Women, If your old man told you "You've become fat" and are not the pleasure to look at you once were

Question

Would you lose the weight? Why would you let it get to that point?

To the Ladies on their "High horses" be aware that kicking to the curb thing ,works both ways. She is now enjoying her very own studio apartment,Best spent $2000 bucks in months.

Answer 1

In my opinion each person should always try to look their best for eachother in a marriage no matter how long you've been married. If you look "rough" all the time or get fat and let yourself go, why shouldn't your spouse look at others and lust?

Answer 2

I would lose the weight, not only because of the comments but because I do not enjoy being unattractive. I would resent the comments but work on it anyway.
Why would I let it get to that point? Well, it is so difficult to maintain weight, let alone lose it after having kids. I know a lot of people will say this is a poor excuse, but almost anyone living in the USA or UK can gain weight very easily!
For me, stress and depression can cause me to gain weight. And feeling bad about myself because I gained weight would only make me feel worse (which is really demotivating when trying to tackle a problem like losing weight)
I would feel hurt and upset, but would do it , although not to make my husband happy. I would do it partly out of spite, actually. The rest of the reason would be for my own pleasure I would get out of looking good and having people notice me.

Answer 3

Think of how that could come across to someone.

Some people do feel insecure about how the look. They know they have gained weight. Wieght gain could be due to depression. So telling her that she is fat and she isnt nice to look at, would make the state she is in even worse. It would devistate her. It might not even help. Depression is perpetual. negative thinking makes things worse and you end up throwing yourself in the fire so to speak. When other people add to that feeling, you end up feeling worthless, a burden, unloved, sad, etc

You should if at all..understand that she has feelings of course! Yet, try and help her... suggest she go to the doctor and see if they can put her on meds for depression. The meds dont help her loose weight but it will certainly help her get out of the cycle of thinking. She will feel better which means she will want to do things to make her look and feel better all the time.

Saying those things are horrible. I think being supportive is so much better...

Answer 4

I read that a woman who is happy in her relationship will gain an average of 10 pounds in the first 5 years... and women who aren't very happy gain on average 40-60 pounds. Don't know if it's true... but I thought it was interesting.

I think a woman is also a reflection of her man. If a man is treating the woman well... making her FEEL sexy and desirable... than she'll be more interested in keeping herself looking nice for him. On the other hand, if a woman is feeling unappreciated or neglected in any way... then it's much more easy to let herself go.

If my man said that to me... I don't think I'd be very motivated to get thin again. I think I would resent him and it would cause major relationship problems. Be careful how you talk to a woman about her physical appearance. More gentle wording, tact and consideration should be used.

Answer 5

first of all, that's not a thank you to mindset it. she will take it badly whether that's actual. Secondly, dropping weight so it is going to stay off must be executed slowly--2 kilos a week. third and maximum extreme exercising IS the main. The extra muscle one has, the extra energy the physique burns even at relax. there are various the thank you to weight-alleviation plan and stay wholesome and sense sturdy. The extra outcomes one sees, the extra encouragement to proceed. finally, there is often the possibility that she will slender down, tone up, and flow out and far flung from the previous guy who would desire to have complimented her extra whilst she became slender.

Answer 6

That is a really harsh thing to say to someone that they have become fat. I think if my husband was to say that to me I would get even bigger. If a man said to his wife that he wants to become healthier and do it as a family then that would be a different story. The husband should be there for his wife and support her if she is willing to lose the weight. If not well the man married her through thick and thin. For better or for worse till death do them part. It does not say anything in the vows about the wife gaining weight and the husband telling her you've become fat so therefore you need to lose the weight.

Answer 7

First of all I would not have ever married a man that I knew would call me fat!! But, if he had never acted like he thought you were in the first place I can see how you fell in love with him.You should tell him if he loves you he wouldn't care what you looked like. You could also tell him if he don't like the way you look get out and find another woman he does like.

Answer 8

Yes, I would get the point just fine. I would pack my bags and leave. Men are a want not a need. I don't need him, and if he doesn't want me then I will remove myself from his life. Good riddance!

Men who talk to the woman they love like that are nothing more than a sad sorry excuse of a man. He looks like a man but really he is a slimy worm.

Answer 9

In the first place your man shouldnt be saying this to you, if he loves you he should love you the way you are. My girlfriend had this same problem with her man they had been seeing each other for 2 years (not married) she dumped his sorry butt. I dont know your full circumstances My hubby of 10 years says things like that to me and i have had 5 kids i just say what do you expect, if you dont like it leave.

Answer 10

A real man would never say that to someone he loves. Especially if you've had his children. I have gained weight over the years, and was actually a little self concious about it until my fiancee told me I am more beautiful now than ever before. THAT'S a real man.