I don't want to live anymore?

Question

Everyday it gets worse. The only thought that even remotely comforts me is the fact I can end it whenever I want. I've tried to get help for years and nothing works. I'm a 19 year old girl. Should I just call it quits?

Answer 1

Hang in there. Life has ups and downs. Sometimes you're happy and sometimes you're sad and that's how it's SUPPOSED to be. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones and let them pull you through it. Whatever you do, don't give up.

Answer 2

No, you should not just call it quits. I'm 54 and have suffered bouts of severe depression since I was 2 years old. I know how much it can hurt. Sometimes I think it's amazing that someone can feel so EMPTY and so FULL of pain at the same time. I also know there can be good times in between and after the bad times. I understand the comfort in knowing you can end it -- but I always remind myself that if I do end it, I can't get it back if I change my mind (maybe I wouldn't like it on the other side even as well as here).

Please keep looking for the help you need -- earlier today a friend was telling me about a depression-management class she took at Kaiser that helped her a lot -- some people have to try several different medications before they find one that helps -- different therapists "click" with different people, not all of them will be the right one for you.

For many women who suffer depression, the teens are the worst times because of hormonal changes -- and it gets better as we get older. It has been that way for me. Please stick around and give life a chance to get better for you, too.

Answer 3

I am an 11 year old girl.
When I was two I nearly choked on a small duck feather.
When I was four my dog, who I had ever since I was born died.
When I was six, my house burned down during the bush-fires. My mum was also diagnosed with cancer.
When I was eight, My mum died.
When I was ten, my best friend left me for someone else and I had no friends.

But this year the worst thing happened. I walked into my brother's room to find my stapler. I didn't find the stapler. I found a dead body on the floor and a suicide note.

Dont end your life. it really hurts people when you do. Someone loves you in the world. You may not realize that yet but ending your life scars people deeply. I know this as I am only 11, but bad things always happen to me.

Answer 4

I know how you feel....you are at a shitty stage in life....you are expected to know what u are doing but you are still recovering from high school...and all that crap...if you are feeling really low...get some medical help to make sure that your feelings are not amplified by some chemical imbalance...I spent a year and a half in my apt. when I was 22 and I finally had to find one thing everyday that I could and wanted to do...and one thing I din't want to do and made mysefl accomplish both....on good days I did more...but you can only do one thing at a time....Don't call it quits...then the crap wins...you are better than all the stuff that is going thru your head...when you start saying negative stuff to yourself find one thing....even if it is something "stupid"...like I have nice fingernails....say it to yourself thru out the day and so on...don't let the bad thoughts win....goodness always prevails...let some happiness no matter how small you can find into your mind and just keep feeding it....get an animal to talk to...cats are super therapy.....

Answer 5

You are 19 and you have so much ahead of you. Focus on what you want from life and go for it. If you have no children or husband then you can be selfish as you want and follow your dreams. They may not turn out the way you planned, but at least you had a go and that is better then sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself. Plan your life so at 21, 25. 30 you will have certain goals and work at achieving those goals. Life is what you make of it.

Answer 6

Sweetheart, calm down. I don't know what exactly is bothering you, but I do know that you really do want to live; you just don't know how to make things better. If you didn't want to live, you wouldn't be saying this to all of us, would you? I used to feel almost as bad as you do. My problem was that I couldn't get a girl to go out with me. I couldn't approach any because I was afraid they would be angry with me and I felt so lonely. I started reading some on-line info on how to deal with my problems and than, I forced my self to do exactly what I needed to do to help myself ( in my case, approaching girls). I found out 2 things after that.

1) That I was wrong, I had nothing to fear from women, and...
2) That once you try the first time, it only gets easier from then on; now I can easily approach girls and I feel so much better.

My advice to you is to look at whatever problem you have and study how to deal with it, you can use books, the Internet, or ask a professional. Your gut will tell you what will work and what won't. Next, you must push yourself to do whatever it is you need to do to help yourself, and I promise you; it will only get easier after that. It worked for me, and it can work for you too. Please trust me, and all of us. You are not alone. You have friends here.

Answer 7

I think that you really need to go talk to a doctor and possibly get put on anti depressants....No matter what people tell you on this thing, you're still going to ultimately feel the same...because we are strangers and don't know you. When you refer to trying everything - what is everything?

There are many things in life that are in your future if you are brave enough to wait for them. I don't know your situation and i'm sorry that you feel the way that you do....you need to find someone to actively listen to you and allow you to isolate your problems and figure out how to solve them.

I have peer counseled students that were suicidal before and really....you're going to be missing out on alot if you decide to end your life. You're only 19 and yes, it seems like everything is at a dead end and it's not going to get better....but maybe try a new scene....alot of times, a change of scenery does help somewhat....do something outside of the norm. Please make sure that you let your parents know how you are feeling if you are able to talk to them...if not....there are many counseling services available to you.

Answer 8

don't ya know that it's way to early to give up! You're only 19. For all you know, you could win the lottery! Get a boyfriend too or get into a religion. Studies have actually shown that you are happier and live longer if you have some sort of god (not Satan). go to college and really start your life. You can't give up now...ya never know whats gonna come next

Answer 9

Take those thoughts. Tell yourself how strong you are for not giving in to those impulses. Becuase you are strong for that. The only thing you should be calling it quits on is being in the pits; you're so young still and have such a wonderful future ahead of you, I know it. Don't give up on yourself just yet!

Answer 10

aww you poor thing. Don't worry I know what it feels like to feel that way. It is tough believe me I am 28 male and have been through many tought things in my life. If you use drugs stop! If you drink stop! You need to find a passion in life somthing that drives you. You are so young, you have so much opportunity to do whatever you can dream up. Now you obvisouly asked this question because you want some help.

I used to be suicidal, I used to be hopeless. Nothing changed on the outside, I didn't win the lottery, I didn't fall into success. I decided I was sick of feeling sorry for myself, I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I decided the best way I could feel better about myself was to start taking care of myself. I used to weigh 250lbs of fat, I looked fat and out of shape, I hated myself, my clothes didn't fit right, I had no self confidence. I said screw this, I joined a gym, I read all I could about health and diet, and now I am 185lbs at 7% bodyfat in the best shape of my life. I want to attack life as before I wanted to end my life. There is light at the end of the tunnel you just have to reach deep down in side and go to place where it hurts the most and release all those fears and anxiety and anger and let go. Decide you want free yourself of the chains and slavery of depression and self pity. You sit in your own **** because if feels warm. Let go. You would be amazed at how many people who suffer from depression and suicidal thoughts and obsessive compulsions and addictions are actually very intelligent people who have become prisoners of their own minds. We become our own worst enemies, we are self destructive. You are a good person everyone is, you just have to give a little to get a little. I know its hard to focus and think positive, it is easy to feel sorry for yourself. Think of all the people who have less then you, that are sick and dying in a hospital, that would do anything to live another day. You can make it out of this.

It will be ok. Start excercising, eating healthier, you wont believe how much better you will feel if you stop putting junk food into your body and all the refined sugars and processed foods. Go out and go hiking, enjoy nature. Excercise is the number one releaser of natural feel good endorphins.

You need to occupy yourself idle minds are the main reason people get involved in drugs and bad behavior. Go volunteer somewhere, get a job, do somthing give your life a purpose.

I hope this helps.

Answer 11

i am sure you are not very fortunate with your social life, but look at where you are at, you probably have a home, with a roof, a personal phone line, your own computer, if you get hungry there is something for you to eat, you think of all that and consider one without all that. what's helped me in life (might sound corny) is the thought of god putting me here on earth to make a difference for the better, if you end your life right now, what will people say about you? will they remember you? what was your message?
you got a whole lifetime ahead of you. hold on a little longer, it gets better.