I know this would be easier and you would have a different answer if you knew him but what do you do when your boyfriend messed up alot and you broke up alot but you really think he is different now? he gives you his password, tells you that you can call anytime. We are engaged now and he does seem different this time even my friend thinks so because she hangs out with us sometimes. When we break up he does tell different girls at a time he loves them but he tells them we are engaged now and have a baby on the way. If a girl calls his cell phone and i'm with him he tells them he is with his girlfriend. Should i just tell him he really does need help? What do i do? I wanna be with him. He is with me 24/7 except tonight he went to a concert but i didn't want to go because i don't like that music and i am sick. Do you think getting help will work? if he loved me, he wouldn't have had spent all the money on me for the ring. I have lots of proof he really did buy it the other night. HELP!
2006-12-19 10:46:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If he is changed, tell him to change his number so the girls wont call. Talk about moving in together. You are having a baby now, he needs to step up as a father and future husband. He needs to make you the priority. That includes not going to concerts with out you. You shouldn't go anyways because you're pregnant. If he does all of this, then you should stay. If he refuses to change his number, move in etc... you need to tell him you don't feel like he hasn't changed. Ultimately the option of staying together is up to you. You can't have a rocky relationship with a baby on the way. The baby will change it all, baby's are hard to take care of and relationship problems will add to the stress. You are pregnant, you don't need stress. If you need assistance, you can get medicaid or wic.....( or both!) Good luck.
2006-12-19 11:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heather, the very fact that you asked this question tells me that you are in big trouble with this guy. You don't trust him (why would you?) and I suspect that the reason you say you think he's changed is because you want to believe that he has. That's understandable, since you're pregnant! But to answer your question, no, I doubt that he has changed or will change. Most people don't.
2006-12-20 18:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! getout before you get married or have any kids. He is probably not at a concert. He knows you could not go so why not have fun why you are sick and plus he knows he can do what he wants and you will always forgive him. He is going to have the perfect marriage while you are alway in doubt.
2006-12-19 18:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think he needs help, i think YOU need help. ok so your boy messed up a thousand times, WHO'S the one that is STILL with him?!?!?!? youre saying he changed, so then stop living in the past if you really want this to work. he's obviously working hard to make this all up to you and youre trying to ruin it! if you dont trust him then why be with him! you knew what you were getting into when you got back with him for what?? like the billionth time i bet! so suck it up and be a woman to take action for your own decisions!
2006-12-19 18:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by Chikana24/7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im afread that he sounds like a user and he is showering you in all these presents and compliments just becouse he is feeling guilty for what hes doing,i may be wrong but this is my honest apion as i am a male i think you should take this in to concederation best of luck to you,take care
2006-12-19 19:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by garfieldphillip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but he is using you. I would get rid of him in a heartbeat. Talk to a psychiatrist but he exhibits the signs of a user and (later on) abuser. Be careful.
2006-12-19 18:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by TioDice70 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW...you've hit the jackpot! Sounds like a keeper to me!
2006-12-19 19:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by socal pal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋