My boyfriend and I are in our thirties - we just moved in together. How long should we wait to get engaged?

Question

We have been dating since May - He just moved in last month. I think he will probably as me to marry him in a couple of months. I am hoping in May cause then we will have been together for a full year - then we can have a 6-month to 1 year engagement before we get married. Neither one of us have ever been married or have kids. If I were younger I would never have gotten involved this fast (and as you can see I never did), we are both very happy together and we both feel that we got to really got to live out the single life. We are both ready for partnership...
So do you think because we are older now that we should have a shorter waiting period?

Answer 1

thats quick to move in together, thats my opinion, but whatever works for you guys. i would wait, so you can get to know him better, and plus, see how you guys will work on the living together situation.

Answer 2

Don't listen to any of these guys on here. #1 you should not have moved in with him. Living with anyone is hard! You have to negotiate who is going to do what and it becomes very hard. #2..you will definitely get to know each other now. Things may even become boring at times because it will be a routine. You have the right to want marriage but just because he moved in does not mean he owed you marriage. Marriage is even hard when you love each other..but SOOO worth it. I love my husband and respect that we have differences. You have to negotiate so many things on an every day basis. Keep a timeline on the living together...only 1 year if you are going to do it...but don't push. You really have no right now..unless you had a clear discussion with hm about your expectations and he answered clearly that he was in agreement before he moved in. If he does ask you to marry him in a few months then go for a short engagement. No reason to drag things along. Also, normal everyday issues will come up that may make both of you regret the engagement. People pull out too soon of relationships. However......it is important to understand that what you see is what you get...over the next few months you are absolutely going to see who he is and he is going to see who you are. You are going to really get to know each other and that is a good thing. You do need to see that you can live together and you can negotiate every day things without killing each other. Good luck.

Answer 3

Ugh.

I'd be surprised if he asks you to marry him. Why should he? He's got all the benefits of a wife without any of the messy paperwork. If he's so ready for "partnership" why didn't he ask you to marry him before you moved in together?

Sorry to be so cynical, but there are so many women out there going "Why won't my boyfriend ask me to marry him? We've been living together for five years and I'm ready, what's wrong with him??"

Answer 4

Congrats on your happiness, but you shouldn't set limits or expect to even set a date when he will propose to you. A man will ask his woman to marry WHEN HE'S GOOD & READY. I suggest you do not pressure him, especially about marriage. Don't expect it either, because he may not even ask you. You will just set yourself up for disappointment when you expect things like this. There's no limit to when both are ready for partnership, don't set them, just let things happen naturally & on it's own. It's better that way. Love shouldn't be rushed for it comes when it is fully blossomed & ready.

Answer 5

I would not rush things or try to script things. 1/2 the fun is the journey to get there.

Answer 6

STOP !!!!!!!!!

ALL YOU WOMEN ARE THE SAME. ALWAYS PUTTING A TIME TABLE ON LIFE. JUST CHILL OUT. THERE'S NO "PERFECT" TIME. LIFE WILL GUIDE YOU. CHILL OUT !!! DAMN, JUST SEE IF YOU GET ALONG FIRST. DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT. JUST HAVE FUN
LIFE'S SHORT, NEXT YOULL BE ASKING HIM FOR A BABY. JUST BE HAPPY, DON'T WORRY WHAT ALL YOUR DUMB FRIENDS ARE DOING. MISERY LOVES COMPANY,

MERRY XMAS

Answer 7

Wait for him to ask you!