I'm 30 yrs old and my baby's father is 26yrs old with two children by another young lady and he is not married at all. But he is very supportive of me. He is no longer with or seeing the young lady at all. He is mainly concerned about me and how the baby is doing. What should I say to my mother?
2006-12-19 13:42:35 · 12 answers · asked by Divalady29 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Good luck on that one. Your best bet is to just come out and tell her and let her know how you feel about him and his invlovement in raising the baby. I fshe has a problem just tell her you are a grown woman and you can handle it on your own if needed.
2006-12-19 14:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I read your post, several problems jumped out at me.
First, that you are 30 years old and don't know how to talk to your own mother and need/want her approval. Second, that you are asking strangers on Yahoo! Answers advice on talking to your mom. Third, that you are pregnant and unmarried. Fourth, that the father has two children with someone else and he is not seeing her at all. Does he see the kids?
I guess to answer your question, I guess there are several ways to tell a parents their grown daughter is pregnant. One might be to visit her wearing a "Baby on Board" t-shirt with a big arrow pointing down. One might be to start addressing her as "Grandma" and winking at her meaningfully. Another might be to send her an anonymous letter. However I prefer the mature approach, you could just tell her in person and let the chips fall where they may. After you've found out if she's receptive to the idea (assuming you want her to be a part of the child's life), it might be nice if you and the father of this baby could visit her together after you've made your announcement where she can meet him (if she hasn't already) and get to know him (if she doesn't already) and he can tell her his plans to take care of you and his child. I'm sure that will go a long way to soothing any apprehension she has.
2006-12-19 21:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he being a responsible father and supporting the 2 children he has already had? Getting pregnant without the benefit of a committed marriage is foolish. You are 30 years of age, just tell your parents.
2006-12-19 21:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 30 and really have to ask this question. I understand the matter of respect for your mother but she has done her part and raised you to an adult. Tell her she is going to be a grandmother and if she wants a part of it thats great if not you are going to raise you child to be a respectful adult like she did for you. I wuz 21 when I got pregnant and my mother was the first person I told because she had no choice but to understand that I am giving her a grandchild. And she is very happy. Give it a try, good luck!!!!!!!!
2006-12-19 21:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by blaqie2284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a grown woman and why should have to validate your pregnancy?! this should be one of the happiest times in your life! However, I hope you are not still living with your mom! IF so, I could see some concern about you telling her! but, if you are supporting yourself then just tell her! She will probably be too happy right now to be concerned with the other details!
2006-12-19 21:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welll I would suggest sitting down with her and just telling her. Not over the phone, but actually in person. You are a grown woman, and there is nothing wrong with having a baby. Just explain to your mother that she is going to have a beautiful grandbaby! That should make her feel wonderful!!!!!
2006-12-19 21:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by race_goddess_420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give them a christmas card for christmas that says your going to be a grand mother she should be happy and will be supportive about it, i told my mom over the phone and i didnt think she would be happy cause i just graduated high school but she was very supportive youll be suprized at the reaction youll get and remember your 30 hun thats not old yet but you also arent getting any younger good luck and congrats
2006-12-19 21:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her--you're 30, not 13. This is her grandchild...irregardless of paternity or any other "facts" at play...her heart may even adopt the other 2......
2006-12-19 21:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by beetlejuice49423 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi grandma!
2006-12-19 21:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by JS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask your mom; "Mom where do babies come from"? Then after she tell you, just say; "Aha, so that how it happened. Well, mom, I got one, wish you told me this sooner".
2006-12-19 21:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋