What do you do if your best friend's mom has breast cancer?

Question

I have known her for 4 years and just found out that her mom has breast cancer. I dont know what to do. HELP!!

Answer 1

You sound like a lovely friend to ask that question. My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer on Monday. As a family, we are coping really well. I have, however, found that my friends have been awkward. They have either stopped contacting me or become upset.

What I really want is for my friends to be strong for me, if they start to cry then I need to support them! I really want people to listen to me, not offer their opinions - just to listen.

So please listen to your friend, be a shoulder for her to cry on. Let her know that you are available any time she needs to talk.

Answer 2

It's probably best to stay calm. You don't want yourself bursting out in tears and shock when your best friend is going through much more pain than you. You have to remember that her mother is not the only one who's had breast cancer and there is a cure so there's a very high chance she's going to be absolutely fine. I think your friend needs some support too. Send her muma card and some flowers and give your friend a big hug!

Answer 3

Just be as good of a friend as you can be to her. She will need somebody. Also, a member of my family had breast cancer and ever since I have gone on the breast cancer fundraising walk they have every year in chicago. But really just try to be there for you, because she will need someone to go to either to talk or to take her mind off of it for a while.

Answer 4

my mom had breast cancer and my best friend was crying together and also she bought my mom and i something and then like she felt bad but then my mom died but that doesn't matter just talk to Ur best friend then just tell her that she will be OK and stuff don't tell her that it could get whores just tell her everything is OK and just make her feel better just don't talk about it to much but just tell her she will be OK good luck !!!

Answer 5

that i can relate to.. two of my bestfriends mothers got breast cancer. one survived and one died. its a horrible thing to go through, i was around 12 when they both were diagnosed. so i was in for a huge shock. really your friend is going to depend on you a whole lot. their family is going through a huge transition. really all you can do is be there. make sure you talk about it, keep yourself up to date wiht details. dont try and "take their mind off it" becuase you can never suceed with that, but take em out make sure tehy continue to enjoy life, and understand that ever moment in life is special, that its amazing to wake up every morning. if your religeous remind them their motheres in your prayers. make sure they know your not going anywhere.. best of luck

Answer 6

Same thing happened to me when I was in high school. The best you can do is be very supportive of your friend and be there when she needs to talk, cry or get angry. It's the best thing you can do, just be there for her.

Answer 7

don't treat her any different, and try to keep their life normal. they probably feel like everything is falling apart, and nothing is for sure anymore. give her and her family lots of support! maybe make meals for them, because the mom doesnt want to make meals, and they might dine out too much for their liking. if she wants to talk, please don't be afraid to go into detail. but if she doesnt want to talk yet, dont worry about it. let her call the shots about it.

Answer 8

Just give her support and keep her occupy so she doesn't think about it. Keep her busy thinking about other things but cancer.

Answer 9

BE YOUR BEST AS A TRUE FRIEND

Answer 10

Cheer her up.