Well...I have been with this guy for 6 years and all of a sudden he started to accuse me seeing someone at my work, which I'm not doing, I guess thats what a boyfriend thinks when your always at work, so I kicked him out and now he wants to change by taking counseling and rehab. PEOPLE tell me that they had seen him with his ex-wife and another lady, I really don't know who to believe any more, unless I see him with my own eyes.
2006-12-19 11:34:28 · 11 answers · asked by Diana L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Youve been with a guy for 6 years and you arent married to him? NO you should not even give this guy another minute of your life! Go find a nice man who will respect you and marry you.
2006-12-19 11:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sister, if he can't commit by marrying you after six years, then he never will, and he is not worth it. If there is no basis for him to believe that you are cheating, then he is probably guilty of it. Now if you work late alot or, go to luch or dinner with co-workers, than that could be a basis for jealousy, otherwise, I would think that maybe you should find out what he is doing, before you even consider taking him back.
2006-12-19 19:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know from personal expierence that if a guy starts accusing you of cheating it probably means that he is the one doing the cheating. I was seeing this guy for 5 months, things were going good and then he started accusing me of cheating behind his back with a good friend of mine. We had been hanging out prior to that with no issues, and I wasn't. Come to find out, he was the one doing the cheating, with my brother's girlfriend no less. I caught them going at it on our couch one day. I dumped him on the spot and he tried to convince me later that it was a mistake and to take him back. I didn't and I'm glad i didn't because those two got married and she ended up leaving him after a couple of months after catching him with another girl. I would dump him and move on.
2006-12-19 19:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by unicorn18_98 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would move on and find someone else. I have had a similar experience with someone that did not trust me. No matter what approach I took, the trust issue was always there. It was a miserable existance, and, while I cared for the person deeply, I felt much better having moved on.
2006-12-19 19:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by Ron H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you. If you think you will be happier without him, then just move on - it does sound like he has some issues. If you love him and want to work it out, then tell him he has to go to rehab, attend AA/NA, and go to counseling in order for you to even consider staying with him.
2006-12-19 19:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rehab from what? Don't rely on what he says, rely on what he does and verify very carefully. Do you not believe the people who saw him with his ex and another lady?
2006-12-19 19:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before u take him back u need to find out if he was with other woman, it is actually simple ask him, tell him that if he wants u to take him back that u guys have to be honest to each other, and tell him that u want u guys to be very happy, and u want a fresh start.....see what he tells u and take it from there.
Is he usually good for u? Does he respect you, and love u ?
or does he take u for granted? this are things that only u can know!!!!
Good luck in whatever path u follow.
Happy Holidays
2006-12-19 19:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
RED FLAG...run.....quickly! Rehab?
2006-12-19 19:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by kmoc123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he may be projecting--accusing you of cheating because he's the one doing it. you kicked him out for a reason, let him stay on the curb & get picked up with the rest of yesterdays trash.
2006-12-19 19:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him. sounds like he is trying to find excuses to either dump you or to get you to dump him. why don't women demand respect from their men? nobody deserves to be treated like that - I say dump him now.
2006-12-19 19:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by Pandora 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋