I'm in the process of scheduling my abortion.... I'm scared?

Question

Today I got the results I'm for sure pregnant... I need to start scheduling appointments etc... my best friend has already had an abortion & told me a lot about it.. but I'm really scared. Anyone with previous experience have advice?

Answer 1

There should be counsellors available to help you through. If not, contact one of the agencies that propvided free counselling, preferably one that focuses on womens issues.

Physically you will be fine, but it can be a stressful event to go through.

This is your decision, not anyone elses. The silent majority respect your right to choose. Good luck.

Answer 2

OMFG are you kidding me? You are going to kill your 6th child, and you are worried about it hurting YOU, or a stupid HEADACHE?? Get real, at this point I dont give a damn how you feel. How dare you come on here on the pregnancy part and ask a question like this. I thought all the questions from young kids asking if they could be pregnant was retarded, but you have taken the cake. You cannot possibly expect ppl NOT to judge you about this. 6 abortions is ridiculous. You should have learned by now. Why wait until your baby has fingernails, and hair, and can HEAR you talking about killing it??? Do you not know what causes pregnancy? How bout not being a irresponsible hoochie, and keep your legs closed, or atleast go get on some sort of birth control, or get your tubes tied. There are women that cannot even get pregnant and have been trying for a long long time, and here you are killing them all?? You will have to answer for this on judgement day, and I hope that you have to look into those innocent, beautiful babies eyes, and realize what you have done. There are some ppl that should not be able to pro create, and you are at the top of the list.

Answer 3

Wow. I really enjoyed all the "I'm a total pest who can't read, understand, and respond to a question without thinking solely of myself, and I can't spell, but I'd make a GREAT mom -- hand over your foetus!" 'answers'...

I wonder how many would run if the kid wasn't expected to be (1) perfectly healthy, and, in a lot of cases, (2) white?

Anyway.

I had a D&C (for a miscarriage, you jumpy anti-choicers), and: it sucked; I woke up in a fair whack of pain. That said, it didn't take too long to get more pain relief, and the (physical) recovery was quite quick. Don't expect to do much that day or night, at least. That said, I've heard from people who had far less of what little hassle I did.

If it makes you feel any better, I -- now pregnant in my early 30s -- would not have any regrets now had I had an abortion when young. And, personally, I'd find giving a baby up for adoption infinitely more traumatic than aborting.

You will probably want support, so see if you can't bring the friend you mentioned along and have her stick around your home for a while after, if you're up for it. Ideally, they'll send you home with the sort of painkillers that'll just send you off for a nap anyway, though.

Answer 4

Dont do it! Ask to see an ultrasound or hear the babys heartbeat! Youll regret it so much! Its not just a fetus it has a heart beat of life, and think about it you gave it to him! Think about it, if you would have it what would happen! You could never ask for more! I know it might be hard! But that baby is always there for you no matter what youll do! Dont listen to other people that its okay! If your scared, then you have second thoughts! Im against abortions but i have reasons why! I dont know your situation, but itll be worth it! Ask a child, how they would feel if their mom wanted to kill them? Its the same thing. Good luck! Make the write choice! You will!!

Answer 5

Not only am I going to respond to you but I hope some of those people that already responded read this too! Abortion is wrong on so many levels. Not only are you jeopardizing you future chance of having children, but also your emotional future. Will you actually be able to forgive yourself for murdering you first child? What you should have done, which it's too late for now, is not have sex yet! You should have waited until you were ready to raise that child that you plan on destroying and not giving a future too! There are always families trying to adopt child especially babies. and you should be scared!


Development of the Heart begins as soon as the embryo starts to develop inside the mother's body. The walls that divide the heart into chambers are forming when the embryo is only six weeks old.

Answer 6

I've never aborted a child, but these women have, and you can read their stories:

http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm

I'm going to be blunt, but it is out of genuine concern for you and your baby. You SHOULD be scared. Abortion will kill your son or daughter and also has the potential to seriously damage your emotional and physical health. Here is information on the risks:

http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

and photos and video of first trimester abortions:

http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

and photos and facts on your baby's development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

There is plenty of help available for you to do the right thing. If you go to a pregnancy care center, they can give you referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; and counseling and emotional support. You can find one near you here:
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp

or by calling 1-800-395-HELP. Here's more support for pregnant teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

and support for pregnant college and career women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org

If your friend encourages you to abort, it may be because it will make her feel better about what she did to her child. Right now, you need to be around people who will encourage you to do the right thing and let your baby live. If you don't know anyone like that, please do go to a pregnancy care center and get some support. You can do the right thing. Protect yourself and your baby.

Answer 7

Why do you want to end your baby's life? This is *your child*. She is also your parents' (and your boyfriend's parents) grandbaby! How will they feel if you rip her life away?

Please... call the pregnancy resource center in your town. They'll do a free ultrasound so you can see what your baby looks like. They'll give you lots of options and help so you can keep or adopt out your baby.
You have every right to be scared about having an abortion. It's a huge money making business! The up-front person will be sweet and understanding of your fear. However, if you have complications like bleeding that won't stop, an infection, perforated uterus, sterility, or future miscarriages, they could care less. The physical risks of having an abortion are a lot greater than the clinics claim. And the emotional and psychological trauma is life-long.

Please reconsider having an abortion. Life is so precious. Your baby is precious. You are precious. Don't waste her life just because you weren't careful. Be responsible and give her life.

Answer 8

As you can tell from the previous posts, there are many families that are willing to adopt children, there is no reason to have an abortion. My husband and I are hoping to adopt because due to complications after my second childbirth I am unable to have more children. There are two types of adoption, open and closed. In a closed adoption the birth family would not have any contact with the child. In an open adoption the birth family can have as much or as little contact with the child as they feel comfortable with. We are open to either kind. If you want more information or are interested in placing your child with us, please email me at [e-mail]. I don't know your age, but if you are worried about people finding out, we are also offering the birth mother to stay with us for the term of her pregnancy. Good luck to you in whatever you decide.

Answer 9

It is really all up to you and i hope you know that.
My BEST friend was in the same boat as you and didn't know what to do she wasn't sure if she was ready and asked around she wanted an abortion, but then at the last minute decided to keep it and when she had the baby she looked at me (godmother) and told me she didn't know what she could do if she had given up her baby because now she feels hole but that was her decison just like this is yours don't let a bunch of hipocrites judge you or tell you what you should do ask a proffessional about your problems
this is a serious question and you have your friend there to help you as well if you need support of going in labor if you keep it or abort it to help you through it.

Answer 10

I considered it a few times before. I have 6 beautiful children now and wonder how could I have ever thought to do it. You were given the gift of a child and I only hope you would keep it. But you only know how you feel truely, and your situation. I hope you make the right choice for you. Children are great.

Answer 11

I had an abortion 2 years ago. It was more painful than actual childbirth. They gave me the option of Nitrous Oxide or Twilight sedation through IV. I chose the Nitrous oxide, well, I started hyperventilating and they had to switch it to oxygen. I FELT EVERYTHING! I regret doing it, but my husband pretty much forced me. It was twins. If this is something that you want to do, please be prepared for a physical and emotional toll on your body. I got so messed up by mine, that I can't even vacuum the floors anymore, because it reminds me of what I had done. If you want anyone to talk to you can email me.

If you are only about 4 or 5 weeks, there is a 2 step pill that they give you. It is not 100%, so just make sure you do as they say.

I wish you the best of luck, and I will be here for you if you need me.