I'm fourteen and have just started changing. In the past year, I've styled & highlighted my hairs, ditched my glasses and got contacts, cleared up my skin, 'developed', & am now wearing abercrombie & hollister. Before, everyone kind of made fun of me because I was a 'nerd' and wasn't very attractive. Still, there are a few who call me ugly & such. I really think I am. But guys still constantly call me hot & ask me out & my friends say how theyre 'jealous' of me & stuff but I really don't think I'm pretty at all. I'm a little chubby, have short legs, & I think my face is like really ugly lol. I don't know what to think. A lot of other people say how hot I am, then some say how ugly I am. Any advice or anything?
2006-12-19 14:30:53 · 20 answers · asked by Victoria 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
People just have different opinions. That's going to be ever-changing and most of the time you won't like what you hear. So just be yourself and grow to love the skin you're in. (cheesy, I know)
2006-12-19 14:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortunate that you feel this way about yourself. Right now you are young and it is the perfect time to develop your mind. You still have a few years to grow into your body and into your face so don't feel bad if you look at yourself and sometimes don't like what you see.
When I was your age people called me ugly too. I never got asked to any dances or the prom, and I never had a boyfriend in highschool. Other girls would tease me all the time, so I decided to spend more time focusing on the things that I could change like my grades and my goals in life, and less time on the things that I couldn't, like my looks and what other people thought of me.
Now I'm a pilot, I've got a 3.8 GPA and I'm getting ready to start graduate school for neurochemistry. Looks fade, and one day those girls that made fun of me will be old and unnatrrative and that's all they'll be. But, I will always have a PhD, and I will always be a pilot. Those things can never be taken away from me.
I did eventually grow into my akward figure and face. By the time I got to college I was 5'10 125lbs, and I got more attention from guys then I wanted, but by then I had already learned that there were more important things in life than being popular and attractive.
Hope this helps.
Good luck.
2006-12-21 19:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by the_chopperpilot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way at that age, then I finally started liking the way that I looked and others seemed not to. Everyone has different opinions and that is all that they are there opinions. You said that people ask you out so they must be attracted to you. Take that as a hint and roll with it. Do not change who you are for anyone but you, it seems that you are doing something right.
Today I am 30 and jealous of the friends who were once jealous of me it is a vicious, never ending circle be true to your self and that is all that will matter.
2006-12-19 22:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you are ugly, then it will not matter what others think--I suffered from this all my life until recently. I look back and see how "hot" I was and I think the not knowing made me all the more attractive because I did not know it. On the flip side, it really held me back (thinking I was ugly and people didn't know what they were talking about when they said I was pretty). Work on your own self-image and don't put so much stock in what others say. Whether you are hot or not, if you THINK you are, then you will be. Attitude is everything.
2006-12-19 22:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by HCH32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is i have the same problem. My features are very exaggerated. I have these long limbs and a short body. i don't think im very good looking but people (usually old people) always stare at me or say omg you should model but most teens or whatever stare at me and just laugh. All i can say is everyone has their different views on whats attractive. But usually what people are attracted too in a person is the symmetry of their body and face. If you look at the modeling industry their is so many girls that you wouldn't think as standard beauty but its their awkwardness that makes them beautiful...and usually they have beautiful features and symmetry. What was considered beautiful 50 years ago isn't the same as now. Like if you look at Grace Kelly (an icon) you think wow she is pretty but nowadays she would be considered to be plain looking because the standards constantly change. I would say don't follow the trends just be yourself and do what looks good on you. I've never seen you so i can't judge but if people are telling you, you look good their must be something there.
2006-12-19 22:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jungle Luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't wear Abercrombie and Hollister as a reference to being popular or anything. Stop wearing that crap.
I feel exactly like you. People tell me I'm good looking, but I think it's pity. I hope I could 'clear up' my skin like you did,so at least people would stop doing it out of pity.
Without a picture, we can't really do anything. I can just say this: Stop looking at yourself through someone else's eyes.
2006-12-19 22:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by -Alex 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someone who is impartial about the way you look. The guys might just be looking for sex, the girls might be jealous. Parents usually think their kids are great. I'm thinking you have a better sense of your own looks than you are letting on. It sounds like you are doing your best to improve yourself so feel good about that. I spent 32 years feeling unwanted because the person I thought liked the way I looked didn't pay any attention to me. It took me till I was over 50 years old to get some self esteem because I let that feeling be the one that ran my life. Don't let that happen to you. Feel good about yourself.
2006-12-19 22:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be good looking and you have people tell you that. Alot of people will tell you you're ugly if they're jealous of you. But the most important thing is knowing that you are because then when people talk bad about you you'll just know they're jealous. And theres no point living your life as if you're unatractive you mine as well live life believing you're beautiful....
2006-12-19 22:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the glasses, clothes, and all that "nerdy" stuff, doesnt make you unattractive. especaially at 14 you still have plenty of growing up to do. folks are always harder on themselves when it comes to appearance, than what other people think of them. have some confidence in yourself and you will be alright. also give yourself some time, once you hit 18 or so, i bet you will look back on this question and wonder what you were thinking.
2006-12-19 22:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by Ed D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself! if some1 calls u ugly tell them off, dont act like u feel bad about urself, every1 will notice and then will all call u ugly, soon u will find the look u truly love for urself, hope this helps (ps ur lucky that at least some ppl call u hot, i feel ugly as heck no1 has ever liked me) appriciate urself theres ppl way less lucky then u
2006-12-19 22:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by cheeryice2244 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋