I suspect that my boyfriend is secretly gay. When we have sex, he insists that I stick my finger in his rear end. There was another instance where he suggested that I get a strap on for me to use on him. We were having sex one time and he got on his hands and knees and asked me to pretend that I was doing him from the back. Then he asked me if he could have anal sex with me. Also, when he fantasizes, he always talks about people sticking things in his rear, or riding him hard. I confronted him about it, and he said that he can't help that the prostrate is the most sensitve part of the body and he likes it stimulated, he denys being gay. Then he got mad because he said that I was questioning his sexuality and challenging his manhood. I think he is gay but doesn't have the courage to admit it. All around he is a good guy, but the bedroom stuff is just really freaky. Do you think he's gay or does he just like the anal stimulation?
2006-12-19 13:11:57 · 28 answers · asked by mimi g 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't know why people don't get this. It has nothing to do with being gay. It has to do with the male anatomy. Because there's alot of nerve endings in that area both men and women can find anal stimulation pleasurable. With men that's how the prostate gland is stimulated. Stimulation of the prostate gland intensifies orgasms in men. People associate anal sex with gay men but with gay men oral sex and manual stimulation is much more common.
2006-12-19 19:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, the way you put it, he does sound a little on the gay side. Give it a little more time and if he does more feminine things with you then sit him down and ask him flat out without being rude or disrespectful. You don't want to hurt his feelings, so the best thing to do is to just ask him in your own sweet way. Now don't be shocked if he gets offended at first, the first reaction is usually the correct one. Just tell him that you are not trying to hurt his feelings, you just want to know where you guys stand in relationship wise. And then if you feel like the relationship isn't getting any better, suggest friendship. You can't go wrong with friendship, and there's nothing like having a gay guy as a friend. They usually make the bestest friends. Oh yea, and just because a gay maybe a male cheerleader, that really doesn't make him gay. Try to think if you see another male cheerleader that maybe he didn't make the football team. I hope everything works out for you. God Bless
2016-05-22 22:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is My Boyfriend Gay
2016-10-06 02:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by kryst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is correct, the male G-spot (Graffenberg spot) IS the Prostrate and the easiest way to it is THROUGH THE ANUS. It does not make him gay, anymore than sticking a penis in a lesbian makes her straight. People confuse having sex with orientation, they are not the same thing. You can do things sexually that will not "make you anything," but can be out of your comfort zone. Being Gay is about who you "love and have sexual thoughts about" on a constant basis, not a one time thing. Being gay is a life experience, not a one time experience.
Your boyfriend is just "open" to new ideas and you should applaud him for that, give the guy a break.
2006-12-19 13:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that that's more of the anal stimulation rather than him being homosexual. Although it is a possibility. However, I suggest you might want to drop the subject since he sounds rather uncomfortable about it and I think a lot of guys would be if someone is questioning their sexuality.
Do you feel that he truly loves you? There's also the chance that he could be bisexual. Just be there for him when he needs support.
2006-12-19 13:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lotii 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to watch him closer out of the bed room and see how he act and who he reacts to. He may not be gay and just enjoy anal stimulation like he said. Enjoying that and being attracted to men is what the "fine line" will en tell.
2006-12-19 13:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by Tanya B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am alot like him. I have been married to a female for 6 years now and I am not gay. I do like what you described but it's only sexual. I do not find men attractive. I don't want to kiss a man or marry a man but I do like the stimulation. I say indulge his fantasies but make sure he indulges some of yours.
2006-12-19 13:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by frozen339 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i dont think he's gay he just likes things that deal with his a** so hey mayb thats what floats his boat you cant hate him for it but if u feel uncomfortable then mayb you should talk to him in another way not asking is he gay but askin him about the whole thing of loveing anal sex
2006-12-19 14:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by CiCi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Back Door Action doesn't make him gay, But my question is this, how did he know he likes to be stimulated there in the first place?
2006-12-19 13:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by 520 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does he watch Broke Back Mountain like he is on staff as an editor?
Does he ask what your brothers are doing all the time?
Does he ever ask you to dress up like Mr. Belding from Saved By The Bell and call him Zack as you man handle him?
If you said yes to any of these then we have a problem.
2006-12-19 13:15:46 · answer #10 · answered by Husker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋