I feel turned on by the idea of being sexually dominated by a man, but I feel like it is wrong for me to feel this way, especially since forced sex is a crime and a serious problem!
Why are some women turned on by it? Is it wrong?
2006-12-19 12:42:04 · 13 answers · asked by cajun m 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First of all, BD/SM isn't "forced sex." Its sex that's between two (or more) consensual adults. Most often its done with a "safe word" in order to keep it safe for the one who is the "bound one." That is if you begin to feel uncomfortable or in pain, speak the safe word to be released.
The turn on is by allowing others to make decisions for you. By turning yourself over to someone else's care, allowing them to do "as they will" with you. In essence, surrendering to their will. By doing this, you find your true worth in how they treat you. And, its only wrong if you get hurt physically, which should never happen (well, to any bad degree) after all, some pain can be stimulating.
2006-12-19 14:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong...assuming it's safe, sane, and consensual. I don't think you're actually looking for a stranger to come and force you to do something against your will. If you're looking for more of a power exchange, where a dominant "forces" you to do things that you may have only fantasized about...well, what's not to like?
2006-12-20 18:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by Mistress_Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong..
There is a differance between rape and rough forceful sex, just make sure everyone you do anything with knows that
There are legal "dungeons" that do it for you..tottally legally, the government would allow that if it was not okay
not neccessarrelly the norm, but hell, normal people suck
2006-12-19 21:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ethernaut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything really wrong with bondage, as long as all parties involved completely consent to the practice. Both you and your partner need to know one another's boundaries so that things don't get out of control later on down the road. Have fun and crack that whip like you've never cracked it before!
2006-12-19 21:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
submissive urges are common in people.
I suggest you contact a local BDSM group and see if they
have any classes or socials. not a party where they "do it"
but some other social function.
Many of them are social and educational clubs. Like this one:
www.bess-md.org
You can meet some of these people and ask questions.
tom
2006-12-20 12:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by a1tommyL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would it be wrong?
If you feel it's wrong then ask yourself why? Things that ARE wrong are readily apparent. But social mores, expecially among women (many of whom are taught that only whores like sex) feel that enjoying sex is wrong. It's not of course.
Enjoy.
2006-12-19 20:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It alleviates the guilt that was programmed into us about having sex ("good girls don't"). If we are being dominated, it's not our fault. Sad but true.
And no, it's not wrong; whatever turns you on is OK!
2006-12-19 20:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Large Richard 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being into BDSM.
2006-12-20 00:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like it then it's right for you. i've read the rape/domination fantasy is rather common in the U.S. i think it has more to do with wanting to be very desirable rather than to be abused. part of life is learning who we are. enjoy.
2006-12-19 21:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as it feels good and you and your partner are comfortable with it then it's ok...if you change your mind or want them to stop and they don't then you have problems...make sure your partner knows how to tell when you realy want them to stop or when something is really uncomfortable during sexplay!!!
2006-12-19 21:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by Vox Populi Vox Dei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋