Do guys really fall in love?

Question

if so I would love an explanation as to why it's so hard for them to express it.

Answer 1

guys do fall in love but not everyone the same. some guys can express it some not. why...simply because they just don't know how to do it. but that doesn't mean that their not in love.

Answer 2

Everyone falls in love, even men. However, a lot of the time, men (especially straight men) have a difficult time expressing what women would classify being in love. Men are socialized beginning at a very early age that they are supposed to be tough. Society teaches men that the expression of most emotions is a weakness and the emotions that are typically accepted for men are happy and mad. Often, we find that many men who have be pushed into this mind set, every emotion outside of these two get funneled into anger.

Sadly, this mimics how more traditional values have differentiated the sexes. Men have been seens as the strong person, providing for and protecting the family. Women have been seen as the weaker sex. Luckily, beliefs are changing and we are learning to treat both men and women more equally, appreciating the natural differences rather than exploiting them.

Answer 3

Because of society's stereotypes, subliminally for a man to show love it is considered feminine and in a male dominated society those are signs of weakness. It also has to do with opening up ones inner self and exposing that love to the world. When men do that they become vulnerable because it defies the prescribed stereotypes of manhood and what it means.

"A man is no more vulnerable, than when he is in love."
The shortsighted are in love.-- Sometimes it requires only a stronger pair of spectacles to cure the lover, and he who had the imagination to picture a face, a figure twenty years older would perhaps pass through life very undisturbed.

from Nietzsche's Human, all too Human, s.413, R.J. Hollingdale transl.

Cause of 'altruism'.-- Men have on the whole spoken of love with such emphasis and so idolized it because they have had little of it and have never been allowed to eat their fill of this food: thus it became for them 'food of the gods'. Let a poet depict a utopia in which there obtains universal love, he will certainly have to describe a painful and ludicrous state of affairs the like of which the earth has never yet seen - everyone worshipped, encumbered and desired, not by one lover, as happens now, but by thousands, indeed by everyone else, as the result of an uncontrollable drive which would then be as greatly execrated and cursed as selfishness had been in former times; and the poets in that state of things - provided that they were left alone long enough to write - would dream of nothing but the happy, loveless past, of divine selfishness, of how it was once possible to be alone, undisturbed, unloved, hated, despised on earth, and whatever else may characterize the utter baseness of the dear animal world in which we live.

from Nietzsche's Daybreak,s. 147, R.J. Hollingdale transl


Remedium amoris.-- The cure for love is still in most cases that ancient radical medicine: love in return.

from Nietzsche's Daybreak, s. 415, R.J. Hollingdale transl


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Answer 4

Because all our lives we're taught to play War, with trucks and to pick ourselves up when we fall and not to cry about it. In other words, to be self-reliant. Now, suddenly we're supposed to be expressing our emotions to someone, something that we've never done before? How do you do something you've never done? You have to be shown and it needs to be in a comfortable, safe setting where its just you and him. This way he feels safe letting his guard down. This way he can express himself without worry or fear of being overheard and possibly being made fun of by other guys. Its easier for girls, their taught to be loving, expressive and to be open about their thoughts. To share when their feelings are hurt and to dream about what mates they want. How many men do you know that has "dreamed" about his wedding day for years like most women have? Not many!

Answer 5

I fell in love two times. The reasons why men don't express it is probably a masculine thing, guys like to show they are strong and fearless, but not wimpy and nervous.

Answer 6

I fell in love with Dawn. I had to leave her because she started doing drugs. I will never love again. like dolphins do ,they love a mate and when it dies they never fall in love again and go out into the ocean by themselves for the rest of there life's.I hate it that I am that way.

Answer 7

Of course they do. Men are just as human as women. Generally, it's easier for women to express their feelings than men. That doesn't mean that men love any less.

Answer 8

Men love, but they love differently than women from my experience. It is as if they are more reserved than women who seem to be able to love and express it more openly.

It is as if men are harder and hide their sweetness within...whereas the women I have loved were more open and expressive.

But, they do love it is just a little different.

IMHO

Answer 9

yes. but sometimes guys want to seem too tough in front of other woman, but other times, if you are really in love with someone, guys should NOT be afraid to express it!! belive me, girls like it more when thier man expresses their love for them

Answer 10

Guys do fall in love, I certainly have. The girls I've dated, I've loved very much, even if some didn't truly love me in return.

...and to respond to one of the other answers...
I, for one, have always wanted to get handfasted (equivalent to a wedding).