Has anyone ever done this and had it work out?Our history is as follows:We met when i was 22 and just got a job ,he was indierectly my boss ,and was 13 yrs older than me.I had a child from a previous relationship who was 5 yrs old but some how we got married a year later , were married for 7.5 yrs, and had twins together.The reason for the divorce was the age difference and the fact that i felt i was too young to be married.I dated around after that and eventually ran into my eldest daughter biological father married him it lasted 3 yrs, and had my youngest child.After that failed marriage i started dating men in their mid to late 20's which was fun for a while but i got over it.The only man other than my father too see me through all of this and still be my best friend was my first hubby.We have started dating again and he might propose christmas day .
2006-12-19 12:39:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 36 yrs old and feel ready to settle down .
2006-12-19 12:42:21 · update #1
also any advice on how to deal with the baggage so that it does not interfer with the relationship?
2006-12-19 12:44:21 · update #2
I dont think i ever fell out of love with him
2006-12-19 12:50:01 · update #3
Why get legally married? Be partners, and if it doesn't work out, the split is much, much simpler.
2006-12-19 12:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your ex husband has stuck around through all of that I would say he obviously loves you. If you love him then yes marry him again. But make sure that you are not going to mess him about. He is obviously sweet and kind but it would be unfair to treat him badly and hurt him again. Marriage is really for life and it is a very serious commitment. Think seriously.
I would suggest some premarital counseling both separately for you and together to deal with any thing that may be there. I would argue that the reason that you have run around as you have is to do with a deeper issue than being too young to settle down.
2006-12-19 12:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by JAM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, he sounds like a great guy. if he wants you back, and if you're going to treat him right, and never hurt him again, I'd say marry him. he sounds like one in a million. and it sounds like you've learned some lessons the hard way and you see that you had the best man in the first place.
now as far as letting things from the past get in the way, don't worry about that, it will all work out. just focus on a better and brighter future with a good man who obviously loves you very much.
I Wish you both the very Best.
2006-12-19 12:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well done, I don't think many will have your experience.
Age should not be the basis for divorce, with age comes wisdom (or so I heard).
You sounded to be a person who still like to play around instead of setttling down.
How are your kids doing? Do you love them?
Think carefully, cause you are not young anymore. What women wants? What do you want?
2006-12-19 12:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by ricodzeus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are honest about your history, and you have sowed your wild seeds forevermore, and he deeply loves you and has the patience to put up with your mood swings, then go for it.
I have to say this: the guy deserves a medal if he takes you back into his heart again - this time, don't screw up - make this time last till one of you widows.
Best to you, I hope the kids are ok with all of this daddying and re-daddying bit.
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2006-12-19 12:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow. you're 36? you were old enough to have 3 kids, but you weren't old enough to be married? you need counseling honey, not a husband.
he sounds like a good man, but in all sincerity, you sound like someone who only wants what you want. very selfish. try doing something self-less, let a good woman get that good man.
i hope for his sake that he either doesn't propose, or if he does, you say no.
you really need to get some counseling...
2006-12-19 13:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by mama dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a very good man. The age difference is still there, and you both are older. Seems like it would be up to you, whether or not it worked out. I don't think he deserves to be hurt again by you.
2006-12-19 12:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by NAN G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you better be sure ,poor man must of really loved you to consider marrying you again after leaving him because of his age if you do try harder not to hurt him again.and for the children's sake stop remarrying their fathers that must be up setting to them. hope it works out what ever you decide and have a merry Christmas.
2006-12-19 12:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by deedee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a real winner. Why don't you just get married about 5 more times and have some more kids with all of them.
2006-12-19 12:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should have been ready to settle down before you had all of these kids. Hope it works out for you.
2006-12-19 12:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if you love one another and he ask you then go for it. Seems you have done your running around and tried to see what the world had to offer you. So if you truly are in love with him then make it work and live happily ever after ! Best of luck to you
2006-12-19 12:43:56 · answer #11 · answered by young at heart 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋