I meet this gy about 3 years ago. he was nice till we started living together about 6 months ago. We have a little gril together and he says hes not going no where becuase of her, and im not going to ever leave him because of my little gril . He is over controling on anything to what to say to what to do . Can not talk to no one just my mom. I can not be like this no more , but he wont leave . what can i do ?
2006-12-19 11:48:28 · 16 answers · asked by lluvia n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, first of all you should have been married before having a child...secondly if the house or apartment is in his name or in both of your names all you can do is move out yourself as he has a legal right to be there.
If that is the case, move back home for awhile and get a restraining order against him. See an attorney and file for child support, and be a little smarter in your next relationship...be married before you bring anymore children into the world.
2006-12-19 11:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom what's going on. What he's doing could escalate into abuse. It has all the earmarks of it anyway. You NEED to leave NOW. Call an attorney after you get out so you can protect yourself and your little girl. You can't do this on your own. If your Mom can't or won't help go to a women's shelter. They will help you. You sound scared in your question. If you are scared that tells you everything you need to know.
2006-12-19 12:11:36 · answer #2 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had planned to say something glib like "Bring the new one over for dinner.." but it actually sounds like a nasty situation. Some men with control issues can be violent when crossed. I would suggest getting you and baby out of there before it gets any worse. Sadly, it almost always gets worse in this situation. Be safe. See if you can stay with mom for a while or get a roommate. Do not try to argue or rationalize if you are truly done, you need to get away.
2006-12-19 11:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by daisyjzmum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not a new problem over 50% of women have the same problem. Does he work if so check around ur town for information on apartments if u can afford it. if not go sign up at ur local human resoures agency or just simply move in with ur family. This is the reason woman need to be very educated and not just stay home and bare foot and pregent.
2006-12-19 11:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by drewdog65 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest to him either he goes or your going and taking the little girl with you. I know in the state I live in, even if the fathers name is given to the child on the birth certificate he still has to go to court and for legal records admit to being the father and either do a paternity test or waive it in the courts. Then he becomes a legal parent with rights. I suggest you call the courts and ask them how to handle the situation. OR a family practice attorney in the phone book does free counsel then they can give you legal advise for your state. You can also look in the phone book for legal aide as they might be able to help you out too. Best of luck to you.
I just went through this with my son and his daughter. To be honest with you it was for legal parental rights in the event something should happen to his girl friend, he would automatically have full parental custody of his daughter if the mother should become unable to care for her or worse pass away. He did it to protect his rights, even though they live together he wanted it to be in the courts he was her biological father and had parental rights to her first and foremost. They have joint custody of her at this time. Just wanted to share some personal experience with you. So check it out and protect your asses ts
2006-12-19 12:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
open a new bank account and stash away money. Open up or store your things that are most important to you in storage. Copy his paychecks, bank statements, know his social security number. Make sure you have legal custody of your daughter through the court or else he could take her anywhere he wants. After you leave, go for child support.
2006-12-19 12:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jay Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both love your daughter and would rather stay for her so try to work out the problems, let him know you need to have friends of your own besides your mother that way his daughter will be able to make friends too and have a life.
2006-12-19 11:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to an attorney and figure out what your rights are. Don't tell your boyfriend what your up to and your plans are, and try to make things as normal as you can. Don't argue with him or cause drama and be smart.
2006-12-19 11:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prob. bcause he dosent opt to loose that comradeship and mayb if ur shifting he htinks ll in no way c eachother lower back mayb its purely a twist of fate that hes shifting 2 the comparable place.
2016-10-18 12:26:22 · answer #9 · answered by bridgman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are 2 possiable ways demand he moves out or gather enough cash to leave take your little girl and leave
2006-12-19 11:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by Tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋