if my daughter is 16 should i let her get married?

Question

my daughter is 16 and her boyfriend has asked her to marry her. it seems like she is really in love but i dont want to make the wrong choice.

Answer 1

*** i was 17 when i got married. i really wish my parents had stopped me although i may not have agreed at the time. everyone thought i was in the perfect relationship and that i was so in love. i ended up staying w/ him for 17 yrs, and it wasn't until i finally left him that they found out that he'd been abusive all along. i kept his secret really well.

if it were me in your situation i think i'd try to talk to her and let her know that if this is real and if they are in love then waiting a little while longer won't hurt anything....they'll just love each other even more after the wait.

Answer 2

Why, why, why would you let her get married at 16? If they really love each other, then they can wait until she is 18. They don't have to rush things. I can't believe you are even considering letting her get married. She is so young and has so much growing up to do. She would be missing the most important years of her life and the experience of growing up naturally. Why would you take that away from her? You would definitely be making the wrong choice by letting her get married. Don't let this be your big mistake! She needs your love and your understanding about why she is too young to be married. Please, give her a chance to grow up!

Answer 3

I agree with everyone else in that 16 is a very young age to get married. I remember back to when I was 16, I thought I knew everything and was old enough to make my own decisions. However, over the years, I've realized that there is so much self-discovery to be made and people change so quickly. I know this happens at every age, but especially in your teens. I think that if they love each other, they can wait. No need to rush into marriage . . . love is what it is.

Answer 4

As a parent, it is our job to protect our children. Even if that means protecting them from themselves. At 16, she is still a child in so many ways. Her brain is not done developing yet (that is a medical fact). She may truely believe she is in love, who am I to discourage young love- songs have been written all about just that. But the probability of this lasting is slim. She has her whole life in front of her. There is plenty of time for her to get married if she still wants to down the road. Heck if this is true love, it will stand the test of time. Graduating high school is an absolute must. I would highly encourage her to graduate college before she does decide to get married. That way she will be more capable of pursuing a career. If she still wants to get married then, fine. She can still be a career woman and a wife at the same time. Or, she can just be a really great mom and wife. But with the college education, she will have far more options. Wouldn't you want that for her. Of course you do. Now you have your answer. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Take it from someone who got married at 16 -
I was so in love to, I thought! It only lasted 2 years.
Don't let her if they really love each other they can wait until she is 18, and if it doesn't last that long then she will be glad you said no.
I wish I would of listened when people told me you just think you are in love , yes I was vary mature but not that mature, I don't think any 16 year old is.

Answer 6

Nice parenting skills that you are looking to a bunch of strangers for the most obvious answer! Do you let a four year old drive a car? NO. Do you let a 9 year old get drunk? Of course not! Then why would you let a 16 year old enter into an ADULT contract of marriage when she is still a child? Will you be serving sparkling cider for her wedding toast? Wow, the absolute refusal of some people to see the obvious confounds me.

Answer 7

I'm not saying it wouldn't work because no one knows for sure, but my daughter started going with her boyfriend when she was 14, he was 18. He graduated and has stayed her boyfriend for over 3 years now. She will graduate in May, turn 18 in early September and the wedding is planned later in September. I said all of that to show you that if he really loves her then he'll wait for her to get out of school. I don't know how old your daugher's boyfriend is but if he's older then he could be working saving money for their house.

Answer 8

Oh no. She is only 16 come on mom you remember how you were at 16 don't ya? At 16 you change your mind more then you change your undies. I wouldn't let her get married this early. It is hard to keep a marriage going and she needs time to just be a kid before she experiences this life lesson.

Answer 9

when i was 16 i was in love too. i mean head over heels in love. but at that age you are not ready for marriage. even though i was in love then, i am very thankful that i was not allowed to get married. people grow and change. neither of us are the same people we were then. i doubt anyone is the same as they were at 16. if they are really in love, why can't they wait 2 more years?

Answer 10

well you know back in the old days they got married at 13 years old. I think every child matures at different speeds. I also think that if they are so in love then they will still be in love when she is old enough to marry on her own. Besides let it be her decision, if you sign for her you are telling her it is ok. And if it does for some reason not work out she wont be able to say mom why did you let me get married. and if it fails before they marry think of the crap you saved her from.