My wife cheated on me while I was in in iraq and now im depressed because I love her. So should i stay or go?

Answer 1

go....
get some therapy,
and move on...
good luck!!!

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear that. I know what it's like to have a husband in the Military. She probably got lonely, but it's still no excuse to go out & sleep with someone else. I'm sorry but she can't be trusted. I think you should leave her to think things through, don't make a final decision yet. It's best to just be on your own until you can figure out what you want to do with your marriage. There's alot to consider, like say for example, what if you get deployed again? is she just going to cheat on you again everytime she gets lonely? She's cheating on you while your out there fighting for our country, trying to do a good job & trying to survive while she's at home spending the extra money you make for being in Iraq & sleeping with another guy. She's not a good wife for doing this. Marriage is about love, respect, being faithful, honest, commitment. Let her know this really hurts you & makes you confused. If you end up leaving her, yes it will hurt & probably take you a long time to forget about it. If i were you, i'd rather be alone & lonely instead of having to deal with stress like this, yet come home to something like this after going through the war in Iraq. If you end up leaving her, eventually later in the future you will find the right girl who can make you happy, stay honest & faithful to you because that's what you deserve. That's what everybody deserves.

GOOD LUCK in everything & thank you for all your hard work in Iraq. It's helped alot! =)

Answer 3

Bummer. Do you have children? If so, that does complicate things. As their need for stability comes first. Cheating marriage partners is a common issue, done once, there exists the possibility of a repeat occurrence. If you love her, and for sure, if there are children, I'd try to work things out. I know this is something you can't forget, but, you can forgive. That means don't throw "it" up in her face when anger comes from other issues that come up in marriage. Making her feel wrong serves no good and for sure the marriage will fail.
Now what do you do? Communicate and leave your anger and blame out of your communication.
Your wife has a hard job ahead of her, living with her quilt re-earning your trust and her own self respect. I'm assuming she does feel she has caused damage to the marriage, if not and there are no children, leave. Don't stay in the marriage if you can't deal with it, children or not, as you'll mess the kids up. If there are children, be a good father, stay well connected with them.
Thank you for your service as a member of our countries armed services providers. I honor you for your service! Know that you aren't a victim in this, life is not easy, only the tough ones survive.
My best wishes go to you. Hang in there.

Answer 4

She couldn't stay faithful to you for the whole time you were deployed to Iraq?? You deserve someone better. What makes you think the next time you get deployed she won't get lonely again and find another man to keep her company while you're away?

The first time my husband was deployed to Iraq his ex-wife cheated on him and got pregnant by another man! He was hurt and devastated but then he came home on his 2-week R&R and he met ME!!! I only knew him for those 2 weeks but I waited 5 more months for him and I remained faithful. We've been married over a year now and he's deployed again.....and I could never cheat on him. He's my World!!!

You never know.......you could find another woman who will love you and stand by your side no matter what!!! Nobody deserves to be cheated on!!!

Answer 5

I feel bad for you man! Who knows how long she's been Screwing the other guy. Maybe your entire stay in Iraq. Well, she's the only one that can answer that. As for you man, move on. Time will help you forget. Find someone else that would love and appreciate you for who you are. The trust is gone, you won't be able to trust her ever again. In your mind you'll think that she's screwing someone else. What if you get call to Iraq again? Who's to say she won't do it again? Move on buddy! One's a cheater, always a cheater. P.S. THANK YOU FOR DEFENDING OUR COUNTRY (USA).

Answer 6

Dude you got my blood really boiling here !
First off, what f'ing scumbag would go behind a man, especially a soldiers back while at war? a f'ing dirtbag.

Second, what kind of woman is this?? One you need to write off my man........don't be depressed wanna know why?? because a way better one will come your way, trust me, i've been in your shoes. A cheat will never change. She showed way more disrespect than that lil ****** did.
Let me guess, she used the excuse "you were gone so long" right? she needed "love" ?
Brother, you need to stop thinking because down the line, youll thank yourself. i hope you don't have kids with her. And the guy.........let him be...........karma usually comes around 3-4 times .

thanks for serving man......there's a lot of good women out there for you.
Merry X mas

Answer 7

This is a hard question and I'm so sorry you're having a hard time. Try going for counseling before breaking things off entirely. See if there is still some life in your relationship. If nothing else, you deserve the support of a good counselor - you've been through a lot. I wish you well.

Answer 8

Your service can help you get counseling. If she really is sorry then get some marriage counseling. Especially if there are children involved. I don't know how old you are and I am not making excuses for her but it is hard to maintain a relationship with you so far away. BUT, once a cheater always a cheater and she vowed to stand by you. Even when your serving your country, and especially while serving your country. And by the way THANK YOU, SOLDIER!

Answer 9

If you can look at her every day for the rest of your lives and truly say it doesn't bother you than stay. but I am someone who has been cheated on multiple times and I chose to stay with him and for me it's hell on earth every day. What he did to me has ripped a hole in my heart that can never be fixed. And the resentment only builds and builds. and the hurt never goes away. Istill cry about it alot and its been four years since the last time. I hope you make the right decision for you. good luck

Answer 10

This is totally up to you if you want to stay with her or let her go. You will always have in the back of your mind her cheating on you. You need to see if you can not forget but forgive her and not bring up the situation every time an argument stirs up. You need to be able to trust her again and not worry about her every time she starts the car up and leaves by herself. It is a lot to take in. I would not go back to my spouse if he cheated on me but that is just me.

Answer 11

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