2006-12-19 13:49:18 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask if you can watch, and if you can bring a date!
2006-12-19 13:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First question: How SURE are you that your wife is thinking of cheating? If so...
Whether its now or later your wife will likely cheat if she's thinking about it now. You can confront her, perhaps get to the bottom of things (maybe counseling for you both before its too late) or hang on to what you know to discover what exactly is going on.
Only my opinion, and I believe (with very few exceptions but your situation being one) that nothing should be kept from your wife (that you know about the possibility of her cheating). However, can you be sure your wife will be truthful if you confront her? Might she then 'cover her tracks' only to have you face this same situation again in a year or two?
It all really depends on how much you love her and want to still be married.
Act now you stand a better chance of saving your marriage.
Acting later, and you will likely have an advantage in a divorce settlement.
I know that sounds shallow, but if she's cheating she deserves what she gets. You should certainly prepare yourself using the knowledge you have now to be better off in the future...whether its saving your marriage or starting a divorce.
If I was in your shoes, I'd be reluctant to tip my hand too early. (I apologize for the analogy, I know this isn't a game...just want to get my point across).
Choice is yours.
2006-12-19 14:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to look at your marriage. What is going on? Yes you need to talk to her about this, but decide what you want the outcome to be before you do it. And look at how you are treating her. Most women (not all there are some who are are selfish and have no morals) don't cheat easily. We are designed differently than men.
For men sexual attraction can be uncontrollable. Sex is physical. If men and women fight men think if we have sex we will be ok, women think when we are ok then I will be interested in sex. Sex for a woman is about her ability to feel loved and beautiful. It is an emotional connection that results in a physical action.
So, what is going on at home? If you are having problems, neglecting each other, forgetting to flirt, snuggle, or make each other feel attractive, then you need to work on it.
If you honestly look at things at home and it looks ok to you and she is just the type who runs around, then you might think about moving on. At that point she doesn't honor promises or commitments and that will not change.
Good Luck with this.
2006-12-19 14:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by micheletmoore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes talk to her. She will either be so embarrassed that you found out that she will cut it out or if she is really into this guy you might already be too late. Either way you shouldn't sit on the sidelines and pretend nothing is happening. You may be in time to stop it before some further damage is done to your marriage. It is to salvageable. Good Luck
2006-12-19 13:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by hockey2525 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, confront her! do not believe it till you find out if it's really true or not, sometimes people like to talk & gossip that the wrong information gets twisted into something totally the opposite. She's innocent until proven guilty. GO TALK TO HER.
2006-12-19 13:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , find out want she is looking for you need to be her friend now more than ever . Wemon cheat from a lack of emotional "conection at home" talk to her and listen until you understand.
2006-12-19 14:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must do that. Besides, you must do some introspection. What caused her to do such a thing? Is some thing lacking in your relationship? Be honest to yourself. If she is missing some thing talk it over with her and give her love and respect both. She will not look at another man.
2006-12-19 14:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm sorry. Second of all, over the years my stand against affairs has become even stronger because of the risk of sexually transmitted diseases, many of which are incurable and some of which are deadly. You must confront her, and you must insist on fidelity. If she can't be faithful, she could be putting your health at risk. It's not worth it.
2006-12-19 13:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should definately confront her. But before you do how did you find out the information? Was it from a relible source?
2006-12-19 13:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. before she does something really stupid, find out why she's even considering such a thing. Is your marriage having problems? Are you the problem?
2006-12-19 14:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by chewp2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely u need to confront her, tell her how u feel, and how much this has hurt u. wait for her response, if she loves u she will agree to seeing a council er, or your minister, if she isn't really interested she will refuse to go. it is definitely something u need to talk over, before what she is planning becomes a reality.
2006-12-19 13:54:57 · answer #11 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋