Alright so I asked my mom if I could have someone to talk to you know like a counselor because I was dealing with a lot of issues. So she got me a therapist at first the reason why I was going was clear I'm kinda anxious and went through something. But now its all turned against me and apparently this crazy broad (therapist) is trying to tell my mom that I'm an alcoholic and really freaking her out. Shes printing off all these papers about where I am and how its affecting my life yada yada yada. well one- I never went there for a drinking problem and two- I dont have a drinking problem!! So now I'm thinking about calling it quits with the therapy.. should I?
2006-12-19 11:04:34 · 10 answers · asked by babi_gurl1669 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
what exactly did u tell this therapist. did u tell her u drink everyday or something. she had to come up with that conclusion from somewhere.
another thing a therapist is soppose to keep things confidential. if u asked to see her than that means u want help and seeking it from her. u need a new therapist.
2006-12-19 11:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are 100% positive that she's not right - it's hard to be honest about ourselves. That being said, even if you are under 18, your therapist should have made it very clear at the beginning what would be confidential and what would be disclosed to your mom. If you don't trust your therapist, and you are not comfortable with the dynamic, quit going. You may be under 18, but you're not stupid, and you have the right to be treated with respect. I don't know your therapist, but just because someone has a degree, doesn't mean they are always right. It may seem like a lot right now, but try someone else. A good therapist is worth their weight in gold. Good luck!
2006-12-19 20:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by yellowbugchickoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you must have given her the idea that you were an alcoholic somehow. try to think back on all your conversations about alcohol and remember what you said. maybe you have a drinking problem and you just don't realize it, that happens all the time. maybe you don't have a drinking problem, you just said something that a lot of alcoholics say. if either of your parents drink or do drugs, you have the addiction gene which means you are very likely to become an addict. this may be what's worrying your therapist. if you honestly can't think of anything you said that seems like something an alcoholic would say, just ask your therapist why she thinks you have a problem.
2006-12-19 19:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't liking your therapist, then find a new one. Your therapy will fail if you don't have a good relationship with the counselor.
I would also be concerned about confedentiality issues. Even if you are a minor, this therapist doesn't sound very trustworthy if she is telling your mother things without your consent. There are only a few situations where counselors are obliged to break confidentiality, including suicide and the abuse of vulnerable populations.
2006-12-19 19:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kotori Shizukesa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, some therapists can be crazier than the people they councel. Sometimes they hear a someone with a lot of stress in their lives and because the therapist would behave a certain way under the circumstances you are living in, they believe you would. The therapist would drink, have illicit sex, spend money beyond their means, use drugs, etc and they project their methods of dealing with stress onto you.
REMEMEBER, most people who get into the shrink business, are really there to try to figure themselves out. Very few psychologists are worth their weight in feathers. A few, such as Doctor Phil actually have a clear head but most do not.
Statistics show that Psychiatrists have the number one suicide rate of any profession...think many times over before visiting one with your personal problems...better to confide in a friend or relative or find Dr. Phil. If you're not crazy when you go in, you'll certainly be crazy when you come out!
Find you a different therapist...most are NUTS but very arrogant.
Here's a case in fact.
I was hired as an audience sheel...someone who pretends to be part of the audience but is really part of the show and would sit at the bar and make friendly with the customers...when the show started, I'd clap and hoot and volunteer to participate.
The show members would pick me to run up on stage to "compete" with "Elvis the Pelvis" and I'd always win.
On this particular day, I sat at the bar with a woman who was alone and said she was a psychologist and gave me her business card as she thought everyone "needed help". I made friendly with her, bought her a drink and when the show started, I was my normal extroverted self. The psychologist thought I was so emotionally stable and outgoing...she gave me a clean bill of health.
I "volunteered" to do my show, "won" $100 and acted excitted while everyone chanted my name. The "shrink" thought I was so cool until I told her, that it was staged and gave the $100 back to the bartender as I was paid to do this and didn't take the money as I was in the show again later and it was revealed that I was a sheel.
This Shrink was so horrified at having been tricked she paid her tab and walked out of the bar angry. She was terribly unstable, drank too much, spent money she didn't have, couldn't take a joke and was so arrogant to think she couldn't be tricked. Point made.
Hang in there sweetie, there are people to talk to about your problems but I'd choose a bartender over a shrink. I know too many shrinks on a social level and wouldn't tell them anything too serious as most of them stress out easy.
2006-12-19 19:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The therapist is not allowed due to confidentiality laws to discuss anything that goes on in your sessions. With the exception of threats of suicide or homicide, or illegal activities, or harm to yourself or others. If you are under age and drinking this could be an issue. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-19 19:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask the therapist what the laws are regarding what she can and can't tell your mom. Research this first, so you know if she's lying, and bust her if she is. Tell her you'll file a complaint with whatever governing body is in charge of giving out licenses.
2006-12-19 19:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Sugarshots 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is illegal for a therapist to be telling your Mom ANYTHING. You have COMPLETE confidentiality when talking to a therapist. What she is doing is against the law and you could strip her of her degree if necessary.
2006-12-19 19:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing her. She should be helping you work through your problems, not labelling you. I had a similar problem, and I haven't seen her since.
2006-12-19 19:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by KristaElizabeth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is illegal for her to tell your mom those things, you should report her. You can find a different one as well.
2006-12-19 19:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by Brandy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋