Should I get a boyfriend?

Question

I am 15 years old and I have never before had a boyfriend.
I spend all my time on schoolwork, chores, and working in my parents business. I am pretty tired of the routine and when I'm bored I don't do anything but read. I am a very shy person and as everyone in my family is always busy I have started feeling lonely since the summer. I spend time with friends but they have things to do of their own. So now I think If I shoud get a boyfriend HOW?

Answer 1

Why everyone around you (people at school or friends) thinks you "should" get a boyfriend,I think you'd be fine without one.You sound like you're a hard worker,and you make sure you're doing your best.

If you want a boyfriend,then get one.I'm shy,too,and it was always a struggle with guys and still is.I just smile and flirt when they talk to me.If you like someone,ask them out.I found out the hard way that if (sometimes) you don't make the first move,they never will.

I liked this guy named Dustin,and I was pretty sure he liked me,too.I kept looking at him,and he'd look back.I thought he might ask me out,but to my surprise,he never did EVER throughout the year.Even though I knew he liked me,I wasn't ready to ask him out.I was just way too shy.I let my shyness kiss all my crushes goodbye.

Eventually,I saw all the people I wanted to date most find other girlfriends.Then,I realized it was all my fault.I had the perfect chance,and instead of just overcoming my fear,I just let the people feel free to move on with other people.

I KNOW how shy you are.I am the exact same way.I used to tell my mom and sister that I was the shyest person on Earth.Which,I still think I am.I overcame my fear,though,and also realized that some guys did like me,but were too afraid to ask because of rejection.They said they didn't ask 'cause I didn't act interested.Right then,I knew my shyness had caused me to look uninterested in people that I really did have feelings for.

I decided to change my whole attitude.Don't be insecure 'cause the people around you can sense that,and guys don't like insecure girls.Just go out there,and flirt and smile.Smiles draw attention to people.If you look happy with yourself,other people will be happy with you.If you look uninterested 'cause of shyness,people will see that you are so-called uninterested.

It's hard,I know,and I faced this problem many times,but I just let go this year.I've been asked out WAY more times,and I've even had a couple boyfriends.I realized that opening up also gave me more friends.I hope everything works out.Good luck!

P.S~Always put school work before guys.Also remember that friends and family come first as well.

~*~*Happy Holidays!*~*~

Answer 2

I don't think you should be worrying about a boyfriend yet. You're only 15. A relationship takes a lot of work, but, more importantly, the people involved need to be secure in themselves before they go adding another person in the mix. There are too many people who miss this important part, and end up going through one relationship after another looking for Mr./Mrs. right. Get settled in knowing who you are, or who you want to be. Find out what you like and don't like, so in a few years, you will know exactly the type of person that will compliment you. No matter how mature you may be now, your personality is changing and the time you spend observing youself and other relationships around you will pay off in the future. You will save a lot of headaches. I know it may be hard, especially if everybody around you are hooking up, but believe me, you're not missing anything. Find yourself some good friends, male and female, and enjoy your youth.

Answer 3

Why a boyfriend? Do you have any friends? If you want one get one but not because you are bored. You sound very together and young. Whatever you decide I hope it works out for you. Don't be shy because you only live once make the most of it. Best of luck!

Answer 4

Get a boy friend, it may not be what you are really looking for but you are apparently thinking about it. Give it a try.

Answer 5

You can't just go out there and find a BF! Someone has to come along and like you... then you like them.. and then you have one. Let time take its toll.... and just float.