sex vs masturbation. help me please..?

Question

my boyfriend want to have sex intercourse with me.
i dont want to do that, and he understands.
the problem is, i heard many people say that boys at his age has a high sexual need, and if they dont have sexual intercourse, it would be very bad for their health.
i do believe my boyfriend (like other guys in the world) do maturbation, but wouldn't it be bad for him?
i often heard that masturbation for man (as for gurls) can make your *...* become less sensitive.
what should i do?

Answer 1

MASTURBATION MYTHS:
from http://www.jackinworld.com/library/myths.html

Chances are, of all the things you've heard about masturbation, most of them were absolutely false. For some reason, misinformation surrounds masturbation like virtually no other topic. How do you spot a masturbation myth? One simple method is to ask yourself if the statement is also true of sexual intercourse. When you're masturbating, your body only knows it's getting sexually stimulated; it doesn't know by what means. So, for instance, if the question is whether or not masturbation causes acne, think of it this way: If it did, intercourse would also cause acne. In fact, neither masturbation nor intercourse cause acne.

MYTH:
Masturbation causes hair to grow on your palms.
FACT:
How many people with hair on their palms have you seen?
MYTH:
Masturbation causes hair loss, chronic fatigue, and other problems.
FACT:
Internet scam artists have tried to invent a concept called "overmasturbation," insisting that you have to buy their expensive herbal pills in order to counteract the effect of masturbating more than a couple of times per week. But the pills have absolutely no effect — and masturbating once or twice a day will not make your hair fall out, or cause anything else they claim.
MYTH:
Masturbation is bad for your eyesight.
FACT:
Masturbation does not affect eyesight. This myth probably originated because boys often start having to wear glasses at about the same age they start masturbating.
MYTH:
Masturbation causes your penis to stop growing (or) to get bigger.
FACT:
Masturbation has no effect on penis size whatsoever.
MYTH:
Masturbation causes your testicles to shrink.
FACT:
Absolutely false! It is true that if you're highly aroused, your testicles become engorged with blood and may appear slightly larger and heavier, and that masturbating will make them revert to normal. But they will absolutely not be any smaller than after the last time you masturbated.
MYTH:
Masturbation causes acne.
FACT:
It doesn't cause acne. Like the eyesight myth, this is a case of two things that happen at the same time, even though one doesn't cause the other.
MYTH:
Masturbation causes sexually transmitted diseases.
FACT:
Hello? "Sexually transmitted" means from one person to another. You can't give yourself a sexually transmitted disease!
MYTH:
If you masturbate too much, you'll run out of semen and become sterile.
FACT:
Semen is a fully renewable resource. When you ejaculate semen, your body simply makes more — the same way your body makes more saliva after you spit.
MYTH:
People can tell whether you masturbate by how your penis looks.
FACT:
Masturbation does not change the appearance of your penis. (It does tend to cause an erection, but that usually goes away when you're finished.)
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Masturbation Frequency:
http://www.jackinworld.com/misc/faqtree1.html#mastfreq

How often does the average male masturbate?
It depends on a lot of factors, the most important being age. For an 18-year-old male, a rough average is once a day or so. This is slightly higher for younger teenagers — maybe 10 or 12 times a week, and slightly lower for older people. You might be surprised by how often adult men masturbate — even happily married men.

I think I'm addicted to masturbation. Is that possible?
It is, although many, many people think they're addicted when they're really just doing what comes naturally. For more on this topic, read the article Is Masturbation Addictive?(http://www.jackinworld.com/library/articles/addict.html).

How can I masturbate less often, or quit altogether?
It's tough; it takes a lot of will power. It can be done, especially if you're driven by very strong religious feelings. However, JackinWorld's position is that it's not worth it. We think you should enjoy the harmless pleasures your body can provide.

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Connection between ejaculation frequency and prostate health
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/4961.html

QUESTION:
I have been coming across articles on the connection between masturbation, ejaculation, and overall health. I was very surprised about this article from the Cancer Council Victoria in Australia . It was a study that confirmed that ejaculation frequency is important for a healthy prostate. The protective effect was most significant in men in their twenties who ejaculated on average 7 or more times per week. It compared this against same-age men who ejaculated less than 3 times per week. I made a New Year's resolution to pay attention to my body and to ejaculate at least once a day. I feel much better for it and my penis strength and sexual urge has increased immensely. I feel balanced. After a year, I can't imagine going back to my old repressed frequency and probably couldn?t keep from cumming for a whole day if I tried now. Why aren?t people made aware of this need? After getting used to daily +, I often have the urge to do it even more, but hold back. Are there any physical problems with over ejaculating?

ANSWER:
What a fabulous New Year’s resolution to pay attention to your body! Your efforts are worth applauding, as being in tune with yourself and your new masturbation schedule seems to have paid off, as you note that you feel “balanced” and “much better for it.” Happily, no physical problems are associated with over-ejaculating, so don’t worry about giving in to the natural urge to enjoy and pleasure yourself more often. You clearly have a strong awareness of the positive effects of masturbation on your body, so go ahead and experiment with masturbation frequency – in this way, you can determine what frequency feels best for you and your regular routine.

You also ask why people aren’t made aware of the “need” to masturbate often. Good question – especially in light of the study’s findings that frequent ejaculation helps reduce the risk of prostate cancer. Unfortunately, self-stimulation – as with most sexual acts – is often viewed as shameful, dirty, immoral, and all sorts of other negative adjectives. Wouldn’t it be great if masturbation could be seen as the healthy, enjoyable, and beneficial activity it really is, openly talked about and (gasp!) endorsed? Perhaps one day it will be – with more people like you who are open-minded and bold enough to talk about it in a positive light.

Enjoy – and pass that article along to friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, and anybody and everybody else!

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with masturbation. It will cause you to be less sensitive.

Women have been masturbating for years and have the great ability of being able to do it in public without anyone knowing about it by pressing their thighs together in the right manner. Women who used to work in sewing factories using the old foot peddle sewing machines discovered this and many would have several orgasms a day.

Men on the other hand (no pun intended) need a little privacy for obvious reasons and are a bit messy.

Masturbation can relieve built up sexual tension and can be very relaxing. If he wants to masturbate, let him have his fun there is nothing wrong with it.

Answer 3

Don't have intercourse until YOU are ready for it. There is no deadline at all! Your boyfriend should be (and probably is) masturbating. That practice is completely normal and completely healthy. If he chooses not to do that (which I doubt!), nocturnal emissions (wet dreams) will take care of the built up semen. Don't worry about masturbation making his penis less sensitive either! Guys use all the excuses in the world to get girls to have sex with them...they always have and they always will...but you have the absolute right to say NO and if you are young and not ready for it that is absolutely the proper response. A guy who leaves his girlfriend because she won't have sex with him isn't worth having (period!).

That being said, I don't see too much wrong with mutual masturbation between young people...or just giving him a hand job if you don't want him to touch you down there. Guys do like that (it feels better than doing it yourself!) and it's much safer and less serious than actual intercourse. That's up to you though...don't do anything you feel you are not ready for or don't want to do! It's your body...and your life! Good luck!

Answer 4

It is NOT bad for his health. That is a lie that some guys made up, so that they could get sex from their girl friends. While guys do have a very strong sex drive, not having sex is NOT harmful in anyway.

On the flip side, having sex could BE harmful to you. You could get pregnant, or get an STD, or possible both. Even if you use birth control and/or a condom, there is still possibility for you to get pregnant. Birth control can fail, and condoms can break.

So looking at it from the health stand point, I'd say NOT having sex is the best option.

Answer 5

Well thats kind of obvious. Masturbation was never and will never be comparable to sex. haha.

Answer 6

I think you should have sex, it's greeeeeeeeaaaaaat!!