Especially when they do not want one.
2006-12-19 14:26:22 · 20 answers · asked by Chelle C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no real way to answer this, but you have to just sit him down and tell him, and explain to him that he should not want to spend time with someone who loves him but is not in love with him. Also tell him that the two of you will be miserable, and eventually have built up resentment if it is not already there which should be reason enough.
2006-12-19 14:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's how I told my husband: I hired a lawyer, who hired a process server, who served my ex with divorce papers while he was visiting his parents. End of discussion, end of marriage, beginning of better life. This may sound cold and mean to you, but it's a divorce, not a surprise birthday party. A clean break is quick and far less painful than the proverbial Long Goodbye.
2006-12-19 14:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and/or look up a women's abuse center. The abuse center will have a 'safe house' where he can't get to you. You can get help with having him served with divorce papers and you may need to get a restraining order to keep him away (it may not keep him away, but the police will enforce it when you call). As for him threatening suicide, he is just a control freak and since the threat has worked before he will continue to use it. If he were to kill himself, which I seriously doubt, it would NOT be your fault. Get your divorce, move to California and start a new life,
2016-03-13 08:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're finding it hard to tell him you want a divorce, you might want to get counsiling and try to work it out. my brother had counsiling and it did wonders for him. ( but his marrIage still didnt work out, his wife was a greedy b****). he is a totally changed person now.
but if you really still want to go through with the divorce, just build up the courage to come right out and say it to him. or if you're in an abuse relationship or something like that, find a place you can stay, like with a friend, move all of your stuff out on day when he is not there, and file for divorce and wait for him to get the papers.
2006-12-19 14:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why get a divorce? Try to work it out.
2006-12-19 14:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by ndmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just bought him a plane ticket back to his family's town. He cheated on my a couple times and was abusive in every way, so I wasn't worried about his feelings. If he's like my ex, chuck all of his stuff out the door and then burn it. If it's just you guys have fallen out of love, then sit down and have a decent conversation about it.
2006-12-19 14:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by kameka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell them directly. It's not easy but the kindest thing for both of you is to approach it quite directly and begin at that moment to move on with your life, not leaving any question for the other partner to believe you might be back.
2006-12-19 14:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest with him and don't just leave it at I am divorcing you and walk away. Explain reasoning, unless he is abusive and then that explains it all.
2006-12-19 14:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him "I want a divorce" and see a lawyer. Good luck.
2006-12-19 14:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling would be better. And besides, if you have kids, it'll be really upsetting for them because they'll have to always move back and forth.
2006-12-19 14:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋