2006-12-19 11:59:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Home & Garden ➔ Cleaning & Laundry
I hope this is more or less generational. My husband is in his early 50s, and even though I work longer hours at a job with more responsibilities and a longer commute (and a much higher salary), he is waiting for me to fix dinner. He is blind to dust and dog hair, so it doesn't bother him to have a half inch of dust on the bookshelves or the carpet 2 shades darker from all the dog hair. Somehow I think he is still stuck in the mindset that women do the housework.
Actually, this is a very sore point with us. I resent coming home to find him playing computer games, without having done anything to clean up the house.
Why is he comfortable doing this? I guess because when I have brought it up, he gets into such an angry and defensive place that I just don't feel like going there any more. So basically, I guess it's my fault for not kicking his patootie as he so richly deserves.
I think that my son, in his mid-20s, will be better. He keeps his own place up, and when he comes by our house, he routinely sees what needs to be done and lends a hand. Let's hope that's the wave of the future....
2006-12-19 13:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by sonomanona 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a guy i can tell you that women are traditionally responsible for housework.Although i live alone and keep up the yard and maintain the property which consist of 84 acres and remodeld the entire house this year.I also work a full time job as supervisor at a medical clinic.I do understand your question and i have felt like just laying down and letting things go.We do lots of work but are lazy by nature
2006-12-23 05:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by Billy T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you Christop H and Roy. When I was working a full time job and alot of overtime my hubby always helped me share the household duties and so did my blessed 14 year old son. When he was working and I had the time I would mow the grass, clean the flower bed, bath the dogs, and wash the cars! I always did not think that marriage was a one way street. Maybe that was why are marriage has lasted for 43 years...!!!!
2006-12-19 13:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Carol H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be careful with your generalizations. I work from home and my wife outside the house. I take care of our 9 week old daughter. I do the laundry, the dishes, give baths to the dog, take care of the two cats. We share cooking and other cleaning chores. I think if you are finding men who are stuck in eras past stereotypes, you need to keep looking for a better person to be your partner.
2006-12-19 12:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by Christopher L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are generalizing. I am a man and I do most of the work here including the yard work, cleaning, cooking, laundry and I have even built my own kitchen adn remodeled most of the house myself. Find a better man! if both parties have a job then both should do the housework.
2006-12-19 14:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by acwitte_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same reason why women let their men do all the back-breaking job at construction sites so that she can have a roof to sleep under, food on the table and able to buy that cute $100 dress at Macy's.
2006-12-19 12:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at my house i help her and some times i do the cooking especially if she is feeling bad. I feel very guilty if my wife does all the house work and i'm not trying to make points with you either. Its nothing but right not to treat you wife like a slave.
2006-12-19 12:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I continuously have a tendency to do stuff like that, no matter if i'm at a buddy's abode. i develop into raised that if i'm being welcomed right into a persons' abode that I could a minimum of grant to help with some thing, from washing dishes to easily determining on up after myself. Your brother's female friend may no longer were raised this way, or fairly probable doesn't experience like she's that far into the relationship to take that type of initiative. Your brother may no longer ideas the undeniable truth that she doesn't grant to help around the abode. If he does in spite of the undeniable fact that, and he's complaining about it to you, then he's going about fixing this the incorrect way. He desires to inform her that at the same time as he loves having her with him in his abode, he feels that considering that she's no longer taking initiative to maintain their abode so as, then he's worried that this is a hallmark that she may no longer be as prone to artwork at improving and strengthening their relationship. it truly is basic common sense. the point is, in spite of the undeniable fact that, that this would worsen you that she's no longer assisting; in spite of the undeniable fact that it's not your difficulty. do not sweat it. Your brother will cope with this at the same time as he's waiting to. contained in the propose time, merely concentration on your relationship inclusive of your boyfriend.
2016-11-27 21:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone was willing to do all the work, wouldn't you let them?
2006-12-19 12:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by bon b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because their lazy by nature. look at the lions, who does the hunting....lioness
2006-12-19 12:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by pooks2825 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋