She is always looking for something that I am not doing HER WAY. She talks very loudly, telling me what I need to do, when I am trying to take care of a customer.
She is soooo annoying. She drives me crazy!! She is 38 years old & you would think that she could be a little more mature than that.
I just stand back & stay quiet. I don't say anythink except ok to her & in a very nice way. It makes me mad though because she doesn't talk that way infront of her MoM which her MoM is also the owner/boss.
I am so frusterated that I am thinking of quitting but I have been there for 3 years & I realy absolutely love my job! And my husband & I have 4 kids that we have to work & take care of. What should I do? Please I need some VERY GOOD ADVISE? PLEASE???
2006-12-19 13:53:50 · 12 answers · asked by tigrababy2000 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Tough situation if she is the daughter of the owner/boss. You said you have been working there for 3 years? Has this daughter also been working there that long? If not I would say talk to your boss. Obviously if she has had you working there for 3 years than you are a valued employee at this point. Most likely she probably has some idea that her daughter is a PITA. It's a delicate subject to bring up, but if you go about it the right way I am sure your boss will understand where you are coming from. Just start the conversation out with something like......This is a difficult issue to bring up and one that I am somewhat reluctant to even mention but.......and go into details on how she makes you feel uncomfortable. End with the fact that you have enjoyed your job, but that recently it's getting to the point where you do not enjoy it anymore and almost dread it. Let her know in a delicate way that her daughter is creating an uncomfortable environment for you.
Are there any other employees you work with? You may want to see if anyone else feels the same way about her.
2006-12-19 14:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Wicked Lioness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathise with you. You love your job and have 4 kids to take care of but the 38 years old daughter of your lady boss is always annoying you. You are stressed by it naturally. My advice to you is to try your best to get along with her as she may your next boss if her mother decides to let her take over her position. Whenever possible, ask her how she would like the job to be done. Speak softly to her so that she will get the hint that she talks too loudly. She could just be trying to boss you around when her mother is not around. You cannot do anything about her maturity though. Do not "just stand back and keep quiet." That is a negative attitude. Instead, try to help by doing things "her way". It will definitely improve your relationship with her and keep your job as well. May God bless you and your family. Have a Very Merry Christmas!
2006-12-19 22:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds difficult if she is the owners daughter. If you have an immediate supervisor that is not the owner, you should talk with them about the situation. Do you have an option to switch to a different job where you wouldn't have to deal with that person? You would have the best sense of if you can realistically have a conversation with the owner. But if you do, you might want to focus on whether the daughter is supposed to be supervising you, particularly with a customer. Best wishes. If this continues to drive you nuts, then freshen up the resume and start looking. But don't quit until you have a job in hand.
2006-12-19 22:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a colleague of mine does this to her witch of a boss which sounds exactly like yours. Annoy her back!! She'll stay cool and smile then apologies to her and boss and the client in front of her. It shows the client how professional my friend is. At other times withput clients, she'll sweetly tell her boss's way will not work because of etc.etc.etc.
And when she gets a scathing talk down, I always see that she's always cool and smiling and nodding, further infuriating her boss.. ha haa.. My friend finds her boss's face very funny and amusing when the latter get into fuming fits. It helps to think of happy thots (yr hubby and kids), a cool head and hv a good nature cos I think everybody at yr workplace knows that she's a pain in the u know where.
Lastly, know your work really well and get your tracks covered so that you can't be sabotaged and your boss goes off reporting to MOM.. Good luck, I hope the above helps.
2006-12-19 22:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by arfinsy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just try to talk to your bully and explain to her that you really don't appreciate her talking to you that way. If that doesn't work for you or if you don't think it will work anyway. Then you need to talk to your boss and have her deal with this matter. You've been working there for 3 years and its not fair that some jealous woman is giving you a hard time at work. Explain to your boss in a kind way that you enjoy your job but this bully is being unprofessional to you and in the precense of customers.
2006-12-19 21:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she is the owners daughter doesnt mean she is any better than you are. It just means she thinks she is better because her mom owns the place and she can do what ever she wants. I say make a list of complaints against her and also some other people who she is abusing and ask them to sign that list of complaints. If you get a couple signatures on a list of complaints it will definitely make her mother very angry.
Parents are your opponents greatest strength and at the same time their greatest weakness. She is dependable on her mom just turn the mother against the daughter and you will see a drastic change.
2006-12-19 22:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by .......... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she speaks to you loudly then answer her even louder but not with anger. When you do need to ask her something then do it her way. I would bet that other people around would soon get tired of you two and then something can be done about her.
2006-12-19 22:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her without raising your voice that you do things the way you do and have been doing for 3 years without complaint, so could you please allow me to continue. Not knowing what you do I cannot know if you are actually doing things correctly or if she is just bullying you because she can.
2006-12-19 21:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by Frank R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discuss the matter with the owner of the company since its supposed to be that way if not speak your co-workers to see if they are having the same problems so that you all can make the complaint together.
2006-12-19 22:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by Steven W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well gotta hold it all up inside not unless if you could have a good talk with your boss provided if she is not a choosy sort of person.
2006-12-20 01:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by maggotier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋