2006-12-19 16:38:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is the reason for Passiveness and aggressiveness between the couples. The reasons for this are various, but I would say mainly it is because of egoism. If both of them or even one of them understand this and and also foresee the complications the life will be smooth. The egoism should be killed and there should be give and take policy. Couple should talk to each other and analise the reasons without any acrimony. For both (especially in young couple) this is the important stage in their life and overcoming any rift is very essential otherwise the life of both will be ruined. Wives have given their chastity and accommodated the wishes of husband and for this the husband should forgoe something which will be liked by wives. This are my personal views the reasons cannot be beyond my observations. -
ADDIONALLY, the follwoing web link elaborates the resons for rift and how to deal with passive and aggressive spouse. Since it is very big I am unable to reproduce it here. Please see-
http://www.passiveaggressive.homestead.com/Links.html
- There are different headings in this link please serch for to deal with a passive-aggressive spouse and you will get the details-
Best of luck.-
2006-12-19 18:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was married to one too and had to divorce him. He was nice but was always doing things. Such as, not being there when he said he would, taking me out on his boat and ruining the day somehow by making the boat break down for hours, losing his sunglasses and cussing and hunting for them for hours, saying little things like it was innocent knowing it would upset me, lying and sneaking around, and I realized every time we went anywhere to have fun or take a trip to a resort he would have some major problem that would ruin everything and everyone around him would be made miserable by him.
These people seem so harmless and nice on the surface.
But they are insane. You see that everything they do turns out to be horrible. They sabotage everything. They deliberately make others around them miserable in very ingenious ways while pretending to be nice harmless guys. You can't change this deeply ingrained behaivior pattern. All you can do is leave if you want the misery in your life to end.
I see some here are not familiar with this psychiatric term.
It means a hidden aggression in someone. The person is nice on the surface and acts like he wouldn't hurt a fly. But he does things that make the other person unhappy and acts like it is an accident. It is no accident. You notice that things always go wrong with this person and it is always in a way the makes you very unhappy. Every encounter with a passive-aggressive individual can turn into a nightmare and it takes a while to realize that this person is actually doing things, causing things to happen, to make things go wrong so that others will be unhappy.
They are in permanent revenge mode, but it is just a way of life for them.
2006-12-22 20:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can change someone. I also think passive aggressive is very common behavior, which I absolutely hate. I think people are passive aggressive when they don't have the confidence to say what's on their mind(simplistically speaking) and speaking to him or her may not solve that.
2006-12-19 16:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swati
me too have same question, but what i think is best tht u ignore him completely for ur needs, he will change.All man like to be wanted and and prayed to! so let him enjoy that untill he gets bored of that.
Then He ll want to be loved , which will be easier !!!
By that time enjoy your empty time here and make lots of friends.
We all are going through something similar dont worry!
2006-12-19 23:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by sheetal always 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for asking this question... I didn't quite know what you meant so I looked it up,,,Guess what? I show several of the signs mentioned on the web sight www.mcg.edu/students/mentalhealth/PAbehavior.htm
I'm going to see my doctor about this. i know that I was no help to you. You, on the other hand, really helped me tonight!
2006-12-19 17:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Adrienne C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be kind, peaceful, and patient. Try to make her understand
2006-12-19 16:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by Choco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just accept the person for who he or she is.
2006-12-19 16:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by arc* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have a friend point it out..not the wife
2006-12-19 16:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CANT CHANGE ANY ONE EXCEPT YOURSELF TRY TO CHANGE YOUR REACTION TO THINGS BE AS PEACEFUL AS YOU CAN AND MAYBE IF THEY DONT GET REACTIONS THEY WILL GROW UP TOO
2006-12-19 17:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart to heart talk with him or her.
2006-12-19 16:40:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋