i have a boyfriend but my friends dont like him. they dont like him because he is the one who broke up to the girl in the other room. my freinds doesnt know that he is already my boyfriend. my freinds told me that if i will talk to him, they will not treat me as friend but as an enemy.. i love my friends but i also love my boyfriend. he even give me a flower, but our relationship is just secret. only my boyfriend and i know about our relationship. what will i do? will i end our friendship for the relationship or will i end the relationship for the friendship?
2006-12-19 12:25:47 · 9 answers · asked by destiny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The choice is clear...
People have no right to tell you what to do.
And if your friends are making threat against you in order to get their way...they are not really friends...are they?
Furthermore...if your boyfriend broke up with the other girl to be with you...you are in ever more trouble with your so called friends.
All sound very childish...but I take that you are at school.
So it does make sense.
All that say...if your friends find out...they are going to make your life "hell". You need to ask yourself if it is worth it...and will you be able to cope with that?
2006-12-19 12:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is more pertinent than you think. Will you do something for the sake of saving other people or for the sake of saving one person? How do you feel about saving one or the other? If you do one or the other will it make you sad and will you one day regret what you did? What do you think you should do? What would happen if you did nothing? These are questions only you can answer, no one else. I can tell you that if my friends told me that if I did not stop seeing a certain person or talkiong to him that they were no longer considering me their friend it would make me angry. I think you should do what you feel is best and that is exactly what I would do. Don't let anyone intimidate you for any reason. It is your life and yours only. You must live the life you feel is best for you and make the decisions that you feel will be best for you in the long run.
2006-12-19 12:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship and family will be there for you. I suggest you look long and hard at what you have written.
If he broke up with the girl in the other room, what makes you any different than her? If your all friends, I would say stay friends with your friends and cut your looses with him...... He is not worth the headaches I think your going to have with him in your life.
2006-12-19 12:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide which relationship is more important to you. Let your friends know what is happening. See what their reaction is. They may decide not to have anything to do with you when he is around. They honestly need to respect you decision and not ruin the friendship but if he broke up with her, then her feelings are going to determine her decisions, not what is right.
2006-12-19 12:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friends are trying to control your choices. I suppose you could stand up for him when your friends are criticizing him. Maybe they will listen to you. Do they know something you don't? Is he a bad person or are they just mad at him for no good reason? Tell them that you think they are being unfair and that he really is a decent person.
2006-12-19 12:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by TruBlevr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life and your choice. Do not be afraid to make the choice for you. Just make sure nobody wants to sleep with you and dump you like the other person. Be smart and let your relationship not be all about sex.
2006-12-19 12:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol .. OK you love your boyfriend? Love is a very strong word.. OK well my theory.. men come and go .. friends are forever.. words to live by!
2006-12-19 12:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by michelle b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boyfriends come and go, but true friends last forever.
2006-12-19 12:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut him loose
2006-12-19 12:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋