He's just being very hard-hearted right now & stubborn. He lives with a woman, too, that I know he doesn't love.It's most likely because he can't stand to be alone. What can I do to soften his heart for me again? We have 3 beautiful daughters together.
I left him about a year ago due to his drinking & taking drugs.I felt uneasy at that time & was thinking of the kids, too. I do remember alot of good times in our many years together & I guess I just still need the man he was. My girls talk about him alot & he does call them & I guess that's what's keeping me still *involved* with him & my feelings, too. IT's just so hard. So many years together. I get asked out by other men, but just don't want to go. My heart is still with my ex. Everytime I think I've moved on...it happens again. Those memories...our family the way it used to be...
2006-12-19 13:41:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are crazy...I would take him back after he has been with other woman...
2006-12-19 13:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I think whenever you've spent a great deal of time with a person there's always that part of you that wants the good parts back, and it's harder when you have 3 beautiful reminders of the time you did have together. The unfortunate part is that unless you're sure he's changed, those nagging things that pushed you apart before are still there and will inevitably drive you apart again. My ex and I have gone through the same thing for the past 9 years. There are times when I miss him horribly - we were married almost 10 years and were together long before that, and have known each other since we were very small, but those things that we couldn't stand about each other when we lived with each other, those little things that caused those huge fights, they're still there - we just don't remember them as well now that we're not living together anymore.
2006-12-19 21:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by playing_shy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, your key phrase of the whole paragraph is the last six words "the way it used to be". Please remember that an ex is an ex for a reason and he has moved on. You may be right about him not loving the woman he's with now, but he doesn't love you (or the kids, at least not enough) either. He loves himself and his "habits" and until HE decides that he's killing himself, don't fall back into his web and let him kill you with him (I don't mean kill you literally - I mean kill you mentally and emotionally). You were strong enough to leave him because you knew you had to in order to survive. You had years together with him and have only had one year away from him. You may be wise not to be dating yet, but don't lock yourself up to the point that you suffocate. Because you have children together, he will always be a part of your life, but being a "part" of it doesn't mean "being" it. Be good to yourself, hon. Don't revisit the past. Move forward, one step at a time. Don't look back with longing on something that caused you so much pain and grief. Find some joy. You deserve it. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-12-19 22:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by nana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are out of your mind??? If you left him because of drinking and drugs why would you even be considering bring him back into your home with your daughters??? You should not be giving a damn about the past only the future. If you take this man back into your house what are you telling your daughters???? Hello is anybody home ??? This is your mind with a reality check
2006-12-19 22:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by sun4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey listen you describe yourself as happy mum, Focus on your girls and try to forget about your ex,i know you have probably been told this a hundred times but you know it is true.
You sound like a good person and a good mom for getting you and your kids away from a drug and alcohol taking dad,think of why you left to begin with and try taking up the next offer of a date,you might surprise yourself and find that you can be happy again.
I really do wish you and your girls a happy futher,your ex has ruled your past do not let him rule your futher.
Take Care my dear
2006-12-19 21:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by irishson 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to a counselor and make sure your feelings for him are true. I mean do you really love him or do you miss the comforts of having someone around that you know well? I would talk to someone about it and make sure what you are really wanting to do is what you are really wanting to do for the right reasons. I hope this makes sense. Good luck.
2006-12-19 22:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't get him back, he would have to come back. Even then he will never be the man he once was. I am so sorry. Mend your heart, learn to enjoy old fashioned dating again. Next time a nice man shows interest...you know what to do.
Peace :)
2006-12-19 21:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by rezany 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's exactly what your involved with, the way things used to be, which is fantasy, rather than they way it is, which is reality. You must remember the messages you are teaching those 3 beautiful daughters...
2006-12-19 22:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't just go wanting him back because it's the easier less unknown path in your life. you left for a reason. is he still drinking and using drugs? what about your kids? sometimes we want things for the wrong reasons. you gotta believe that you deserve more than that. you and your kids deserve happiness.
2006-12-19 21:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by Kristin G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-08-18 18:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of geting back your ex again in your life you should marry some nice caring guy.
2006-12-19 22:20:03 · answer #11 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋