While I give my friend lots of credit for having the nerve to pull off clothes that most of us wouldn't wear even if we had Giselle's body, I find that sometimes I am embarrassed for her by how she dresses. Even in professional environments, she tends to choose mini-skirts, plunging v-necks, stilettos, backless tanktops, and belly-skimming baby dolls. As is, these types of clothing seem to be questionable for most average-sized women, I feel that with her body type, they should be further avoided. Her boobs fall out of her tops, her belly fat oozes from the waistband, she falls and snaps the heels of her shoes frequently, and at the beach, you can barely see her thong because it's overlapped by rolls of fat. How do I (diplomatically) tell her she needs to reconsider her sense of style of which she is so proud of?
2006-12-19 11:34:15 · 18 answers · asked by jennifer k 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
You don't tell her. She is allowed to wear whatever she wants. Personally I feel the same way you do but the bottom line is you are not her mother...besides she is an adult. You either need to accept her for who she is or stop being her friend. It's her choice. If the rest of us are grossed out by it that is our problem.
2006-12-19 11:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
No this clothing is not flattering on any woman. She would be much better off wear clothes that leave something to the imagination. They look better and more often then not look more attractive or sexier, which from your description seems how your friend is trying to dress, then her current style. I would suggest that the next time you go shopping with her you find nice clothes and when she tries it on tell it how good it looks on her. I would really emphasis it. This might lift her self esteem a little and make her realize that she can be beautiful for who she is. If that doesn't work I would suggest being blunt with her. If you are true friends you should be able to tell her the truth and she will know that you are only saying it for her own good and because you love her. If you don't want to do that I suggest calling "What Not To Wear." I hope that this helps.
2006-12-19 11:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by meganpie87 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Seriously, obese people probably feel depressed enough about their size without you telling them that their clothing is not acceptable. You will just make her feel even worse and she will probably try to console herself by comfort eating, further exascerbating the problem. If she is your friend, you should accept her how she is. You said you feel embarrassed by the way she dresses, so the problem only really lies with you. Maybe you should take a long hard look in the mirror before you feel it is okay to judge other people's choices.
HTH : )
2006-12-20 09:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really, it's her decision on what she is going to wear. If she's comfortable doing this, whether you find it appropriate or not, it's her choice. You could maybe nicely mention your thoughts to her or I even like the idea of taking photos of her in the revealing outfits and showing them to her, but if she chooses not to listen then just leave it alone. I personally don't think anyone should wear blatantly revealing clothing and look like a slut, big, skinny, or otherwise.
2006-12-19 13:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody should dress like that. Sorry, it sounds slutty no matter who you are. People say it's her life, your not her mother, but you are her friend. A true friend would say something even though it's hard to do. Not to mention the embarrassment you must feel when your out with her. But you don't want to hurt her if you can help it. I like the idea of commending her when she dresses appropriately. Other times though, I would tell her something like, 'You know, it's great that your so confident but, I don't want people to get the wrong impression of you because of how much you reveal.' I hope this was helpful.
2006-12-19 11:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by ec_chica08 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Have you considered not saying anything at all? You never know how she will be affected. If she has never asked your opinion on how to dress before this maybe she feels your opinion doesn't matter. You shouldn't done people for what they think they look good in. If you must say something why not suggest that she turn it down a little.
2006-12-19 11:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by m W 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2017-02-09 04:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply reward her for dressing sensibly. When she wears something appropriate then say somehting like, well that looks nice.
2006-12-19 11:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by smile 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her that she should try some more conservetive clothing but she doesnt have to totaly cover up. maybe wear clothes that are actually her size or something.(that is if she wears ones that are to small.)
2006-12-19 23:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Liv 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it it tastfully done just because a woman is bigger doenst mean hide every inch, also you dont want things falling out either
2006-12-19 11:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by BRANDY 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋