I had sex with my foreign housemate from Poland. But I told her I just want to be friends and that I'm not ready for a relationship. Now she's crying and crying and she hates me and I'm a male pig. Which I suppose is true. I suppose I deserve this, don't I? What the heck do I do?!
2006-12-19 11:18:01 · 15 answers · asked by Sexual Jesus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well not to much u can do now except learn from your mistake..Hopefully after a while she will calm down and you can go back to how ever things were before?
2006-12-19 11:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The heart wants what the heart wants. Be honest with your boyfriend and don't hide anything from him. I don't know why you would be meeting other guys to begin with if you're in a relationship but it looks like you're in quite a hole. I don't know how old you are or how old the people are involved but you could be goin too fast because you've only known him for a week. I mean I don't really belive in love at first site. You haven't gotten to know him very well yet and if he has already gotten another girl pregnante that's not really the kind of mess you want to get into especially if your younger and don't have kids of your own. Life's too short to spend all you time tryin to mend a broken heart or try and make something work when it's not meant to be. Think hard about it and decide whether or not you want to give this guy a try, or if he's really worth all of this.
2016-05-22 22:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably shouldn't of had sex. This person for Poland most likely wasn't acustumed to the society of America where people who have sex don't end up together. She seems to be used to where she is from and having sex actually MEANS something.
I would give you help, but i haven't figured out a way to reconcile with people i have hurt badly. Sometimes when people are this hurt they choose never to forgive. So, time seems to be the only solution. Telling her why you did this to her and how now you see that this was not good and stuff would definitely help, or at least not make it much if any worse.
If she is not orignially from the US, she might have simply assumed that sex had meaning to it and that it is not just for pleasure as it is so often abused in America.
Good Luck fixing this, you will DEFINITELY need luck and the grace of God to help this problem fix rapidly.
2006-12-19 11:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by baller750 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you do deserve it.
I'm thinking that she liked you... a lot.
There are two things:
1. When you both had sex, she assumed the feelings were mutual and was looking forward to a happy relationship with you.
2. She thinks you just used her for sex.
Ask yourself, why DID you have sex with her?
Do you like her? That night, were you just looking for a good time? Do you see yourself in a relationship with her?
Dont kick yourself for it, you've realised that your in the wrong & you've hurt her, thats a good thing. Plus everyone makes mistakes.
This is an arkward situation for the both of you, I suggest you sit down with her and try talk to her. Explain how you feel about her, what made you want to have sex with her that night, why you just want to be friends?
She needs and deserves an explanation.
Feel free to PM me if you need to talk.
2006-12-19 11:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, you sure did mess up, it will probably come down to one of you having to move, and that was really bad of you. Could you not find anyone on the street?? Yes you do deserve this and more I think you need to think with the head on your shoulders instead of the other one!!
2006-12-19 11:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I don't think you deserve it at all. You were honest, and she had sex with you knowing there was no committment or anything there. I would just let things calm down for a while, keep some distance.
2006-12-19 11:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You pig
now apologize over some dinner and tell her for her best interest dont believe a word u say
your dumb*ss mistake tell her most men like this...
u will proably end up falling for her... LOL
2006-12-19 11:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's ur house mate, you like her as a friend, you had sex with her....take it to the next level and get married.
2006-12-19 11:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming she is an adult. As an adult, she is responsible for her own actions. If you did not make any promises before hand, you owe her nothing and she should expect nothing. If she does, it is her problem.
2006-12-19 11:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lucky, thoes polish chicks r hott, i know a girl from poland and she could be a model. whats the risk in dating her anyway? you already had sex with her
2006-12-19 11:23:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋