2006-12-19 16:29:28 · 27 answers · asked by peter1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That would be a yes.
Which one of you is suffering from the low sex drive?
Actually, I can answer that question myself--you both are, because YOU wouldn't be putting up with sex once a month if you were "normal".
In your 20's, it is "normal" to have sex 2 to 3 times a week, if not more.
2006-12-19 16:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think that's definitely not enough! But that all depends somewhat on the circumstances. If it's just a temporary thing, don't worry. things happen in our lives we can do nothing about, except to get through them.
My husband and I, our sex was most infrequent during periods when the babies were newborns or some other situation crept in that took a lot of time and energy away from one of us. We went that infrequent a few times, but only for a month or so until things got more "normal". A few times a week is our usual. But it varies due to hectic schedules! We have to catch up sometimes to make up for lost time! (we are in our 30's)
I would try to get to the bottom of the reason for the infrequency and then make some changes, so that you are doing it at least once a week. Make time for sex, it's worth it.
2006-12-20 00:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all too common in many relationships. Mine has been like this for years. We are often off on our timing... when one is in the mood the other isn't and vice versa. I hear about a lot of couples having sex 2-3 times a week... even after years of being together... but this hasn't been my experience. We've been together for 10 years... and average about once a month, most of the time... wish it was more... we both do! But for some reason it just doesn't happen. We are also in our 20's.
2006-12-20 00:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Abnormal no, unusual yes! Didn't you have sex or desire (when you were dating) to have sex with your wife all of the time? I'm in my fifties and I can't preform like I use to (because of a prostate problem) but that doesn't stop the desire I have to want her (sexually)! How about a suggestion? Take your wife and go see a sex therapist and maybe they can help both of you. It's just that you are suppose to be in your prime right now and hers catches up later (about 35yrs old) on! I always found that my wife may have not always wanted to have sex but once she got going she enjoyed it as much as I did. Best of luck to you both!
2006-12-20 01:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep!! In your 20's you should be having a great time, expecially if your married. However if your both happy with this arrangement then there is no problem.
If your having a problem with this you should sit down and talk with your wife. Dont keep things in, this dose not work.
WARNING: You must wait for the right time to talk about this.....and really THINK about what you want to say. Dont go in there cold turkey!! This could backfire and you wont be having sex at all!!!
Be careful.....Good luck!
2006-12-20 00:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by ohdarnitsmeagain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tooooo less. Find out why. At least you should have 3 to 4 times a week for this age.
I was the same with my husband, sorry to say that, but I didn't love him, so I couldn't have sex. But now I am in 30s and I had a boy friend over one year and we lived together, we had sex almost every night.
I don't want to say, that she doesn't love you, but maybe there is another problem, like stress...You should talk to her. Or maybe you don't want to have sex with her??! Who is the problem??!!
2006-12-20 02:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...my bf is out of town 2-3 weeks a month and we manage to meet up more than you two do. Someone is lacking in the sex drive. I don't know what to tell ya maybe you should sit down and have a heart to heart with her and let her know how you feel about it. She can't help fix what she doesn't know
2006-12-20 00:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by blahblahblah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know let me see, my hubby is deployed to iraq for a year and you are complaining about 1 time a month!
when hubby is home, we are lucky if we get it once a month. we connect other ways, via phone, emails, letters, i suggest trying some other way to connect with your wife.
hubby and i are 27 and 25. we have 1 child. its not impossible to have sex more, just when he isn't deployed. lol.
enjoy your once a month. try to do more around the house for her, she might let you 'in' more.
2006-12-20 00:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what is normal for one couple is not normal for another. When my husband and I first started having sexual relations it was several times a day. After kids, jobs, house choirs, work ect he was lucky to get it once a damn month!
2006-12-20 00:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask or have doubts, it's abnormal.
20s?? You're better than me.
That sounds more like 40s.
2006-12-20 00:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋