I told a friend that I was going out of town for New Years with my boyfriend and she said she wanted to go. I said it was fine, figuring my boyfriend wouldn't care. Well, he did care and does not want her to come. She already asked for time off work and everything. I did tell her that me and my man were fighting a little bit (which is true) and that I didn't want to go with him! So, now that I AM ok with my boyfriend and he really wants to go, I am going with him....what do I tell my friend to NOT hurt her or make her mad at me?? I have to be careful not to upset her, because she is having a rough time right now
2006-12-19 12:22:05 · 8 answers · asked by BUTTERCUP 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her because you and your boyfriend have been having difficulties, that he wants time alone to reconnect...tell her that you feel really bad and you will make it up to her (make sure you do)...but don't wait until the last minute to tell her. Do it now...so she can make other plans or postpone her time off.
2006-12-19 12:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you are doing is wrong and unfair to your friend.
However - you are clearly in a predicament, so you owe it to her to COME CLEAN. If she is a good friend, she will be upset, but she should understand.
Don't be a coward and lie. That is NOT what friends are for.
LOOK AFTER YOUR FRIENDS - when your (selfish) boyfriend has long gone, your friend will still be there to pick up the pieces. DONT RUIN A FRIENDSHIP.
Try and make it up to her, by arranging another time out with the two of you.
Try and find her a DATE for New Years - or get her invited to another party!
2006-12-19 12:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by Biker B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone isn't going to be happy. You have to decide whether it is going to be your girlfriend or your boyfriend. Maybe you have to decide which is more important to you and which will be more understanding. The sooner you figure this out, the better.
Of course, if your boyfriend continues to not want her to go, I'm not sure you can force that issue. If he doesn't want her to go along, she can't. But, then, maybe you'll be back on the outs with him. And maybe that is okay. You have to decide that.
2006-12-19 12:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by p_carroll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would just say, "boyfriend and i were talking about new years and he really wants the evening to be just a date between him and me" it wouldn't hurt to say "i think he's popping the question" you know--even if it's not true--so that way she understands your point on it being a just you and him thing..."i really hope you understand...maybe we can get together before i go out of town or a little after!"
2006-12-19 12:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think it is wrong to un-invite anybody, especially after she took off work and everything. I'd tell my boyfriend that he should get her a blind date and all go together or not at all.
2006-12-19 12:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your "friend" had any feelings that you might hurt, she didn't display them by inviting herself to a two-alone affair. Simply tell her this is not a triple play.
2006-12-19 12:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by george dumdum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that u want it to be romantic time u would love to spend with ur bf
2006-12-19 12:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by Tara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You invited someone, you should keep your word.
2006-12-19 12:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋