whats the best age to have a baby?

Question

I have a strong inborn drive telling me to be a mom, but my question is when? Its been on my mind since I was fourteen (Im 17) and I love the thought of a baby. Who can tell me what the ideal age is and if taking b.c. over years affects your ability to concieve?

Answer 1

I know exactly how you feel, i have wanted a baby since i was 14 too. I am now 19 almost 20 and i think it is time for me. I know it will be hard but since when is life easy!! You just need to make sure that you have plenty of support and especially your partner might need to agree. Good luck and feel free to email me if you have any more questions about it. I want to be a mummy too.

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Answer 2

Well let's see i was on the depo shot for 3 years and once i stopped taking it i became pregnant within a year. My son was a planned pregnancy. I had hime when i was 21 and looking back i could have waited cause 21 is young.
Are you missing out on something ike the love from a parent or attention? Do you think having a child will feel a void in your heart?
I don't think teenagers should be having babies because they are babies themselves.

Are you ready to have a baby and put your life on hold for the next 18 years? Are you ready to be changing diapers and tending to a crying baby while all your friends are out having fun? What if you get pregnant and your boyfriend leaves you? Are you doing this for a boy?

Love the thought of a baby when you get older. You have years to get pregnant so why not live your life right now and go to school and do all of what you want.

What is it inside of you wanting to have a baby since the age of 14?
But however i am not you so it is your decision if you want to so good luck.

Answer 3

It's not about age. It's about what you can/can't provide. Do you have a house of your own (Mom and dad won't want a screaming newborn around!)? A job that provides enough money for a family? Can you provide a baby with a loving, two parent enviroment? (I'm not slamming single mothers, but it's not ideal.) Will a child get in the way of completing high school/higher education?

I, like you, have always had a strong maternal nature. Even at thirteen, I felt SO READY to be a mommy. It was such a strong feeling, I could hardly look at infants without crying. But I was mature enough to know that I wasn't mature enough to have a child, if that makes any sense. I was still one myself. So I know what you're feeling, and I wish you a beautiful, healthy family...SOMEDAY! Just hold out, darling. You'll have it eventually, and you'll be glad that you waited until you were out of school.

And no, being on birth control should not affect your chances of conceiving a healthy child.

Answer 4

I feel you should wait until you can take care of the child by yourself money wise, without the help of the father. Even if the boyfriend/ hubby is a great man. You never know what could happen.
I feel 23 is the youngest, and before 35 thats when your chances start to drop. As for B.C having any long time effect, they say No but I believe it does. It took me almost 4 years to conceive with miscarrying after taking ortho tri for nearly 5 years. My doc says he thinks the birth control played a major role. I will never take the stuff again.

Answer 5

the best time to have a baby is when you have lived your life. you are only 17 and shouldn't think about having a baby. go out and have fun.. travel... see the world before you are tied down with a husband and children... i believe that the best time to have a baby is when you are done with college, dated a few guys to figure out what you want, get married for about 2 years to make sure that the relationship is stable before you have a baby.. keep in mind that having a baby require a lot of MONEY! you should be emotionally, financially, and mentally stable before you have a baby..

i haven't heard of any long term side effects of b.c. that might affect your ability to conceive. i believe that you do need to get off the b.c. for about 6 months before you are able to conceive, but that's all..

if i were you, i'd have my first child before i am thirty and after i am done with college..

Answer 6

I was ready to have a baby at a very young age also. I ended up having my first at 19 and am due to have another boy in Feb 2007. There is no right or wrong age, what is important is that you are financially stable. A college education is best to have, but I was lucky and was already stable enough at a young age. Just remember, you are responsible for taking care of the baby and putting their needs above yours, for 18 years. Being on birth control might make it take longer to conceive, but for me I got pregnant immediately after stopping...

Answer 7

I'm 28 and expecting my first. I'm glad I waited till now to start having kids. There is so much in life to explore and having a baby makes it so much harder to to explore those options. I graduated from high school went to college even though I didn't finish. It wasn' t for me. I explored different job opportunities and got to travel. I got to do so many things in high school and after high school that I know I never would have had the opportunity to do if I had a baby then instead of now. I am currently 35 weeks pregnant with my first, a boy and I have a wonderful boyfriend who is going to be a wonderful father. I am ready to be a mother, yes there are going to be some changes but I am ready to make them for the sake of my son.

Answer 8

The best age to have a baby is when you are mentally and financially stable in ur life.. babies are so cute but cost so much money and cause lots of sleepless nights-- you will know when ure ready-- i think women should have kids at least before 40 now-- well at least 35- nowadays it seems like everyone is waiting a bit longer to have kids.. but if u are ready and have enough money go ahead ! just make sure u did everything in life that u want to before being tied to a child your whole life!

Answer 9

I believe it should be in the upper 20s.

You haven't even gotten to the part in your life where you really start to have fun. I just turned 21 and I'm having the time of my life. I definitely want kids.....but after I settle down.

I've never heard of taking birth control pills affecting your ability to conceive....however I could be wrong. Just trust me, life is about to get good at your age. Don't get pregnant!!! =)

Answer 10

The best time to have kids I think is in your 20's or early 30's...When are are still young enough to take them outside and play...without getting tired right away....But, also make sure you're ready emotionally & finanically...and in some cases...physically..