Since me and my bf got back together,i can`t trust him.For instance he`s going out on friday after work for drinks,he works in a call centre and obviously there`s lots of girls,some he is friendly with,anyway he says he`s going out with guys and no girls will be there and before we split i would have believed him and trusted him 100% but i just cant.
he has changed since we got back together just small things like eyes up girls on tv etc,this doesn`t bother me but it`s just something he didn`t used to do before.
I really want for us to be happy and i want to learn to trust him again but he really hurt me when he left me and our son and i think i`m too scared to let myself feel happy incase it happens again.I don`t know if he wants to be here or if he loves me,he says he does but he said that before we split so i dont know if he`s being truthful anymore.
This is really getting me down and i`ve nw got it into my head that he`s just waiting till after xmas so he can go again,HELP
2006-12-19 11:40:16 · 12 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to make a choice here hun - you either put these doubts to the back of your mind and try and work on being happy with him or you go with your gut feeling and leave him.
You cant live life with doubts about how hes going to be around other girls - men are going to come into contact with them every day for the rest of their lives!!!
Why dont you talk to him - just tell him that you're feeling a bit insecure and could he reassure you that hes in this for the longhaul and that you two can make this work again.
He's probably not even as bad as you think - just that you're analysing everything he does now when it comes to looking at tv etc etc etc - you just never noticed it the first time round! Your mind could be playing games on you babes - over analysing everything.
You do need to sort it out though as you'll drive yourself crazy otherwise. Good luck xx
2006-12-19 20:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he leaves you again, you will live through it. Many women have gone through the same thing and they are still alive to tell about it. I bet you were doing just fine when he left the first time. I bet you and your child were making it on your own? Looking at girls on the tv is a guy thing. All men do it, even my husband, and its just the way they are. I have been with my husband for 12 years and we have been married for 7 years, we have an 11 year old son. At first my hubby was just with me because of our son, but now after all these years I know he loves me. Even men in perfectly great marriages have wondering eyes.
Best wishes. I hope everything works out for you. Happy Holidays.
2006-12-19 11:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 23:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you guys split the first time? Are you comfortable with yourself? and Why do you think he'll leave you after Christmas?
Once you answer those questions, write them down and read them. You'll solve your own problem!
2006-12-19 12:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by goodgrleason 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If all your thinking is he's gonna leave again then you will never trust him. Have you tried to sit with him and tell him your fears? That might help you if you hear what his opinion on it is.If he doesn't have one then your just setting yourself up for failure
2006-12-19 11:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by Red Rebel 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess you'll have to wait till the holidays pass to see if he's truthful.Try to trust him again and if he does something to offend your trust brake up with him. 2chances is enough chances.
2006-12-19 11:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by brandy538 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to try to trust him or there is no point in having a relationship with him, push your insecurities aside a give him a chance, you could spend your whole life worrying.
2006-12-19 12:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by tireoghain2004 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to your pastor. He can counsel you & guide you.
God Bless!
2006-12-19 12:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No trust, no relationship.
2006-12-19 12:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can't live your life thinking what if, either trust him or leave him
2006-12-19 11:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋