My dad is a heartless asshole with many problems. I am 13 now and my parents have been divorced for 8 years. I have hated him since I was 5. When I asked him before if I could live with my mom, it was horrible and all that happened was he said that our mom provided an unhealthy dymnamic, and he insulted us. My grandparents also cried a lot. My mom knows i hate him, and would be very happy if my sister and I lived with her. My dad is verbaly abusive, an alcoholic, and he used to abuse our dogs very badly. What I want to know is, when can I say i don't want to live with him and the judge respect that without going into many of my reasons. I would be willing to bring up more arguments, but the reason I am reluctant is because of my grandparents pain in my disliking their son. My dad doesn't even put up a christmas tree, and my mom overcompensates for him by decorating and getting us tons of presents. because of him I have had many horrible holidays. I would appreciate any answers I get.
2006-12-19 15:07:28 · 6 answers · asked by politicaltnt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't give stupid answers plz, I know for a fact i can choose at a certain age in my childhood, so plz tell me if u know that age. My twin sister also wants to know.
2006-12-19 15:11:36 · update #1
i am so sorry your going through this! you should be at the age now to tell the judge you want to live with your mom. you are old enough and have been with your dad long enough to know that its not a good situation to be in. and please tell the judge all your reasons for not wanting to be with your dad so he or she has a clear picture of the situation. its ok to tell them that you don't want to hurt anyones feelings so that they can tell you that your feelings are the only ones that count. and its true. you know how you feel and you know how to express yourself in a good way so teel the judge! and don't worry about your grandparents they will just have to learn to deal with the situation, if they love you then they just want you to be happy!
2006-12-19 15:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Honey. As the mother of a 13 year old your question breaks my heart. Please tell a grownup you trust to find out for you. A school counselor might be a good source. Or the parent of a good friend. Your father has severe issues. He does love you if you can believe it but he doesn't love himself at all. Until he does, you won't see his love for you and he will keep being a horrible person to keep proving to himself he doesn't deserve to be loved. It's a vicious cycle that you shouldn't have to be exposed to. This is NOT a reflection on you. Stay positive and hopeful that things will work out. Take five minutes each day and envision the perfect life you'd like to be living as if you are already living it. Imagine every detail. Five minutes a day. It WILL come to pass. Hang in there and be strong for your sister. God Bless.
2006-12-19 15:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-19 15:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I say any age is good to movie with your mom if your dad is not treating you good then the judge should see that, and make some other decisions to make your life alto better but it sound like you have a great mom.
2006-12-19 15:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by ashley c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 23:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell your School Counselor that you are not happy with your living arrangements. Then, you can tell the Judge and courts that you want to live with your Mom. If you tell them, they will follow what you say.
2006-12-19 15:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋