Okay, I am a teenager and pregnant. I'm frankly so fed up with people trying to tell me what to do with my life, Yes I understand I am young and everybody is trying to protect me but I am sick of hearing, adoption, you ruined your life and negative remarks like that. So now my parents are nagging me to go to some party with my old best friend, being thrown for her grandmother, and they biggest over controlling, Hippocrates that you will ever meet in your life, that I have been avoiding this whole 7 1/2 months. I know right when I walk into that house all I will here is, you are stupid, irrational and too young. When over half of their family are drug users and cant even rise their own children. I'm scared I will end up getting into a argument with these people and ruining the whole night. Am I being immature? should I just listen to these stressful,hurtful words?Or not stand for it anymore, and just not go? I cant take anymore of this before I loose it.
2006-12-19 11:45:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Why would you want to be around such worthless people as you have described?? If you are mature enough to keep your child, as you indicate... then walk away, take whatever is said with a pinch of salt... and prove them all wrong by being the best mother possible!
2006-12-19 11:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is everyone thinks its thier business when you become pregnant esspecially at a young age. I dunno how old you are nor would I tell you you were wrong. Yes it was irresponsible for you to become pregnant. Becuz obviously you weren't ready for this. But I am in the same boat there though I am 22. Sometimes things happen. The most responsible thing you can do from now on is what you are doing. You are accepting that what you did wasn't the smartest thing but since you made the decision to have unprotected sex you are dealing with the out come. Theres nothing that can be done now. And I believe asking any women whatever her age to gve up her child if she truely loves it...is wrong. Its no one elses business but you and who you want it to bes. Thats the way I see it. So no don't let people treat you badly. I believe what you are doing is one of the hardest thing a young woman will have to face. Or really any single woman. Becoming a parent is hard, becoming a single parent is harder, becoming a single young parent has to be the hardest. Keep your head up and know that no matter what you are doing the right thing.
2006-12-19 12:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kimi is 31 weeks 1/7 w/#2! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to put your foot down, your parents can not force you to go.
When it comes to people saying you are ruining your life ignore them, be the bigger person and walk away. If the people who are putting you down had an education and were bright they would know that thousands of youn mothers go on to graduate high school and even go to college.
I had a baby at 17 and everyone said I ruined my life but here I am now 19 and in college and im about to buy a convertible mustang so gee my life is really ruined isnt it???
2006-12-19 12:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha ha I have da similar difficulty except I have 2 wrk wiv da 30 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous dat fancies me like im basically 16! i tried tellin him that and that i had a b/f and he nonetheless didnt get the point even if I instructed him 2 piss of and leaf me on my own yet a minimum of hes given up phoning me about 6 circumstances on a saturday nighgt after ive performed a shift with him LOL u imagine youve were given complications get a lady chum to come back round and pretend shes ur g/f dat may get the pint accross
2016-11-30 23:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just say whatever you need to hon. And for your information you didnt "ruin" your life you just added to it a little earlier than most. You really dont have to listen to people tell you that you are stupid(most likely untrue anyway) or irrational( everyone makes mistakes just most of them arent as visable as yours) and yes while you are probably too young who is to say that(you may be more grown up than some of the so called grown ups). Good luck with your little sweet one and may whatever God you believe in bless you.
2006-12-19 12:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you're coming from with this. Sometimes it feels better to stay away from people because you know they'll always have something rude to say, or they will try to bring you down. I thin kyou should not go to the party if you know they're gonna work your nerves. Remeber that the most important person right now is your baby, and by getting frustrated you are hurting him.
2006-12-19 13:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mermaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anyone says anything, just tell them that you are aware you are young, but you are still fully capable of raising your child and being a good mother. Just because you are a teenager has nothing to do with your ability to care for your child. Lots of people just dont know how to keep their mouths shut and keep their opinions to themselves. If you dont think you can handle it, then just tell your parents exactly how you are feeling and that you are very emotional right now and dont think you can deal with it. Good Luck.
2006-12-19 11:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a way tough situation. Sorry that you have to go through all that drama. I am pregnant too and I know how anything can stress you out. Just tell people that you don't need the stress right now. Don't act like your guys' lifes are so perfect. Because you know that they aren't. Mabey you shouldn't go to that thing because you know it will just stress you out and you don't need that right now. Im sorry!!
2006-12-19 12:08:59 · answer #8 · answered by I love my kids! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you...some what. I got pregnant and I was young, but now I'm married and life is great! When I was pregnant my parents weren't very happy and they were kinda rude to me too but now that I have the baby they adore him! They couldn't be any happier! I don't know what to really tell ya, but it's different when you have the baby.
2006-12-19 12:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by Kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are making the right choice by keeping your baby, its up to you, go to the party and ignore what other people say its your life and you have not ruined your life bye getting pregnant and you should have been more careful but at least your willing to raise this child and give it the best that you can,, better then other young girls who would kill there unborn child,,
2006-12-19 12:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋