romantic music......... and propose her again after so many years....... the idea is u remember her in the same old way as u had 11 years ago...
Just do it and who knows it wud be an affair to remember a lifetime and the most expensive gift u ever gave...............
2006-12-19 18:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by sushmita n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all i respect humans who can love like you.
I would suggest you to present her as the same person whom she started loving 11 yrs ago. Dress in the manner you dressed in those days, recollect sweet memories of togetherness and most importantly tell her that SHE IS STILL AND WILL ALWAYS BE THE GREAEST GIFT GOD HAS PRESENTED U WITH. Tell her how much u love her, as u seem to be really romantic gift her with some of own romantic lines or a poetry.
U can also visit ur honeymoon place and take her to a candle light dinner at her favourite restuarant.
See there is so much u can do but be sure to present her with more love from a better u.
2006-12-20 05:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by anneshan04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wife of six years speaking. If you ask her point blank what she really, truly wants, first off she will be amazed that you are asking. Then get that.
The other option, especially if she is a mom, is my all-time favorite - a trip to a day spa. Go to spafinder.com and search for spas in your area. Set her up with a massage and facial, and by all means tell her that you will take the kids to the park, do the laundry, whatever reason she may give for not having time for a spa trip. The weight of responsibility removed from her shoulders, having a set-in-stone date on which her "job" is to get pampered... just imagine the ways in which she could thank you.
2006-12-19 17:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by 101pupil 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take her on a cruise, fly to Hawaii, or special travel agency vacation voucher in which she can choose her dream vacation. Make it closer to home if there's budget constraints. Let her plan it and go along happily with everything she wants to do like she truly is the queen of your hearts. Besides, adultery is expensive so you should sacrifice and go all out by way of being both penitant and grateful to her for putting up with you!
2006-12-19 17:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by Lovin' Mary's Lamb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we too married 11 years.
First. I hope you apologized and are doing everything you can to gain her trust back. It wil take a couple years for her to come around.
..she feels second now..she always thought she was the only one, and that she would always be..until the day she found out. Now she feels second. She feels as though her whole life has changed. I bet she loves you and that is what hurts the most that they person you loved betrayed you..I know how she feels..
I bet you are teary eyed reading this..which you should be..
She needs romance..romance her like that gal you cheated on her with. go back to when you two were dating or your first year of marriage. I know you can remember. What was the most important date? What was it that made it so great? recreate something or use one of those memories to create a new memory.
My husband took me out when I moved back in..He took me out to dinner, had a bottle of wine with our meal. (we lived in vegas then) He held my hand every chance he got. He was a gentlemen the entire time, (helped with my coat, pulled out my chair, opened the car door). After dinner he suggested we walk on the strip. he stopped at the water fountain looking at it. He kissed me in front of that fountain, a kiss like the ones I use to get from him when we were dating. he kept looking in my eyes the entire night with the little half smile he makes the in love look..I remember that night because he won me over again..
that was years ago..(4th year of marriage)
2006-12-19 18:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about starting a photo album with pictures of the two of you from every year and start collecting one for each year from now on. I think it is nice to receive, form the one you love, a present that's put together.
2006-12-19 17:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by angelfalls 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Type up - or write - in other words, make it look pretty - 11 reasons why you love her - and frame it. Then thank her for 11 wonderful years as her husband.
2006-12-19 17:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by karespromise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Big beautiful DIAMONDS_ earrings - necklace- ring- she will adore it- and know you put a lot of thought into it- and a homemade card for a back rub, foot rub, dinner, laundry done, and sex at her command-Merry Christmas-D
2006-12-19 17:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋