My wonderful baby goes to sleep & wakes up crying. I cannot put him down for more than a few minutes or he will cry. My mother says to let him cry but I can't stand to hear my little man cry like that, he will cry endlessly if not picked up and hugged. He gets so upset that he is soaked with sweat and his bottom lip quivers! I can't stand to see his lip quiver... He is a very light sleeper and only sleeps for about an hour. I love holding and bonding with my baby but I also have to wash some laundry and take a shower every once in a while. Will this behavior end soon? Any suggestions? He is breastfed, eats well, and is healthy other than a little gas every once in a while.
2006-12-19 16:51:48 · 11 answers · asked by misszoozoo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
he is still getting used to living outside his mama. he wants you close so he can feel your heartbeat and your breathing. I highly recommend "The Happiest Baby on the Block" They have it in book and DVD form. The techniques are fabulous. My son had colic for 2 months and that book was a life saver.
You don't need to let him cry. Now is the time to teach him that you can be trusted to meet his needs. Do you have a sling or soft carrier you can "wear" him in? Then you can get things done while he naps near mama's comforting presence. For showers, I would suggest a swing or bouncy seat. Even put a seat in the bathroom and get a clear shower curtain.
Trust me independence cannot be rushed and will develop more thoroughly in a baby that has first learned trust!
2006-12-19 17:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Terrible Threes 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the others, look into what you areeating that mau cause tummy pin. Also, good for you for trusting your gut and not letting him just cry it out. I think that him learning that when he cries you will be there is a GOOD thing! Shouldn't we be teaching our babies that we are there for them?
I highly recommend getting a good sling or carrier. I loved my Kangaroo Korner Adjustable Fleece Pouch when my son was that little. A Mei Tai is also great, and later an Ergo. I get so much more done around the house. My 9 month old is in one now, in fact, while I sit on my yoga ball and bounce him to sleep. Nice, because the ones listed above have nice styles that even my husband will wear.
2006-12-20 01:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That "little bit of gas" is probably more than you think. Since you are breastfeeding, I would suggest blanding down your diet. Something you are eating is giving the little guy gas pains. Laying down hurts more, because the gas can't escape. Picking him up and cuddling him, encourages the gas to rise out of his stomach, and he'll burp.
You need to start seriously burping him after his feedings. Also, try laying him stomach down on a heating pad set on low, well wrapped in a folded towel (the heating pad, not the baby). The warmth may soothe him and help him expel the gas easier. Don't leave him there for the night, but use this anytime you need to do laundry or shower or cook.
Something else that seems to work well are baby swings. You prop him up with lots of receiving blankets rolled into tubes. The upright stance and the constant motion helps him expel gas.
2006-12-20 01:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have colic? If he's colicky, there is nothing that you can do but comfort him.
I agree somewhat with mom, you do need to let them cry sometimes. If you run and pick them up every time they whimper, he will expect it all of the time and never be able to comfort himself. The reason he is a light sleeper may be because you do pick him up at the slightest peep. So letting him cry some may be the right thing to do. I remember hearing a doctor on TV telling moms NOT to pick up baby when he cries. He advised that you go into the room, check to make sure that he is dry and okay. Talk to him in soothing tones and rub his back or tummy and let him calm himself some, then leave the room and let him fuss. Wait a bit, 10 to 15 minutes and then go back in again if he is still fussing and do the same soothing thing. Still, don't pick him up. You may have to keep this up for a few nights and he should begin learning to comfort himself and be able to put himself back to sleep. It's hard to listen to them cry, but you also don't want him to be such a light sleeper that he can't get a good nights sleep.
2006-12-20 01:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you heard about the 5 S's? Read the book THE HAPPIEST BABY ON THE BLOCK, by Dr. Harvey Karp (Check it out at the library if you don't want to buy it) "parents who are at their wits' ends because of a baby's incessant crying will find this book invaluable"
It has worked WONDERS for my son (he is now 4 mths old). I swear by it, and I will give it as a gift at every baby shower from now on!
If you can't get the book (try hard to get it though,) here is a brief description of what the book tells you.
The 5 S's (The New Way to Calm Crying and Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Longer )
1. Swaddling (with a regular blanket, or an actual swaddle me Adjustable Infant Wrap , which is a special wrapping blanket with velcro. My son still gets swaddled at 4 mths old, and he loves it)
2. side/stomach position
3. shhh sounds (white noise-I use static on the radio, turned up as loud as a vac cleaner)
4. swinging (in a swing or your arms. more like jiggling your baby like jello-NOT SHAKING, just gentle jiggling)
5. sucking (your breast, your finger, his own finger, or a binky)
Good luck to you. This will pass, and remember that there is nothing wrong with letting your baby cry. My dr told me that as long as you can see him, and you don't let him cry REALLY hard for longer than 30 mins, it's ok to let them cry sometimes.
I hope this helps
2006-12-20 01:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by Kellbell 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
6 weeks thats all thats adorable my son is 7 months but he is still not used to the outside world just think in less than a day his whole understanding of life was takin away he doesnt have the protection of the whom and he misses it.....my son was a preemie so this might be a little different cuz i got him home at 8 weeks but the crankiness ended around 4 months and he slept through the night it wont be much longer your son sounds sooo adorable especially the little lip thing awww wow okay lol sorry but ya it will end pretty soon!!!!! congrats!!
2006-12-20 03:44:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably just hot, tired and wishes he was back in your tummy where he didnt have any worries. it might be an idea to talk to your doc or child health nurse just in case besides a professional will put your mind at ease alot better than any of us can...
2006-12-20 04:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be getting colic. He also could be learning that if he cry and gets upset you will pick him up a hold him. Have you tried playing light music while he sleeps?
2006-12-20 00:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe he has gas and his tummy hurts. Or maybe, like the other poster said, he's learning that if he cries, mommy will come hold him and cuddle him:)
2006-12-20 01:02:30 · answer #9 · answered by a person 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your baby may have colic which will definitely make him crabby. Here are some links to help you.
http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/baby/babyills/colic/77.html
http://www.babycenter.com/expert/baby/babyills/colic/3160.html
2006-12-20 01:02:46 · answer #10 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋